Birds and Bee's?

[ButterflyForever]

Not sure if this is posted in the right place.

Question for those of you who have older kids. Just wondered when you did the whole birds and the bees talk with your kids. How did you approach it?
Not looking forward to it, and at the mention of it dh has gone into hiding

Thanks,

[diva det]

hmm i am interested in this answer too- my twins are now 8 years old and DH has gone into denial that they are growing up . they are well due for 'the talk' but wondering what others did/do!!

[nothing2lose]

I was having this discussion the other day with a few people. My DD (now 9) has always known. What I mean is I have always told her the absolute truth (in age appropriate language and terms) how babies are made. So she's grown up knowing.

Recently I was very shocked to learn a good friend of mine had not told her daughter (10yo) about how babies were made. She said her DD had absolutely no idea that reproduction involved both a man and a woman. Personally, IMO, I think that is just wrong!

I dont see the point of "saving up" the discussion until they are a certain age. I would rather demistify it and treat it like the natural thing it is. I feel the same way about calling genitalia by its correct names too. After all, we dont use euphemisms with our children for our ears or ankles, why should we for vaginas or penises???

Anyway, just my two cents...

[onthefly]

I agree with n2l.
The other day, my DS told one of his daycare carers that his daddy made a baby in his mummy's tummy. IT's actually not strictly true in our case, but I thought I might save the science and technology for a later conversation.

[nothing2lose]

Lol MadB, yep, IVF is an entirely other conversation!!!! The birds and the bees and the beakers and the petri dishes.....

I'll admit, I havent discussed that one with DD (she isn't an IVF baby). The science is a bit complicated!

[Nai]

I think we have just been explaining in more detail and age appropriate language as the girls have gotten older and asked for more detail. They know Mummy & Daddy make a baby from an egg in Mummy's tummy and that baby comes out of Mummy's vagina or through a cut in Mummy's tummy in their case - they can see where they came out. As they ask how the baby gets into the tummy then I explain about the sex part. I expect that will be in the next few months or so.....