daughter has issues..sensitive child syndrome?

[1pj]

Hi Ladies,im at my wits end here and dont know what to do,i don't know whether to get my daughter checked or not,i feel I need advice and don't know where to go,its about my DD who will be 5 in febuary,shes always been a handful and lately im at my wits end,i feel so bad because I feel all I ever do is am grumpywith her or telling her off or getting stressed out!So when I say handful I don't mean naughty really,she has strange habits,or behaviour,she simply does not stop,for example with questions,she keeps asking questions constantly and I don't just mean why is the sky blue...really intense questions and constantly its driving me crazy,mum whats that man doing,mum why is he doing that?and keeps tapping me on the shoulder mum mum mum, sometimes the same question over even though ive answered her constantly and if I don't answer her(which after 40 questions in 2 minutes I sometimes nearly meltdown)she goes crazy crying and melt down,shes so sensitive to pretty much everything,noise,peoples feelings,lights,just EVERYTHING!she crys all the time about nothing,she sometimes aks her brother if hes her friend(hes nearly 2 and a half)over and over then crys if he says no(being silly)she keeps asking me things over and over mum can I have a drink ill be making it and shes still asked another 50 times mum are you making my drink??I don't know if shes unsure of herself or needy and sensitive or just plain demanding?i don't know how to handle the things anymore sometimes I feel shes doing things to make me loose it and sometimes its like she genuinely does it and then crys,its so hard to deal with it out too as people just looks when shes crying all the time and then my friends cant understand and some think shes just an awful child,i just don't know what to do any advice would be so much appreciated has anyone had anything like this?a few people suggested she might have scs sensitive child syndrome?but I just don't know where to start do I just take her to a normal doctor?

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

Sorry if this doesn't answer your question, found it hard to read your post.

I am reading that questions are annoying you because they are dealing with things you can't answer and she doesn't shut up ever, is that right? She is also crying a lot for reasons you don't understand, yes?

Can you teach her to work out the answers to her own questions? So when she asks "what's that man doing?", you could ask "what does it look like he is doing?" or "why do you think he is doing that?" I sometimes tell Liebling that a man is digging a hole to bury the fairy gold so that people don't steal it. Liebling does not like that answer so comes up with one more satisfying. Or we'll decide that is what he is doing and talk about what we would do with fairy gold.

Then she'll stop asking if you're making a drink because she has the reasoning skills to see that you are. (That and I answer with "no, I am doing a cartwheel while juggling fire" OWTTE when asked questions that do not ever need to be asked.)

Sounds like your DD is anxious about having the right answer all the time and is scared of things being "wrong", especially in overwhelming situations. May I ask if you ever get things wrong/make mistakes in front of your DD? What is your reaction to getting things wrong? What is your reaction when she has an accident, such as spilling a drink?

[Chocaholic]

First step for me would be to take her to a GP. Talk about your experiences. I would also keep a diary about what happens and how she reacts to show the GP.

They should refer you to someone that can help and if they don't, take her to another one who will listen.

Maybe look at parenting courses to see if there are some strategies that might be helpful in dealing with her behaviour.

[Sorka]

I would ask the GP about it first and then perhaps they will refer to a Peadiatrician or recommend a good child psychologist to talk to her. She sounds a lot like my son who suffers from an anxiety disorder. The constantly being right on top of you asking question after question. The need to be reassured about every little thing every step of the way. I got to the point of not even asking what DS wanted on his toast as the decision was too much for him. He just couldn't cope. Psychologist has been working with him now for nearly 5 years and helps a lot with strategies for daily situations. Deep breaths and perhaps when she asks questions try asking her 'what do you think?' And see if she can come up with her own answer. It can be so challenging and I totally understand where your coming from.

[Lenny]

I have never heard of sensitive child syndrome.
I agree with the other suggestions. Arm her with the ability to answer her own questions. She's still allowed to verbalise them, that's fine, she's still only very little. But give her the courage and confidence to see her own answers and know that having her own thoughts about it are ok and not right or wrong.

I am the parent of a child with anxiety. He is unable to watch ABC kids tv because he struggles with the issues that arise, and no matter how many times he sees Thomas the Tank engine end happily, he still cannot cope with the storyline. And he's nearly 6. So, some children just are more sensitive in some ways.

I can't see why anyone would think your darling daughter is awful. That's not a nice thing for someone to say to you. She might just be a child who needs to be helped with her emotions more than most children. But at least she is not holding the emotion in and she trusts you to share it with you and wants you to help and support her. Keep that up, then you don't have to worry about her internalising it all, and perhaps dwelling on it alone and in silence.

I needed the help of a child psychologist as I was struggling to support my DS with his anxiety. There is no harm in asking for help. I am much happier and calmer with him now and I am less concerned about his behaviour, and my reactions to him are more consistent and calmer now too.

[Sorka]

Lenny you reminded me if something when you said abut your little one being upset by ABC kids shows - my DS was the same. Couldn't watch Nemo because it was too scary and the same with old bugs bunny/ Daffy Duck cartoons. He's 10 now and still struggles with a lot and we filter everything we can especially news articles and conversations being held around him as he picks up on everything and then can't sleep for days for worrying. I remember when he was three and he cried and cried when he realised he was going to die one day Some kids do just need an extra helping hand.