I am so utterly embarrassed and ashamed at my behaviour today I completely and utterly lost it with DD. I screamed, yelled and smacked her
I am beyond desperate and really need some more strategies to deal with my DD's behaviour.
My 5 year old DD and has always been strong willed, stubborn, determined young lady who can throw whopper tantrums. Her tantrums result in her yelling, screaming, squealing, throwing things and herself around, she holds onto tables, doors, beds, our arms/legs screaming and crying, irritational behaviour and she is unable to calm herself down.
We have tried many different strategies;
- holding her til she calms down,
- placing her in her room to calm down,
- talking to her why her behaviour is unacceptable,
- ignoring the tantrum,
- asking her to go into another room until she calms down and then come back to talk to us
- rewarding her good behaviour,
- discipling her bad behaviour,
- praising ALL good behaviours no matter how little
- thanking her for ALL good behaviours
- she misses out on doing fun activities,
- she is removed from the area she is throwing a tantrum if doing it in public
- continue on with our day and if she doesn't stop throwing her tantrum and do what I ask she missed out on whatever we are doing next
No matter what we do it just escalates her tantrum. She just cannot calm herself down. We do not do any discipline when she is throwing a tantrum as it seems like she has no control over her behaviour.
She has started school this year and so far she has thrown two of these tantrums. They are so embarrassing for me as a parent and for her also. I am so worried about the impression she is making on the other parents and whether it is going to affect her making friends and being able to go to friends house. I am terrified she is going to be labelled. DD is a very busy child and has a short attention span so I am getting increasingly concerned she is going to get labelled showing this behaviour.
Her tantrums are getting worse and more frequent

I am not proud of myself at all with my behaviour today but I snapped and lost it. I just don't know what to do anymore. To be honest I'm mortified at my behaviour today - no mother should yell at their child the way I did today I am actually feeling sick to my stomach about it.

My DD is the most beautiful, wonderful, loving and caring little girl and I want everyone to know this little girl not the girl throwing these god awful, uncontrollable tantrums.

Please help. Any ideas/suggestions?

TIA,
Dan.