I have a question for all the lovely BB ladies out there.

In brief DD has a cousin who is 3 months younger. Baby B is a bit of a boof. She is a really well rounded baby who has quite a bit of strength behind her. She is moving around a lot more than DD and is really quite rough ... not deliberately rough she just doesn't know her own strength She smacks and bites you know the normal baby stuff but MIL and SIl do not pull her up on that behaviour.
When Baby B gets rough and upsets DD I move DD out of Baby B's reach which is now getting more difficult and she is practically walking.
MIL and SIL always tell DD to "hit her back", I tend to ignore them and just move DD.

BUT DD is starting to understand a lot more now, I don't accept rough play i.e smacking and biting others as being ok. I cannot seem to get through to MIL or SIL on other issues so I am wondering how others have handled situations where the OP is telling your child one thing that you feel is totally unacceptable?

If I was to say anything I am sure there would be snide remarks, scowls but I have tried to encourage DD to be gentle whenshe is with other kids/animals ... they seem to encourage rough play and a "get into it" attitude.

I know I am probably being a little precious but I don't want DD growing up thinking that violence is ok. I know there will be sibling spats when we have another kidlet but I hate they are encouraging thuggory! (if that is a word)

Sorry for the waffle seems all I do lately is grumble, DD is really grasping different things her level of understanding and fine motor skills really out weigh her physical development ATM.

How do others deal with a conflict of rules when it comes to family and your parenting practices?

Nae x