Important..Must Read This..

**leesha** · December 3rd, 2012, 07:18 PM

I read threads in here and think that sometimes what is said is not that supportive and that is not what BB is about.
I was reminded today and wanted to share

Being a good mother does not come from,
The way you give birth, breast or bottles.
It does not come from what nappies you use,
Or any of the other things that so many become obsessed with.
Obsessed to the point of attacking each other,
Or doubting ones own abilities.

Your children will not remember how they were born,
Or what milk they were fed,
Or what you wrapped their bottom in.

They will remember the kisses, cuddles and games of Peek A Boo,
Your warmth, smell and the safety they feel when they are with you.

But most of all they will LOVE YOU,
because YOU LOVE THEM.
That is what matters.

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**nothing2lose** · December 3rd, 2012, 07:20 PM

Amen to that! Thank you for posting

**emmjayt** · December 3rd, 2012, 08:10 PM

I love this. I didn't want to become a mum so that I could compete with others whether I was doing it "better". I hope like heck that I'm a good mum because my daughter is happy and healthy. That's all I really care about

**EsJay** · December 3rd, 2012, 08:19 PM

I love this, its so very true. We all need a little reminder now and again that none of it matters just love and enjoy your babies cos they arent babies for long x

**Three Graces** · December 4th, 2012, 06:46 AM

oh and a fridge full of food. That seems to matter most to my boys at present. Some days I think they'd take food over mummy's love!

Great thread, thanks for posting!

**Charlotte91** · December 4th, 2012, 07:05 AM

Oh, I saw that on Bottle Babies and Fearless Formula Feeders. Amazing post

**murraycod** · December 3rd, 2012, 08:17 PM

Author Unknown has made a valid point

**sahbear** · December 4th, 2012, 07:07 AM

*like!!!

**Kazzo** · December 4th, 2012, 07:09 AM

Thanks for posting this

**Frangipani Lou** · December 4th, 2012, 07:13 AM

Fantastic. Xo

**HotI** · December 4th, 2012, 07:53 AM

i am passionate about the way my baby was born, because my health, my baby's health and parenting was affected first time around when my birth was not so good.

i am enthusiastic about the way i feed my babies, cos it's not always easy or fun, but i believe it is best for them. i have friends who have had difficulty feeding their babies, and this has affected how they parent. Not due to the method of feeding, but because of their feelings surrounding feeding. Supporting them, even if things don't go as planned, can positively influence their parenting. Saying that it doesn't matter doesn't help the woman if she thinks that it does matter.

**Starfish** · December 4th, 2012, 09:37 AM

I agree with HotI - different things matter to different people and we need to respect this and not brush off others' concerns. But it is clear what the OP means, and I think it's a good message.

**PollyA** · December 4th, 2012, 11:24 AM

Your parenting choices can matter to you, the message is these kind of choices do not define "good" or "bad" parents

**Jaycee** · December 4th, 2012, 12:08 PM

Geez, some people will debate anything!

If you're passionate about your parenting choices, that's great. That's not what this thread is about.

The message here is that love is more important than anything. People should remember that.

**LuluHB** · December 4th, 2012, 12:24 PM

Its one of the greatest sadnesses I have found in motherhood that so many turn it into either an extreme sport or a cause, instead of just getting on with doing what you choose for your own family while supporting others in their choices, whether they would be your choice or not.

I think the OP's message is perfect - make your decisions from a place of love for your child and yourself and all will be good.

**leesha** · December 4th, 2012, 08:08 PM

Geez, some people will debate anything!

If you're passionate about your parenting choices, that's great. That's not what this thread is about.

The message here is that love is more important than anything. People should remember that.

Yep exactly the point of this thread

**Rouge** · December 4th, 2012, 08:18 PM

Ok that's enough. Thanks

You know what I'd like to see on BellyBelly? Everyone being able to express their opinion without it assumed to be a personal attack and second to that. Ignoring what you don't like. Instead of the need to flame others for their opinions. By doing that you are the one who makes it personal. Not the person with an opinion.

Play nice guys. Please