Curmpet - I didnt do the blanket thing but i conditioned charl to a babies cry by playing them on u-tube. I didnt fuss over max when charl was around so charl knew he was just like part of the furniture IYKWIM. I put up a gate at max's door and charl just ended up sleeping outside his room.... no gate.
oh thats a good idea.... i might down load some noises like that and play them randomly as well....

ive got all these "plans" of what ill do, hopefully it works!

im happy for them to come into her room if im there and to be near her if she is awake to sniff and stuff so i have to work out the best way to introduce them all so there is no jealousy issues.