Dd has just turned 4. She still doesn't go to sleep alone. DS is 6 & doesn't, so that's not really the issue.

Up til now I've always laid with dd & her hand had been down my shirt. While I played with her hair. I'm trying to slowly get them both to sleep in their room (share) with out me.

DS has attachment & anxiety issues, so this will be a long process I think. He's seeing a psyc weekly.

Dd has just never been taught to self settle. After 8 weeks of screaming when weaned (at 2), I introduced a bottle. It is long gone now, but she just can't settle without something...

It's only been 2 night so far. I've refused to lay down & not let her hand in, just held her hand & stroked her hair. She's cried herself to sleep both nights.

I've started playing sleep meditation, but it's not doing anything for her. The one I use slowly tells you to relax from toes to head. Works great on the older girls, DS thinks it's creepy & dd is too young... There goes my miracle cure

At least she goes to sleep with in 20 minutes usually. DS usually takes an hour minimum...

Suggestions welcome for more age appropriate meditation, preferably an app, or the name of the iTunes I've heard about (that doesn't talk about being in a field with flowers & imagining you're a fairy..) & any thing to help dd detach from me so I can just sit at the end of the bed.
She still doesn't sleep through the night. At 4.

Persistence is obviously going to be the key... I've always tried to avoid letting them cry with older kids needing sleep for school. I guess I messed that up hey