SHe sounds pretty normal to me My DD2 was born 11/2010 and is developmentally about where you describe. My DD still co sleeps and that's fine with us. How are your DD's reasoning skills? If you want to encourage learning, I would talk to her about things like 'why do you think the possums sleep during the day? Where do you think the sun goes at night? What do you think makes the flowers grow?' You get the idea! Encourage her to love learning and to reason things out for herself as opposed to getting her to recite sight words or colours - not that you shouldn't talk about the red t-shirt or the three pink flowers! I think a lot of people (not necessarily you!) get bogged down in trying to give kids a leg up before school by trying to cram them full of ABC's and 123's as opposed to encouraging kids to be enquiring, capable little people with a genuine desire to learn about the world around them.

DD2 will be going to ELC at my big kids school next year, it's an extended hours kinder program. She will need to be able to wipe her own bum. She's been doing her own wee for a year or so but has only started wiping poo in the past few weeks, with my encouragement. Mostly it's fine, although we have had to run a bath on a couple of occasions! I'd just encourage her with 'why don't you have a go and then mummy will check'.

I have two other children, one in Grade 5 and one in grade 2. My advice is to not try to wrangle you DD into prep early - it will only put a lot of pressure and expectation on her to 'prove' that she should have started early. It is possible to get an exemption to begin early and I do know of one family who have managed to do so here in Melbourne. That kid is under so much scrutiny and pressure, I really don't think it is a good idea unless perhaps your child is profoundly gifted. Your DD sounds like a great kid and developmentally about average.