Pregnancy after Late Loss, Recurrent Miscarriage or Stillbirth ~ November 2010

Judy, I hope you have a nice sticky bubba on board, FX all will progress nicely in your pg and you'll be here for a long time! Congrats again on your exciting news!

Hi everyone. New to this group! Just got a bfp yesterday. Tested this arvo with a clearblue digital and it came up pregnant 1-2 :) edd is Feb 14th


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Welcome hun and huge congrats again!! I'm just a stalker here :)

Strange how now we question every ache and pain :( I have painful sharp pains in my lower belly and a lower back ache so I am resting up as moving hurts anyway. I am hoping it is just stretching pains as it doesn't feel like AF cramps.
Laney any more news?

angelicdragon, i am worried at every little pain too. It just never ends. There is something new to worry about every day. I hope you feel better and that your pains are nothing to worry about.
No new yet! It is still only 8:30am here though :)

LysnDan, welcome to the thread.

blessedatlast, i wasn't able to buy thing for Grayson until we HAD to. I think we got his room ready at 35/36 weeks and he was born at 37 weeks. It is so hard to let yourself believe that you will be bringing a baby home.

I went through Taite and Seth's stuff and I have so much baby stuff, I don't really need anything. Not for a while anyway. Also we didn't know what sex they were so most things are gender neutral. I will use their stuff for this baby. At first I wasn't sure, but I feel ok about it. Plus there are 2 of everything, so I can use 1 and keep one safe if it's really special. I gave my friend Yas an outfit, she is having a little boy. It was nice to give her something so special and I know she knew it was special too. She said she would put in on her Bub to bring him home.. :).

I have an appointment in Bris on the 20th and will probably have my 12wk scan the week after. Let the hospital visits begin :rolleyes: I am glad I will be closely monitored. Any cervix change and I'll probably have a stitch.. I wont really know much else until I have my appointment and see what they say.

Aww, that's so special hun to give your friend an outfit you had for your gorgeous boys, I teared right up!! And then even more when she said she's going to have her wee boy wear it from the hossy! That's beautiful :)

Wow, 12 week scan coming up! GL hunni, I know all will be OK :)

doctor called, my level went from 59 to 238 in 68 hours. They are happy with it. Blood thinner injections started today!

Laney thats excellent news :)

Hi to everyone else in here. There are a few of us now.. It's selfishly comforting to know I'm not alone in this scary journey :)

Lysndan - How are you?

Had my blood test yesterday. Still waiting for the results. Should have them soon! In the meantime, poas like it's going out of fashion! Lol


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I have POAS 9 times! The last time was just the other day. I had felt sick the week before and it went away and my bloating went down and no sore boobs.. I got all paranoid so wasted more money lol.. The test was positive of course, but I still have a spare in my cupboard. I bought a 2 pack lol.. Keep us posted on your blood results :)

Laney that is excellent. Grow baby grow :)

LysnDan lol.. and Blessed, I think you should look up the hookeffect. Thats what I ended up doing coz some of my tests seemed lighter then they'd be dark again. I got a 50 pack of pregnow. I still have many to use but thinking I should keep some aside. The girl living with us at the moment is due the same day as we got AF the same day. Her tests are the same as mine and symptoms are the same. I know I should be reassured... but I know how quickly it can al lchange. She is 19 so no worries. My daughter is also due the same day and she is also 19. Tash (DD) is best friends with Peta (boarder) since high school. Quite a co-incidence we are all due together. Add in my sons ex-gf who has a new b/f and they are also expecting the same day. 4 of us... something in the water in Hobart. Tash and her DH have a little boy Alex who is 2 1/2.

AngelicDragon - Very interesting.. I thought the line was feinter than it should have been, but I was using a different test.t DP told me it couldn't get much darker and I am paranoid lol.. This is coming from the man though that couldn't see the 2nd line on the 1st test I did.. IT WAS THERE although I had to squint to see it Lol..

Pregnancy confirmed by my gp. Via bloods. :)


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Thats awesome Lysndan :)

wowee - Blessed - 12 week scan already! well done you and your little button. you are doing so well.

Laney - awesome news about your hcg! I am so jealous, even though it will be tough and having injections already. Glad to hear your boys are going so well. I am sorry that it was so tough for you and you cried.... but I am glad it passed too. I spent a bit of time crying too - it's nice to know I am not alone, and it's also good to know what to expect when I can join this thread. How is Graysons therapy going?

Judy - oh sweetie - I am so happy for you, and can only imagine how hard it is for you, and how remote it seems that your baby will come home. Just do what you need to do to get through..... we all find our own path.

LnD - good to see you here babe. Glad your lil bundle is doing well and it must feel good to get that confirmation.

Miss B - you and me both are stalking this thread, so desperate to be here in our own right. Glad DH is changing jobs, hope it makes it easier on you. How is that gorgeous little Cam going?

I was going pretty well with Hannah's sleep before she had a succession of illnesses... starting about 6 moths of age, and we fell into some bad habits - nurse to sleep, for most sleeps but especially at night. So after some soul searching, I decided to try to implement a "controlled crying" regime from tonight.

OMG, it was horrid and I felt so mean listening to her cry and not picking her up. But I was in the right frame of mind, as I had some determination, but was calm too. It took 45 mins of some very serious crying. But she put herself to sleep. Day sleeps are different, for instance for both of them today, she put herself to sleep after some happy chatting. Anyway, I am going to give it a few days and I hope that we can all get through this. I try to salve the guilt by saying to myself I am helping her learn the skills to self soothe and put herself to sleep. But it doesn't make it any easier....

Anyway, I am going to re read some of the book I was reading. I never thought I could endure the crying, as in the past I never have been able to. Some of the other mothers in my MG group have used the strategy and have said it worked. We can only hope.

Belly rubs to you beautiful mummas - and I'd welcome any tips or ideas on getting wee ones to sleep themselves without external props.

Hey all, wow how slack am I, I dont come in here and there is heaps of news, Laney :) you sly thing, xoxoxo.
Hope everyone is well :)
still trying to work out how to 'really' join you in here, i need to lose weight before i get pregnant again, i'm finding that difficult while i'm breast feeding but i dont want to give up breastfeeding in case this is the last time i get to do it :( Plus hubbys diabeties is causing havoc on his fertility so .......

Congrats to all the newbies :) well I almost joined you all again. Had an "accident" and after a faint BFP on friday morning with 2nd MU I started spotting on friday night and now *TMI* I'm bleeding, bright red and cramping pretty bad. Sunday I was 12dpo going from when I first started to get O pains, and I had pink spotting round 5dpo.
Feeling slightly glad that it ended so soon as DD is only 10.5wks old, but also sad and disappointed that I don't get to grow another bub inside me :( And frustrated that my body could fail again even when we weren't trying.

Belly rubs to you all and sending out heaps and heaps of super sticky vibes!

Had a bit of a scare yesterday. All seems to be okay now. I have my GP/obgyn appointment today and another blood test tomorrow at king eddies.

Was rushed to the ED with sharp stabbing pains (lower than normal range of hcg - 895 @ 4w 6d pg... and red spotting yesterday morning. I was given an anti-d injection and had to be transferred because They didn't have radiology on at the hospital so decided to transfer me to another hospital 45 minutes away for a scan.

After a long wait I was scanned and told everything was relatively okay. Bubs is in the right spot (didn't expect to see a sac yet, as im only 5 weeks!) but we were told I have enlarged ovaries (possibly caused by the clomid I was on) that was causing the pain and bleeding in early pg with enlarged ovaries is somewhat normal?

Least I got to see bump! :)

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Oh dear LysnDan, what a scare for you! Glad all is OK hun, hope those ovaries come down in size :hug:

Dory, just read your post properly about controlled crying (sorry sometime I skim through the posts when I have wee Cam at my anckles!) but I have tried that method too (well attempted it at least!) but after 5 minutes I gave in. I'm such a softie, not hard enough I'm afraid. Cam sort of learned to put himself to sleep eventually, it did take a while though. I used to cuddle him to sleep pretty much all the time, I figured one day he'll do it himself and he did. Now days, I'll only pick him up if he is beside himself, so I will leave him for 10-15 minutes first, but he doesn't fuss too much these days. You do what feels right for you hun, plenty of my friends did the controlled crying method and I had lectures left right and centre of how I should be doing it too, but it just wasn't for me. GL with it hun :)

Hi to everyone else too and big belly rubs to all :bellyrubs:

How scary Lysndan, glad all is ok.. If anyone didn't see my thread I had a scare too, started bleeding at work on Fri night, didn't want to wait in emergency all night so waited til next morning, went to docs and had a scan done, bubs fine but placenta is over the cervix which is what caused the bleed. So scary.. I am 10wks so still a long way to go and plenty of time for the placenta to move which I really hope it does. Button was waving on the U/S it was so good to see!

Dory - Sorry you are having to CC with Hannah. I hope it's all going ok. Not quite 12wks yet. Brisbane next Monday then scan the week after I would say..

blessedatlast, i have had bleeding in 3 of my pregnancies. When i was pregnant with Grayson the placenta was low and i had bleeding until week 30. It was so scary. I hope your placenta moves up!

Dory, i tried the controlled crying for about 30 minutes with Grayson and i just couldn't do it. Our bedtime routine is horrible because of my failure.

LysnDan, i have ovarian pain during early pregnancy too. I have had large cysts on my ovaries that grew to the size of a grapefruit. I now take progesterone every night until the 12 week mark to keep it under control.

JennaJayen, so sorry to hear your news.

jlk, i am excited that you are thinking about joining the group again! I had no idea that you were ready to add another to your family.

AngelicDragon, how is everything?

AFM, i still have not been able to schedule my first scan. The doctor's office has been very slow! I think that i will call them again and bother them for an appt.

Blessed - but almost 12 weeks, so close you can touch it!

LnD - sorry about your scare, but good you got to see your little one! 5 weeks!

Laney - you sound so calm and in control with this preg, so far. Well done. Can't wait to hear your scan news. Don't beat yourself up with extra guilt. We each do what is right for us.

I just read an article on BB that now has me feeling so miserable with myself about controlled crying. I didn't leave Hannah to cry it out during our 2 sessions, but the article reinforced my own beliefs that I was abandoning her during the process. Anyway, we have sort of shelved it. We are still trying to stick to a routine so I am not feeding her to sleep though, which was the main aim of the the process. That seems to be working. But I won't be trying CC anymore. Like Miss B said, it's just not her style, and it's not mine either. I knew that before I started, so I am not sure why I did it.

Judy - how are you? Every moment is a blessing.

JLK - hugs to you and Tehya.

Beata - cant wait til you convince DH that a cycle should happen SOON! I like you would love to be in here in our own right rather than just stalking.

It's strange how the little things can be so hard. Last night we put Hannah's cot down to the lowest setting. I felt unbelievably sad ( shes not a little baby anymore and so much of my life has been about babies lately) and guilty ( she looked so low and far away). Crazy huh? But it had to be done, she sat herself up from her tummy yesterday. Anyway, got to be off, I am meeting my mum and aunt with downs syndrome today. They are coming to town for a medical appointment for my aunt, so I am going to take the chance to see them and I need to prepare.

Oh just before I go, Hannah and I went to visit Amelia, Nicholas and Sophie's garden the other day. It was just the best day. Took the picnic rug, sat in the shade of the two treee in their garden, the sky was blue and it was just amazing. Wish I didn't have to do it in the first place, but that's like all o us in here. WE have a weird new reality, those of us with forever babies.

Hi everyone
Lysndan sorry for the scare you had. Any sort of bleeding or spotting is so darned scary with what we have been through. Has it stopped completely now?

Laney an early scan can be sad too.. I am delaying my first scan because I just got so sad after seeing heartbeats so many times then a few weeks later it is all over. I am now in blissful ignorance. My daughter had her scan today. She is 6w1d yet they did an abdominal scan and said 1) her bladder wasn't full enough and 2) it was too small to measure but they could see a sac and yolk and put her at around 4wks and told her to come back in 2 weeks time. They never even suggested an internal scan and I know that particular practise always muck up the early scans before 8 wks.

Dory, Your picnic with your angels sounds like it was in lovely weather. Luckily we never ha dto cc with Daniel as he is excellent at going to bed and doesn't get out of bed either if he wakes up. He is now in a normal single bed in his own room. I did try CC with our other children but they would get too worked up so we'd stop.

JLK I hope you do get to join in here and Beata :)

Blessed I had a low placenta with Nic and heavy bleeding for 2 wks at around 11 wks and then spotted until 23 wks but by then it had moved and Nick was a natural quick delivery (2 hrs and the whole labour was just like braxton hicks ctx). Daniel I had a low placenta that never moved fully out the way until 34 wks. But the only bleeding I had with him was when AF was due and i thought I had m/c before even gettnig to first base.

AFM had a shocking ehadache all day today. The last few days I have nausea on and off but no feeling of being sick, just off colour more than anything. Still have very sore bbs and definitely fuller. You are right every moment is precious and so far have made it to 6w1d when I never even thought I would ever seea BFP again.

Hello my lovelies mummies,

Dory, I didn't mean to make you feel bad about the CC method, so if I did I'm really sorry hun!! I also don't want you to feel miserable about it either! Sometimes we have to try things out if we're looking at improving a situation. I have tried it too! I have tried so many things with Cam, some worked, some didn't, sometimes I've felt guilty/bad for trying something I wasn't comfortable with doing, but I did it because I wanted to improve things for my sake. I would continually feed and rock wee man to sleep for months and months. I was sometimed going insane and would give anything a go. You are doing such an amazing job with HB hun, I would never believe that you would intentionally abandon your little girl! So go easy on yourself hun, it looks like things are improving anyway. Big hugs to you lovely.

Laney, hope you can get your first scan booked in soon!

Blessed, I'll keep everything crossed for your 12 week scan. My, how the time is whizzing by!!

Judy, every day you are pg is a blessing isn't it? I am sorry for all the angels you have lost hun, and I can really feel the fear and anxiety in your posts hun, but with each passing day I hope the fear and anxiety disappears and you are able to enjoy your pg more and more. It's so uncanny your daughter is pg too, that is so amazing to be sharing such a lovely journey together, GL to you both.

Hello to LJK, LysnDan, anyone else??

Well, I am getting one step closer to hopefully being in here! After many talks with DF, I have finally twisted his arm and we will be attempting a cycle this year for sure. I have gone ahead and made an app. with my FS and will get him to run a BT to determine my egg reserve (I had one done in Oct last year and it was normal for my age - egg reserve is done to see how many eggs you still have, considering I am already 41). I want to see how much has changed in 8 months. I also want him to do an u/s to see if my fibroids have grown at all and do all the other BT checks to see all is well. I need to put on a few kilos, as I am much lighter now than before I was pg last, and I need to make sure I am in the best possible shape for a cycle. So keep your fingers and toes crossed for me ladies!

B xoxoxo

angelicdragon, i thought about not having an early scan. I think my doctor usually does them because i am taking blood thinners. It is important to see that the pregnancy is in the right place. I am having some pregnancy symptoms. My BB's hurt and don't fit into my bra very well and i now have to get up at night to pee. I am not sick yet, that usually starts around 8 weeks.
I really can't believe they would even try anything other than an internal ultrasound at 6 weeks! I think my doctor only does internal scans before 12 weeks. It just causes more worry! I hope everything looks good for DD in 2 weeks.

Miss.B, i can't wait to hear how your appt. goes!

Dory, i do feel pretty calm about everything right now. I'm sure that will change when i have my first scan booked.

Ultrasound tomorrow at 12:30. I will be 6 weeks 1 day. Bothering them paid off :) The tech is going to have a fit! She hates it when they schedule me before 8 weeks.

Woo hoo Laney! GL with your scan hun, who cares about the technician! lol xoxo

Judy - yay for preg symptoms! I am so so very happy for you..... forgive me if this question brings up painful memories, but what are your milestone gestations? I think 6 weeks is super exciting, but I know it's hard to feel that way when you are so fearful and expecting heartache. Praying that this time is different.

Miss B - nah you didn't make me feel bad... it was more like you said, I was doing something I wasn't entirely comfortable with. I should have just followed my instincts. But it's just a learning process. YAY for twisting DH's arm. I am hoping those naughty fibroids are goneski and there are loads of eggies left for a 41'er!

Laney - I am loving your preg symptoms and YAY for a scan. The tech will get over it, but I know what you mean, expecting that just sorts of adds more anxiety huh? Thinking of you. Hope the nerves aren't too bad! I like to get in with the medical side of things early, for me, having the care and genuine concern of the obs, plus the reassurrance, although limited, can give is important. For me, it's one of the ways I can actually acknowledge the pregnancy, and now with my having had HELLP my BP etc will be monitored even more closely.

Blessed - how are you going? It's a pretty scary time huh? But so exciting too? Are you showing yet? Ohh, you have no idea how excited I am.

I think I just have babies on my brain...... ah there's worse huh? Belly rubs you all you beautiful mummas nuturing a precious life inside.

I had a scan yesterday and it showed a bigger sac. But I am still spotting :( yesterday it was brown and today it's pinky/red :(


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Lynsdan: when I was pg with hayley I had the same as you spotting cramping and she was fine :) try not to stress

Big hugs hunni, it could be a bit of bleeding that quite a few women get in their pg. I'll keep FX for you hun. Stay sticky little bubbie!

spotting here too :(
my most noticeable m/c are at 5w4d, 5w6d, 7w, 8w4d, 9w and 11w4d and then Annabelle at 31 wks
sorry, feeling a bit too down to post more :(

Oh no Judy! We need some major sticky vibes in here. FX all is OK hun and the spotting stops :crossfingers:

Judy - hoping this spotting is different.... hugs sweetie..... it must just be heart wrenching.... you're in my thoughts. And thanks for letting me know, I really appreciate it.

LnD - chin up chickie....

Oh dear.. GO AWAY BLOOD AND SPOTTING!!! You scare the crap out of us. :stickyvibesgirl: :stickyvibesboy: to us all and :bluedust: :pink-babydust: for those that want to be in here officially, not just stalking ;)

Thanks blessed, I don't want to be a 'not so silent' stalker! lol

Judy, I have my fingers crossed, it is just a little spotting and nothing more! I am thinking of you. Please keep us posted.

LysnDan, i had a lot of spotting with grayson, he is here and healthy. I hope it is nothing.


I feel bad posting about my scan :( There was a baby and we saw a heart beat. Measured 3 days behind my dates but i always do at these early scans. Baby was nice and high so i shouldn't have to deal with much bleeding if any. It is super early so anything can still happen. I go in for another scan in 2 weeks.

Awww Laney, don't feel bad hunni :hug: Fantastic news about your scan hun! I know you get super stressed with your pg and your doc app. and your scans, so well done for a big milestone and keep it up :)

LysnDan and Judy, hope the spotting stopped for you ladies. FX :grouphug:

Thinking of you and praying all is well and sending you bucket loads of :stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy: