Dory - Wow you have been through so much yet you are such a strong woman! Im so sorry that your darling angels couldnt stay with you. So with this one will they be your milestones? What was Hbs pregnancy like? Did you get to enjoy it or no? Sorry for all the questions.
Tylers Mummy - questions are ok :) For me the milestones are each of my vodoo dates, but also 24 weeks and every day thereafter, until bubs in born. Hmm, looking back , I liked being pregnant with HB but I didn't enjoy the pregnancy. It was just so hard. I had no confidence I could actually do it, and genuinely expected the worst most of the time. I had quite heavy bleeding at 5 weeks 5 days and 10 weeks 5 days. I went on bed rest from 7 weeks, so I was pretty much isolated and alone, except for BB, most of the time. I shunned visitors as I wasn't really comfortable with them visiting and me laying around and the house messy. I am not good at asking for help either. I should have gotten people to do my housework for me. I did go out for short periods some days, but mostly I was on my own, except for the Obs appointments which were a life line. It was hard and lonely. I found out more about myself than I expected to. I had way too much time to think about things. There were hard decisions to be made about the management of the pregnancy, which at the time were really difficult to make. Now they are easy to make. Overall I think HB's pregnancy is simply one of the hardest things I have ever done, 7 months of being alone and scared witless. But there were moments of real enjoyment. The first time DH felt HB kick, getting to 24 weeks ( and celebrating by doing some art work on my bump for that Obs appointment). I am sure there are others, but those are the first that come to mind.
I am not sure I am strong, I think it's more that we each have to deal with what we have. Although when I look back on everything, I have absolutely no idea how I got through. None at all. BB? Some niaive hope that I might just be able to do it? I don't know. I think each of us in here is a strong and beautiful mamma. You included.
TylersMummy - I'm 23wks with another little girl, just another 8wks until I reach the same gestation. I don't mind you asking about this or any of my other pregnancies, it may be hard to talk about but I love being able to remember them and share them, especially if it might help someone else.
Dory - I completely agree with TylersMummy, after everything you've been through, to sound so optimistic and hopeful, that takes an incredible strong women, so many other's would have dealt in a much less healthy way (if that makes sense).
Dory - Ah yes I know what you mean Im still worried that I wont bring home Rylee so I guess its still a wait and see game. That sucks that you were on bed rest for so long I know what you mean by having time to think etc, at least now you have the distraction of HB. Have you got a date for when they are going to stitch little RB in? Sounds like you did have some nice moments in HBs pregnancy its the best thing when DH feels them kick for the first time too. Will you be doing the bump art again once you get to the same gestation? You are indeed strong some people wouldnt be able to handle so much heart break I know I couldn't..
KAM - Well done on getting this far hun I hope that the rest of your pregnancy is easy going. Thank you for answering me :) it is a great feeling when someone asks about your angel like you said its good to be able to remember them and share them with somebody else.
AFM - Had my scan this morning im measuring above average so thats good, everything is looking fine bub is still head down but has moved her body she was laying back up my left side bum up top legs on right now shes back up my right side and legs on the right. She had a full bladder this morning lol that was the first thing the sonographer showed me, she was asleep too which was good but now shes awake lol. Got a cute photo of her she has hair and chubby cheeks so cant wait to meet her :D. They guess that she weighs about 5lb 12 oz so a big bub also has very long legs.
KAM - another girl - awesome! How are you going? Thanks for the nice words.
Tylers Mummy - yep bump art is a goer. I was planning it in the wee hours of this morning when insomnia struck. Stitch date is 28 Dec, not far away now. We are fitting Christmas in around my appointments for little RB. Glad you had a good scan, all sounds good.
Anyway, I am off to run some errands. Not too much nausea today, which is nice. Instead though when I cough I gag, and when I take my asthma meds. Gagging/heaving is pretty gross. And I have a pesky little asthma cough today, so lots of gagging. Weird. But no intense yucky nausea. YAY.
Oh odd thing today. I was out to breakkie with my cousin and as I was getting in the car I passed another cafe. This one basically had a long table facing the road with individual chairs facing the road in front of the table. The public footpath was between the chairs and the shop front. As I walked past there was a little girl sitting in one of the chairs, all by herself, no adult nearby, and not one for at least a couple of metres. She was a bit older than H, so maybe 18 months - 2 years? After I put H in the car, I saw the girl again, this time beside the shop near a fence. Next second a woman rushes out of the cafe frantically looking everywhere, and mouthed "oh my god", as she couldn't see the girl as the fence was recessed a little from the shop front. Made me wonder why she would leave such a young child alone near a busy road, where there was nothing stopping the child from running on to the road or away up and down the footpath. I guess she may not do it for a while though, given the look of sheer terror on her face. I was driving away, when I noticed and the mother came out almost instantly so I had no time to act, but if I had been walking on the footpath i would have stopped and checked. Just glad that nothing more serious happened. It can happen so quickly.
Dory - Oh cool something to look forward to will HB help? Wow thats not to far little RB will be snug as a bug after that. Glad that your nausea is going away I know what you mean with the gagging the other day I was at a club having lunch and went to use the bathroom.. Well someone walked in behind me and when the lady sat down she farted quite loudly it made me gag for ages :( it actually still does. Oh that poor wee girl why would anyone leave a child by themself anyway.. I hope the mother never does it again. I hope you had a good day :) have you got everything ready for xmas? Yep my scan was good I have an app with my ob on monday (hopefully the last one till I move) so will see then if they want to change my due date or not.
TylersMummy - that is why I loathe public toilets! Since HB has come along, I use parents room or disabled toilets. You poor thing, at least your lunch wasn't wasted! I know everyone farts and a toilet is probably a good place to do it, but it doesn't mean I want to hear it. Not really ready for Christmas. Thankfully our family has said no pressies this year, which takes a lot of stress out of it all. For DH's family, and he's got a big one, he's mostly gotten gift cards. We are having Chrissy at my mums, so I don't have to worry about food etc. How about you?
Dory - Not to long and I'll be using them lol I know what you mean at least it wasnt anything after wards I think my lunch wouldv'e been gone lol. Oh thats good bit of a bonus not having to buy pressies, ah yes the gift card the best thing to buy when you dont know what else to buy lol. I hope you have heaps of fun at your mums, does most of your family's know about RB? Or are you waiting till xmas to tell them? I have a few things to get luckily I dont have to get the kids xmas pressies yet as we dont see them till easter so have a few months to be able to get there things. I have half of DFs pressie form the kids but going to get a few more things for him, were doing xmas on xmas eve most likely because if DF does come up (if he doesnt I will be a very unhappy person) he will be leaving xmas morning at roughly 4am..
AFM - I have pains again they just wont go away my back is so effin sore :( I nearly cryed in pain while doing grocery shopping.. Maybe just need to lie down its the only time im comfortable.
ETA - If DF gets this house on Wednesday looks like I will be moving down next Tuesday (after xmas):D FX!! Hell be coming up for xmas but my mum has come up with the idea that she will be taking our stuff down so please cross your fingers etc for me :) I want to finally be able to enjoy this last bit of my pregnancy and have everything done before she gets here. Im stressing so much that we arent going to have nothing ready.. I have been arguing with DF but he doesn't get it.. Him and his ex had everything ready months before there other 2 kids came along and here I am with a few things :(
Tylers Mummy - most of the fam know about little RB. I am not good at waiting or keeping secrets, or big announcements, so I have told them already. Uhm, don't worry too much about whether you have stuff for Rylee or not. Wee little babies don't need much to start. Somewhere safe to sleep - a deep drawer will do to start until you can get sorted. I know it doesn't sound glam but there is a LOT of hype surrounding babies and about what you need, when in fact half of it you don't actually need. Sometimes though it's only be trial and error that you find out what works for you and what doesn't. They don't really need a pram, but it's handy for you to get out of the house, as long as it lays flat for a new born you'll be fine. The things that you really need are nappies, clothes, blankets, sheets, something to swaddle her in and some sort of burp cloth - I used heaps of cheap washers ( good for breast pads too). I was a bit shocked when I started putting washers down my shirt instead of breast pads, but it's because they were convenient. If you are going to bottle feed, obviously you'll need some bottles and formula and a bottle brush. I used to just boil the bottles old school style, I mostly breast fed, but my supply wasn't enough so I compliment fed with 90mls of formula each feed. I suppose you might want a pacifier. Some babies love them, some like HB not so much. The other thing to remember, you can always go out and get stuff once you're settled in your new place. Something that you may not know though, if you want a new cot, sometimes there is a 12 week wait on delivery. So if you buy new, ask the store if they have any in stock for immediate delivery or collection. Oh, you need a car seat or capsule, but you can hire a capsule for up to 6 months, so you don't have to worry about that for a while. Capsules are kinda handy. I didn't have one for HB but am getting one this time.
Maybe others will have some ideas for you about what you need and don't need. Mostly though what I needed was reassurance and advice. Oh about advice? You don't have to take it. People ( including me) will give you advice. Some you'll agree with, some you won't. You are Rylee's Mum and you will know what works for you and what feels right and wrong. It doesn't feel like it at first, but you do know your baby best, and you do have instincts.
AFM - scan tomorrow (Tues 20 Dec) at 8.30am. Bring it on. Nervous, scared and excited all at once. Have tentatively decided that if the downs risk comes back high that we'll keep going with the pregnancy. Not sure whether I would consider an amnio or cvs. An old chook like me has to think about things like that.
Take care.
Dory - Oh how exciting for your scan tomorrow :) Good luck hope little RB is kicking away for you tomorrow. Yeah I know what you mean I have a carseat just need a bassinet and some clothes etc. In the past few weeks ive recieved a few parcels from family members with clothes :) so im lucky my nana bought a polar fleece blanket even though I dont think Ill need it lol. DFs mum is making a blanket for Rylee so hoping to recieve that soon. Ive got 5 weeks to get clothe nappies and stuff which I should be able to do. Thank you for the advice! It is greatly appreciated.
AFM - Well today was probably my last app with my mw at up here now for DF to find out about this house :wall: I need to book in down there or im screwed lol. Not long till xmas now.
Hope you other ladies are doing well.
Dory - Yay you get to see RB today!! Will be waiting for an update!
AFM - 35 weeks today time is flying.. But I wont be happy till my girl is safe in my arms.. I had a dream last night.. I actually woke up bawling my eyes out :( So hopefully today will be a good day. Havent heard from DF as of yet so hopefully he rings later to say he got the house.
Just a quickie DF has got the house :dance: I am one very happy mumma :)
Hi to my lovely friends in here and keep cooking those bubbas ladies :)
Dory, hope your scan went well xoxox
Miss B - oh thankyou so much for remembering. All went well, even for an old chook like me. It was so much less anxious a time with HB to keep us both distracted. Apparently some places don't allow kids under 6 in. Luckily ours does, I did call and ask in advance. Low risk of all the trisomies, but we had decided we'd keep the pregnancy going for downs and possibly for the others. Little Raspberry was moving around, got a good view of the neck (1.7) and my risk was 1/2400 approx. Next one booked for 13th Feb.
Tylers Mummy - YAY on the house. I always feel flat after an emotional dream. Hope your day was ok in the end.
AFM - I've had some diarrhoea, and slight loss of appetite. and felt a little sick a couple of nights ago. Hopefully it's not anything I can pass on to everyone else for Christmas. :(
Dory - That is awesome news about your scan!! Glad little RB was moving around for you, I know HB is still young but does she understand theres a bub in mums tum? Ah I hope you get better before xmas hun that is all you would need. I'm very excited now :) my mum's taking us back so DF will be here on Sat finally!! :D. I hope you have a great xmas and that you get better.
Hope you other ladies are doing well and wishing you's a great xmas.
AFM - I think I may be nesting lol, if only I had heaps of energy. On a good note I picked up some girl clothes yesterday from a lady there is so many so will be washing them today.. Hope the sun comes out.
hi girls, sorry i havent checked in for a while.
Still pregnant, yay!
Bub has devolped some resistance in her cord and has low blood flow to her liver, im on tenterhooks atm, Jack died only 4 days after we found out his cord was becoming resistant, its been 3 days since we had the scan and she still wriggling,she had a big day with movements yesterday and is quieter today, so naturally im freaking out that she's actually dying in there. its hard to distinguish between whats normal and what isnt.
8 and half weeks and she'll be here hopefully. i just want it OVER!
off to go read back, have missed alot
love hugs and belly rubs to all of you
xxx
Sky - Glad to see you coming along nicely, hopefully bub kicks up a storm for you tomorrow I have those days too but I know its cause bub hasn't got much room to move. Im sorry that your have found that out.. I cant wait to hear about your little princess in 8 and half weeks. Hopefully time flys by for you :).
AFM - Not long for me now I went to bed and had a dream that little miss R arrived on the 19th of Jan at 7:51pm.. 8pd 8oz so we will see if this is true :P. I ended up scrubbing the bathroom this morning even though its the borders job so I was on my hands and knees (it was very hard) but I still did it :) now the bathroom looks good. I didnt get my baby clothes done today its been raining so hopefully I can do them over this weekend.
Sky - glad to hear from you.... believe it will be ok my dear and if you can't I will believe for you. I am sorry that bubs is developing the same difficulties that Jack did. I know how hard it is for you, but every pregnancy if different. Keep strong.......