It's still a secret !!

Congratulations Trish... and all the best with telling your DP hon. :hugs:

Congratulations Trish, fingers crossed for you that it all goes smoothly. Welcome to the Mother of five club, lol. Good Luck

Congratulations Trish

Congrats Trish!!

Congratulations Trish!! Come join us in Belly Buddies :).

Congratulations Trish!!!

Congratulations Trish :)

Oh I just knew you'd be posting in here again for yourself one day Trish! Congratz. I hope the talk with DP goes well .Wishing you all the best.

LOL, Thanks Tegan :D

Congratulations!

Welcome to the 5 CLUB!

All the best breaking the news to your DH.

I will let you know when I have :D

Just like a bandaid trish ;)

*hugs*
Cailin

LOL Cailin, yeah I know. And the longer I leave it, the harder it is.

Brooke, awww you are so sweet. Thank you so very much. I only hope he is half as excited as you are for me then :D

well said brooke! :D

Congratulations Trish!

Congratualtion Trish! Does your DH suspect anything??? How is the morning sickness?

Trish!!

Huge congratulations! :D

I hope you have a fabulous pregnancy.

Good luck with "the talk".

It's not a secret anymore !!

I finally let the cat out of the bag this afternoon. Mark now knows that we are expecting again. Admitidly I let him know when there was someone else here. Not within their earshot though and we were both going out tonight seperately.

I did give him a kiss goodbye and said to him that he couldn't avoid me, it wasn't going to change anything. He isn't very happy, but I expected that anyway.

Well done sweets :)
:hug:
I am sure all will be fine... do you feel better? :)
Tanya

HUgs Trish.

Umm yeah I do, but it would be great if we spoke about it too.

Only took me just 9 days. And what a long 9 days they were.

Thanks girls. I agree, I am giving him space and time to digest it. Afterall I had that chance it's the least I can do for him.

Thank you so very much for all of your support :hug:

Well, I was woken very early by Tehya this morning. I had gone in over night and slept in bed with her to try to get her to stay in there. Come morning she wants to go into daddy, so I do the same. I hear what I thought was Mark laughing, but no he was crying. Of course I feel bad, but it still managed to get back to how bad this was and how much it was going to affect everything. And he said everything but that word.

So, it looks like I am back to square 1. Or not quiet, I mean, sure now he knows. And yes, I was exactly right on the response I got.

Trish, I think the way he is handling it is normal. He is obviously a smart man who has thought the whole thing through. I think him feeling so bad is because he has thought about another baby previously perhaps and has seen the worst case senario (we all know babies are hard work and can cause a lot of stress within a family).

So now to work on not getting to that place, but to a much better place :)

Remember we are here for you. :hug:

Tanya

*hugs* Trish. Like you said he needs time to digest everything as well.....

Oh Trish, I'm so sorry that that's the response you got. Hugs honey.

I'm thinking of you often.

Trish,
I'm so sorry that you got that kind of response. I hope that in time Mark will accept and come to enjoy the prospect of another baby.
Thinking of you

Oh girls I know that his response is normal. Although I am now wondering if I am being selfish. I mean, if he truely believes that this baby would be such a burden do I have blinkers on ?? I know only too well how hard little people can be. Tehya stil wakes up nearly everynight. And Noah still won't wipe his own bum !!

Am I doing the wrong thing by sticking up for this little baby. It's all too bloody hard and confusing :(

I don't know your personal situation Trish, but i definately don't think your doing the wrong thing by sticking up for your child! I think deep down you really wanted this baby... and I think maybe he really is just shocked, and once he gets his head around it - he'll join all the fun of the new bub! Fingers crossed Trish... you sound like your a fantastic mum (i mean look at the smile on that little girls face!) - that little bun in the oven doesn't know how lucky it is yet to have a mummy like you.

Awww Trish... HUGE HUGS!!
I think you have little choice now, I know how you feel about the alternatives. I think in the coming months you both need to work on making a very happy mummy and daddy before bubby comes. And that will be the best protection you can give :)
Tanya

Thanks for making me cry Tanya ;)

I would be happy, I am happy, I just need Mark's support too.

OOOh Trish, hun... I dont know what to say...I am here for you thjough & I know it will all sink in for him & be Ok... I think some time together Really talking might do some good!???

Big Hugs!

Trish :hugs: I hope that as the days pass his feelings will warm to the new little addition.
I have the feeling that if I were in your shoes ATM my DH would be having the exact same reaction.
I'm praying for you that his daddy love will kick in soon...

He will come around :)
I think he needs to know you understand his point of view. To him it may feel like a betrayal... he tells you, after all that has happened of late, that a baby is out of the question and you end up pregnant.
I know he was asking more attention from you a little while ago (in a very male way:rolleyes:), maybe he needs to know this bub won't cause anymore cracks, maybe let him know you are still 100% commited to him no matter what happens...
I dunno sweets, I don't envy you at all!! I think atm you need to be close to him... communication needs to be open. He is the one you have chosen to have more babies with and hopefully spend the rest of your life with... talk to him and let him talk to you, not matter how he feels, just listen. He isn't thinking of this baby as a little person yet, like you are, he is thinking about the affect bub will have on all of you... just remember he can't help how he feels, you need to reassure him... and it will take a lot of work!!

Tanya

:hug: Trish, I'm so sorry you are having such a rough start to this pg. I'm sure he will be fine. You look after yourself.

Yep I agree with Tanyaq,
You need to have time together, no interruptions & really talk & open up to each other...
Sit on the couch & just talk like you would have in the early days of your relationship...
Dh & I will lay on the bed if the girls are playing together or on the couch & it allows us time to reconnect rather than just be parents!!!

It will be fine, he will come around, my DH felt Zyon kicking for the first time last night & laid there giggling at it for about an hour.... You will be fine, but to open up & talk about his fears & worries & anything you have too, will help sort through the concerns!!!

Oh Trish hun,
I agree with what Tanya has said to, perhaps when he has been able to express his fears and concears he will feel lighter and more able to start accepting and loving your new baby,
He must really be feeling scared to be reacting this way, I think some reassurance that you love him and that another baby is not going to 'take' you away from him will help alot.

THinking of you sweety I know in time everything will be ok.

Much love and huge hugs

Awwww Hugs Trish. Don't doubt your self, stay strong in what you believe in & Mark will come round. Tracy & Tanya make great points & I know you yourself know how best to handle the situation because you know Mark best.

Ya know what, Glenn still wakes at night & EVan wont wipe his own arse yet either! Isla was very much planned but it doesn't make it any easier. Like you said this makes 5 for you but your older boys can help out etc. Mark just needs to get his head around it all & pointing inthe right direction.

It will work out.

Oh hun, good on you for telling him. Atleast it's out in the open now and he can start getting used to the idea. I don't think you're selfish at all hun, clearly he has a reason for not wanting another baby (has he told you why?) but it takes 2 to tango, you didn't get pregnant by yourself and that's what he needs to realise.

I think trying to sit down and have a good long chat about things would be really good for the both of you right now. Maybe you're both not seeing where each other are coming from, maybe if you got a chance to really hash things out then it might settle a few things down in his mind. I'm sure he's just panicking about not knowing what things are going to be like. Is money his concern? If it is, tell him people always manage one way or another, I'm sure people often wonder how people manage, but they do.

I'm sure in time he will come around, even if it's not until bubs is born and he holds him/her in his arms for the first time. Big huge :hug: hun.

Hugs Trish and i hope that things improve soon for you all