Doctor Woes

[Katie_May1989]

Hi All,

So; this could be pregnancy hormones here but I'm really upset with my doctor at the moment - I believe she's causing me a heap of stress for something common. Went back last week for blood test results (initial ones). All is well, mentioned that morning I had a little spotting, brown in colour but certaintly nothing serious - I also had some minor cramping, on a scale of 1-10 in pain, i would even call it a 3. Anyhow - her face suddenly dropped and she started shaking her head, "Now you've told me this, we need to get a scan done immediately". Now, honestly, tell this to a first time pregnancy and then tell them "Today, it must be today and you must come back and see me tomorrow. Bleeding and cramping is not good and we need to find out immediately what is causing it. I need to know where the pregnancy position is". She gives me the scan request papers and sends me next door to exact radiology - at 1pm in the afternoon of course they can't get me in and i sit in the car in tears - i feel like i'm failing at this and now i've done something wrong - luckily i manage to get into another clinic an hour a away and go straight there (drinking water like a dying lizard on the way down). Appointment is at 3:30.. 4pm comes on, still nothing and at this point i'm really crapping myself - other then the fact "something is wrong" I dont exactly know why im sitting here - so i'm on my phone searching for symptoms of cramping and bleeding and what they mean (i thought it was common and normal) suddenly eptopic (however it's said) is there - I've been shoved out the doctors door told to get a scan and no real explanation why (and i didnt get a chance to ask seeing my jaw was attached to the floor). I'm in the room with a young male (FML) who tells me he can't see any sign of pregnancy through the ultrasound (double FML) and now we'll need to do a transvasginal scan - this is after he ask's me "Why is your doctor sending you here for an ultrasound?" "She said as i've had cramping and minor spotting, i need one" "Because she's got written she thinks it might be eptopic" (heart is beating through my chest at this point).

I do the business (after he ask's me would i like to insert it myself to have some dignity, i honestly give him this "Im sitting here with no frickin pants on infront of a young male i dont know, what dignity?". We see the baby, in the spot it should be with a strong heart beat and he tells me all is well - he explains he see's women everyday getting their 12, 20 week scans etc many who've had cramping and minor spotting but thats it quite common and normal. I harass him for every bit of information he has, i ask him truly how women he see's a day with the similar things - tons he says. This is all he does, scan scan scan - his seen it all and this is about as common as finding pidgeon cr** on your car. (<< that's my common truth anyhow). So i go home, elated, scans of the baby have a fabulous weekend, stress free. Roll up to the doctor today, "Well, got the scans back. I had to think about this before you came back - everything is fine... BUT". She then starts to give me this drawing of the uterus and the sack and where the baby has attached, i'm waiting for the "it's attached in the wrong spot" or "it's not shaped right" when i stop her midway and ask if this is about the small hole where the egg has burrowed into the wall (hence the minor bleeding). She nods yes and i'm really mad at this point - i tell her the sonographer measured the hole/blob thing and it was .2ml of liquid (blood) which he informed me doesn't always happen but it's very common and nothing to worry about. "Yes but I want anothr scan done in two weeks, I want to see that getting smaller or not changing at all". Now - here's either my hormones or my temper coming in but i'm sitting there sick with stress but burning with rage "You seem stressed?" "Well this is bloody stressful - the sonographer has told me he see's this a lot, it's common". "Oh it's very common and nothing to worry about - if you have more cramping or bleeding you must come back straight away" - anyhow the story continues - again i have more paperwork - again i must make a scan - and again i'm ****ed off that firstly "this is common, nothing to worry about, dont stress" to "bleeding and cramping is not right, you must have another scan, i need to see it getting smaller or we'll have to investigate further to find out whats wrong". Am i overreacting? Do I have an inexpericened doctor? Is she making a pile into a mountain?