Hello all, this is as much me venting my frustration as a plea for some advice. I had an appointment with my GP this morning to confirm my pregnancy and find out what happens next. I ended up with a locum (retired) who when I told him I had a positive home preg test and needed it to be confirmed, said that GPs nowadays didn't really take much of a role in pregnancy and if I had a positive home test then he was quite happy that i was pregnant. He then said he owuld write to the midwife. And where would I like to give birth of the two local hospitals? - Seriously how on earth would I know??? I've never been pregnant before!!!! He gave me an estimated due date - which given my cycles are so irregular could be quite a long way out (but he didnt ask about any of that), and that was my whole appointment.

I went back to the reception desk and he asked the receptionist how long it takes to get an appointment with the midwife and she told me it would not be until 16-18 weeks although she would write to me before that to make contact. No-one seemed sure about whether I would have a 12 week scan but told me I could get a private early scan if I wanted and someone would call me later in the day to discuss these options.

I really feel confused by the whole thing, I have no idea whats happening, when things are supposed to happen or what my options are or anything. And because this is the first time i've been pregnant I don't know what i need to ask. I spent a good 15 minutes when I got home crying down the phone to my poor DH and I am still bursting into tears every 5 minutes (as much to do with hormones as anything else I suspect). I also feel stupid for not demanding more information. Usually I'm really good at asking sensible questions of doctors but even tho I wasn't happy with the "service" I got, I didn't say anything.

Is this kind of thinkg normal?? I know different parts of the country (I'm in the UK) have different procedures but to not see the midwife til half way through the pregnancy and to not even have the doctor do a test to confirm I'm pregnant????

Would welcome some advice and/or comments - and some chocolate if anyone has some
Julia