Our 12 week scan for DD came back 1 in 20 chromosomal abnormality. Combined with the blood test result it actually increased to 1 in 10. Then our sonographer and obs reviewed the results and our obs told us that in her experience, results like ours are bad news - she gave us a 1 in 10 chance that we would make it to term, and if we did, baby would not live long after birth.

We were heartbroken. Devastated. We cried. We screamed. We cried more. I slept a lot. And then we asked "What now?"

We did cvs with the FISH results - fast results, 48 hours. First results - all clear. Waited for the full results - all clear. We had another scan at 16 weeks - all clear. Had a final scan at 20 weeks - all clear.

No one could believe it.

So it's not always bad.

Go gently. Stay away from google. Hug your partner. Talk to your care provider. Talk to people who might understand.... Shield yourself from those who won't.