What if the next one is a "difficult child"?

[angelaartsstudent]

So...My Mum thinks that my next child is going to be a screaming, crying, non-sleeping, puking, ****ting hell demon.

Explanation:

I was apparently a "dream baby". My sister was apparently a hell child. Let's face it, she still is.

When I had P I was lucky to have no difficulties with her apart from some major constipation and wind and eczema. She self settled from day one (basically because I didn't know you were 'meant' to cuddle your baby to sleep...it just didnt cross my mind), slept through from 4 weeks old, has developed fast and with no problems and etc.

I am grateful for that. I wouldn't love her any less if she was stereotypically 'difficult' though.

So Mum is basically wishing a demon child on me. Thanks a ****ing lot Mum.

What if it is? I don't even know what to do with a baby that doesn't self settle, or one with vomiting reflux that hits the wall across the other side of the room (like my sister had), or one that doesn't sleep, or a clingy baby etc.

I didn't want to get pregnant again, ever, but DH REALLY wanted another baby. I am really worried that I will screw Palmer up by having a baby...that she won't feel loved or wanted anymore.

What if I get the boy I always wanted and it's a screaming machine of destruction?

Does anyone else have this type of silly pregnancy anxiety?

[tattoo_mama]

Babe, you know jade has been pretty awful (she is perfect when we go out and at daycare but is a clingy sooky mess the rest of the time and only started sleeping thru 3 weeks ago) and I survived (just), I guess you just adapt, I hope K picks up his game and helps out at home x

[toomanyshoes]

You will cope and you will adapt, but you might also be worrying for nothing.

No one knows how the next one will turn out but just because your sister or mum had it one way doesn't mean it's the same case for you.

Hope it goes smoothly for you

[angelaartsstudent]

I did think of you as I was writing this thread babe and I was thinking "Well I know what E has gone through with Jade, but Jade is so well turned out now and I think she's bloody awesome, so E managed fine and did a good job!"

I think it must be the perfectionist in me wanting to come out...wanting to have "perfect" children...and we all know that is impossible. All our kids have their quirky or annoying side...I don't think the perfect, well behaved child exists. It just seems that all the rich people in my area have perfect designer-book children who never have a tantrum or a hair out of place but I am sure they are probably not.

[toomanyshoes]

I did think of you as I was writing this thread babe and I was thinking "Well I know what E has gone through with Jade, but Jade is so well turned out now and I think she's bloody awesome, so E managed fine and did a good job!"

I think it must be the perfectionist in me wanting to come out...wanting to have "perfect" children...and we all know that is impossible. All our kids have their quirky or annoying side...I don't think the perfect, well behaved child exists. It just seems that all the rich people in my area have perfect designer-book children who never have a tantrum or a hair out of place but I am sure they are probably not.

hahaha yeah wait till you see their kids behind closed doors and how boring for a child anyway!

[boobaloo]

you'll be fine babe, and tell your mum to back off, why would she wish that on you?
even if you have a 'difficult' baby, you'll get through it, you're a survivor.
try to relax xoxox

[MummaSue]

You'll be fine.

My DD was quite difficult when she was born but is turning out to be the most wonderful, affectionate and just plain awesome baby ever. I have to feed her to sleep, carry her quite a lot and not really be out of her sight for longer than a trip to the toilet but I wouldn't have it any other way!

XXX

[Lulu]

there is no reason you will have a demon hell child....but I have to warn you that boys pretty much are machines of destruction. But sooooo much FUN!

[angelaartsstudent]

you'll be fine babe, and tell your mum to back off, why would she wish that on you?
even if you have a 'difficult' baby, you'll get through it, you're a survivor.
try to relax xoxox

Agreed. My problem here is probably more with my mother than with my children. DH says that she knows exactly what to say to make me vulnerable and then kicks me when I'm down.