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when i was pregnant i was set for having the baby in their own room from day one but when she came i couldnt be away from her, i had to hear her little noises to be able to sleep.
You do what is right for YOU and no body else! No one can tell you what to do. Those first 6 weeks are the hardest you are getting to know your bub, and you will need your sleep for the recovery of birth.
DS went straight to a cot in our room then moved into his own room next to ours at 3-4 months. DD co-sleept from day 1 (even while I was in hospital) and she never woke DH up unless she was screaming her lungs out for some reason.
DD1 I had in cot in her own room, DD2 I had in bed with me and it was alot easier having her there, no getting up and down in the night I was right there to settle, feed, whatever.
As for DF waking well he actually set up camp in what is now DD2 room and slept in there for first few months, I know thats not for everyone but worked well here, that way he wasn't too tired so took over alot of the cooking/ cleaning while I could concentrate on a newborn.
Isaac still sleeps in our room lol.
He was in the bassinette (pram) next to our bed for the first 5 months, then into the cot after that. He was also a noisy sleeper but I got used to that after a week and it never bothered DF.
We share a bedroom now and I still love only having to walk a couple of metres to get him in the middle of the night and DF still doesn't hear him when he wakes.
i had DD next to the bed for a few weeks but i found that she did wake DH up a bit and he worked quite late shifts so needed sleep. And DHs snoring wasnt very helpful for either DD or I. so in the end DD and I slept in the spare room for a bit then she went in her own room for a while at about 3 months when she was sleeping better (she slept through the night for about a month) then when she started waking more she came back in with us for a few months casue she was waking 5+ times a night but by then she didnt scream everytime she woke up so it didnt really wake DH up. she went back into her cot after she grew out of that and was fine. she would go in her cot with maybe one quick settle over night and then come into bed with us at about 4am. I guess just go with the flow, in the end of the day you do what ever works for you at the time and basically make it up as you go along :) .
I had DS in our room until he was 6.5 months... and you know what, my DH never woke up to DS, he just doesn't hear him. It's definitely easier having bub in the room with you, and also gives you peace of mind cause bub is right there next to you.
I am the opposite to most of the other ladies - DD was in her own room in her cot from the day we came home from the hospital. Confession time - the main reason is because I watch TV at night time! DH sleeps through that so no doubt he would have easily slept through DD's little noises which, despite being quite loud and super cute. At the very end of my pregnancy I did get really sooky about the whole own room thing and went to the baby shop several times but for some reason never bought one. Instead I bought this insert thing for the cot which made the massive cot look not so scary. I agree with the comments in here about it being easier to reach the baby when it wakes during the night but again for me, I didn't want to feed in bed - I was really worried I would go back to sleep with her in my arms. Obviously I am in the minority - LOL. But my way worked for me and your way will work for you A, you just have to work out what that way is and you probably won't know until your little one arrives. Don't stress about already buying the bassinet. If you don't end up using it, you can just sell it on ebay or here!
We co-sleep. She used to be right in the bed with us. Now we have one of the sides off the cot, and the cot is right up against our bed side-car style. It's awesome and I wouldn't do a single thing differently.
I will say though, I had it in my head that DD would sleep in a bassinet but she hated it and DH said bring her in with us. It's not something that I would ever have considered before but am so glad that we do it that way.
My only advice is to wait and see what happens when bubby comes along babe, you just don't know how things are going to go. So if you get the bassinet you can always sell it, that's what we did :)
Sorry if I'm repeating what others have said, I haven't read all the responses. You will work out what is best for you guys. Every family and every baby is different.
DD was in a bassinet in our room until 10 weeks when we moved her to her cot in her room. She was so noisy though (like most newborns) so she often slept just outside our bedroom door - at first with the door open then with the door closed - then she moved into the hallway and then the kitchen (next to our room). Eventually she made it down the hallway to her own room so both DH and I could sleep better!! LOL!
It was handy having her close by but as our DD was a slow feeder, I always took her to the lounge to feed so I could get comfy and watch TV. So in that sense, it didn't really make my life any easier IYKWIM but I did love having her next to me in the beginning.
I did the bassinette thing in the same room as me, then moved into the cot in our room too. They weren't very noisy as babies, DS1 still is very quiet when he sleeps. Having them in the same room as me helped me sleep I think, and if I could hear them then I knew that they were okay.
Do whatever you're comfortable with. :)
DS co sleeps and the DDs have their own room. When we have tried to let them sleep in our room (when Im being sooky and want to cuddle a baby) they think it's play time and never settle. No joke I've been up 3 hours trying to settle DD1 because if she can see us she thinks she doesn't need to sleep. Coincidentally all 4 of my kids are brilliant sleepers and great at self settling.
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DS is still in with us and thats where i want him.......DH is OK with whatever i woudl like, it was only the first few weeks that i could hear DS and he would wake me, remember just because they are making noises doesnt mean they need to get up, i was so worried about DS waking DH that i would get him up and feed him when really he prob didnt need it, i learnt to let him make the noises and see where it led, if he woke then i would comfort or feed but most of the time he went straight back to sleep
i guess you can never tell till they are here
All mine have been in our room, next to me. DD1 5 months, DD2 9 months, DS 12 months (but still co slept til about 3 months ago) & DD3 still going.
Its totally up to you, but TBH, I can't stand being that far from mine. Knowing that they'd have to be well & truly upset before I'd wake coz I wouldn't hear them as well. Next to me, DD3 barely has a sook & I'm awake. DH would be lucky to hear her.
DD1 was in a bassinette next to the bed or in the bed. Then in a cot in our room till she was 18 months old.
Same with DD2 except lately she sleeps with DP in a spare bed in another room so that he can do the middle of the night feed (he works late night shifts so it makes sense for him to do it when he gets home rather than me stay up till 1am) and I can get up early to DD1. That way, we all get a decent night's sleep.
Our DDs are quiet sleepers and we've always found that they actually sleep better co-sleeping with DP than they do co-sleeping with me for some reason. We think they find his snoring really comforting.
I should have said we got an Angel Care Sound and Movement monitor before we put DD in her own room in her cot. I wouldn't (personally) have been able to sleep without it
On the noise side, I totally agree with others - just because they're making noise doesn't mean they need to be up BUT it depends on the individual whether you can sleep through it or not. I couldn't! :)
DD2 is going to be the one who will have left our room the earliest. She is moving in to DS2's room with him in the coming weeks; she is 15 months old.
I have co slept with all of my babies and they have always had their basinette/cot in our room. DS2 moved into his own room when he was 2yrs & 2 months old.
DD2 isn't much of a co sleeper though, she very much enjoys her own space. She's only moving into the other room because bub #5 is due in early Feb.
I need to have my babies close to me, otherwise I would never sleep. I constantly worry & check on them. Having them by my side makes checking on them that little bit easier.
Only you can know what is right for you & your family :)
I put both DD's on my room whilst they were in the bassinet, and moved them into the cot when they were bigger :-D It makes it alot easier I found to have them in the same room as me.
We put bub straight into a cot in his own room. In hospital I struggled to sleep when he was next to me as I would keep waking up to his noises.
It never worried me getting up to him during the night once we were home, although in saying that, I was lucky enough that he only woke once through the night for a feed.
But if you want to put him in the room with you and partner, do it. You can always change your mind later