Baby in the room at night with you?

[onthefly]

They are quite noisy, but you get used to it. And I always found it quite reassuring, while DH learnt to sleep right through
Just see how you go

[meow]

They are quite noisy, but you get used to it. And I always found it quite reassuring, while DH learnt to sleep right through
Just see how you go

Ditto to that. My H only gets lightly woken when baby wakes, but he can drop off to sleep again while I feed so it's not that bad. Sometimes he's really tired but he works at a desk so it's not like fatigue will kill him... just makes him less productive.

[HotI]

My little one is not noisy at all when she sleeps. I have sometimes poked her just to check she is ok. So all babies are different and you will have to check what works for you and baby when they arrive.

[*LittleMissSummer*]

when i was pregnant i was set for having the baby in their own room from day one but when she came i couldnt be away from her, i had to hear her little noises to be able to sleep.

You do what is right for YOU and no body else! No one can tell you what to do. Those first 6 weeks are the hardest you are getting to know your bub, and you will need your sleep for the recovery of birth.

[toomanyshoes]

DS went straight to a cot in our room then moved into his own room next to ours at 3-4 months. DD co-sleept from day 1 (even while I was in hospital) and she never woke DH up unless she was screaming her lungs out for some reason.

[shellbell3]

DD1 I had in cot in her own room, DD2 I had in bed with me and it was alot easier having her there, no getting up and down in the night I was right there to settle, feed, whatever.
As for DF waking well he actually set up camp in what is now DD2 room and slept in there for first few months, I know thats not for everyone but worked well here, that way he wasn't too tired so took over alot of the cooking/ cleaning while I could concentrate on a newborn.

[Calluna]

Isaac still sleeps in our room lol.

He was in the bassinette (pram) next to our bed for the first 5 months, then into the cot after that. He was also a noisy sleeper but I got used to that after a week and it never bothered DF.
We share a bedroom now and I still love only having to walk a couple of metres to get him in the middle of the night and DF still doesn't hear him when he wakes.

[starangelk]

I am the opposite to most of the other ladies - DD was in her own room in her cot from the day we came home from the hospital. Confession time - the main reason is because I watch TV at night time! DH sleeps through that so no doubt he would have easily slept through DD's little noises which, despite being quite loud and super cute. At the very end of my pregnancy I did get really sooky about the whole own room thing and went to the baby shop several times but for some reason never bought one. Instead I bought this insert thing for the cot which made the massive cot look not so scary. I agree with the comments in here about it being easier to reach the baby when it wakes during the night but again for me, I didn't want to feed in bed - I was really worried I would go back to sleep with her in my arms. Obviously I am in the minority - LOL. But my way worked for me and your way will work for you A, you just have to work out what that way is and you probably won't know until your little one arrives. Don't stress about already buying the bassinet. If you don't end up using it, you can just sell it on ebay or here!

[Sterla]

I had DS in our room until he was 6.5 months... and you know what, my DH never woke up to DS, he just doesn't hear him. It's definitely easier having bub in the room with you, and also gives you peace of mind cause bub is right there next to you.

[MummaSue]

We co-sleep. She used to be right in the bed with us. Now we have one of the sides off the cot, and the cot is right up against our bed side-car style. It's awesome and I wouldn't do a single thing differently.

I will say though, I had it in my head that DD would sleep in a bassinet but she hated it and DH said bring her in with us. It's not something that I would ever have considered before but am so glad that we do it that way.

My only advice is to wait and see what happens when bubby comes along babe, you just don't know how things are going to go. So if you get the bassinet you can always sell it, that's what we did

[UntoldAngel]

We put bub straight into a cot in his own room. In hospital I struggled to sleep when he was next to me as I would keep waking up to his noises.
It never worried me getting up to him during the night once we were home, although in saying that, I was lucky enough that he only woke once through the night for a feed.

But if you want to put him in the room with you and partner, do it. You can always change your mind later

[Kazbah]

We had Pip in a cradle in our walk-in robe for the first 9 months - mind you, that's cause we physically didn't have any other room for him. Had a breathing sensor for his cradle and this gave a lot of relief. I tried co-sleeping with him in our bed but I'd wake up screaming, thinking I'd smothered him, even if he wasn't in our bed (so DH banned that idea ) I also spent the first weeks at home camped in the lounge with him.

You'll work out what to do and how it works for you - you could try borrowing a cradle / bassinet for a while before deciding. although TBH, you'll prolly know by the time you finish in hospy if you can sleep with a bub in your room or not. Take advantage of your hospy with DH to sleep over as well to see how he goes

[nickle730]

Mine DS and DD1 were in a cradle next to the bed for the first few months. DS moved into his cot in his own room. DD1 moved into our bed for a few years! DD2 is already in our bed. Although she sometimes spends the first half of the night in her cradle which is pulled right up to my side of the bed. My DS hated co-sleeping and would never settle in our bed (although he always comes for a cuddle in the morning). Every baby is different and you will figure out what works for you.

My DH sleeps through any crying in the night and like so many others he has woken in the morning and said 'Gee, that was a great night, she slept all night!' as my eyeballs are hanging out of my head after an unsettled night of feeding and comforting! If I need him on a Friday or Saturday night, if I need DH's help, I literally have to kick him to wake him up and DH is not a particularly heavy sleeper. I think he just sets his brain to not respond to the crying during the week as he knows I will. He needs to tell his brain that weekends are different!!

[Kirsten]

We had DS in a basinette by the bed, DP would get up and change DS then give him to me to feed him. It's was very much a both up at night thing with us in the early days. I had a while where I had to express due to nipple issues, so I could get up and express and DP would be up feeding DS. I didn't want DS in his own room, I wanted him right there next to us I was very sad when we put him in his own cot in his own room (at about 4 months and only about 2 metres from our room).

[Shanti]

I think babies are safest when sleeping near their parents SIDS guidelines state this too, to keep baby close to you ie in your room for the first 6mths or so.

We had DD in our room with us for the first 4mths and you get used to hearing their little noises in the night too and it's reassuring they are breathing! I couldn't have imagined having DD anywhere else but with us! Mind you its exhausting getting up and having to walk to their room to feed them too!!!
After 4mths she went to her own room as she slept better in her own room as DH's snoring would wake her up! Then 9mths of age she came back in and co-slept with us from then on.....

I think it's one of those things you will just work out when bub arrives.

[Cassius2]

DD1 absolutely hated being in the bed with us, but was happy as larry in the cot in our room. i wanted her in my room but after 5 weeks couldnt handle all the grunting and farting that was eminating from her general direction while she slept...kept me awake . so she went to her own room with no fuss.

with DD2 she was in the bassinet in our room and now is in the cot in our room. she starts the night in her cot and if she wakes for a feed she generally then stays in our bed after that feed. LOVE IT! she loves it and i find i am less tired in the morning than when DD1 was this age in her own room (i feed her lying in bed, no getting up to the other room etc).
there are times when her grunting (but curiously no farting lol) does get to me (DH can sleep through anything lol) so i just migrate to the loungeroom where we have a mattress hiding under the couch ready to go (2 bdrm house ). it works well for us!

HTH!

[~*familyof3*~]

we will have bubs in our room in a bassinet DH wouldnt want it any other way...in fact it was his idea said he would sleep better that way he doesnt care if he wakes or not

[LaDolceVita]

We had our DS in our room in the hammock for the first 4 weeks, then in the cradle for the next 8 and then in his cot but still in our room until he was 10 months old and LOVED it! He was (and still is!) a fantastic sleeper so it made it quite easy for us, we all slept well, he was right there for feeds/should he need settling etc and to be honest, we just loved having our little family all close and together in the same room... Our bedroom is big though so there were no space restrictions even with his big cot in there we still had lots of space... I don't know I always find it strange that the smallest most defenceless person in the home is the only one who has to sleep alone? While the biggest 'protectors' of the house get to pair up and snuggle all night?? I know that's the way it is but it still seems weird to me! We would have co slept if we could have gotten over the fear of rolling over him in the night and sometimes did in the early days after the first morning feed.. We just loved having him so close, we cried when he went to his big boy room!