I want to have a baby shower for this baby. For DS, I had a baby shower, that was more my sister's Chocoholics Anonymous party. It was both, but the majority of guests were for her. I'm not complaining though

This time I wanted something specifically for me/the baby. This will most likely be the last addition to the family, so I wanted to do something.

I wanted to invite family, friends, friends from uni etc and have them bring their kids and partners. I wanted DH to 'entertain' the partners and children outside, then put on a lunch of sorts.

Does that sound silly?

I also have no idea how to word the invitation.

DS got heaps of soft toys/ stuffed animals when he was born... and really, what use does a newborn have with a stuffed animal? Surely DS could lend the ones he got to the baby? How would I word "no stuffed toys" on the invite without being rude? No toys in general, really. I do have some stuff I kept from when DS was a baby...

I don't want to sound ungrateful... just practical.... iykwim.

Also, we're going to use cloth nappies. I didn't want to further insult guests by saying no nappies (coz I'm sure for the first few weeks we'll alternate with cloth and disposable -especially with the weather QLD has been having lately)

These people, if they want, are gifting out of the goodness of their heart. I don't want to insult them.

I'm so torn as what to do and what to write/say.

Any ideas?