Back on the rollercoaster again...

Well yesterday came and I still hadn't heard about my follow up scan so I called the u/s office to enquire about what was happening, the receptionist said the Dr wasn't there and to call back in the morning! Where has customer service gone, do receptionists not take messages anymore?

So I call again this morning only to be told by a different receptionist that they have spoken with my ob and he will be organising my u/s with monash medical centre, with the fetal diagnostic unit (the hospital that I had DD and had chosen not to go back to for many reasons, I do not have faith in their FDU), so I call my ob and ask him what is happening, he says I have to go for a scan at MMC, I asked if he was going to organise that for me and he kind of fumbled and just said 'oh'. I said what am I meant to organise it myself? He says oh um are you coming back to me for any more appointments? Well yes, you are my Ob!!! So I have an appointment with him on Monday, he is going to organise the u/s with MMC. I have a funny feeling that he has referred me to MMC without telling me! I am just kind of stuck with no idea what is happening.

I have decided in the meantime that I will go to MMC for my u/s and to deliver, they delivered Matilda and she is doing well so I am trying to have faith that they will deliver Annabelle and care for her the same. I am a bit scared of my chances of a VBAC there though, I see that dream flying out the window, but I will speak with them.

In the meantime, I have been bleeding this morning, I freaked out, called my GP went down to see her, she had a look, my cervix is closed and the blood had gone brown and there are no clots, she has referred me for an u/s at 3pm, since then there has been no bleeding, I feel like I have just jumped to conclusions for nothing.

Why can things not be easier? I am a bit over getting stuffed about, where has communication and common curtusy gone especially when it comes to such a delicate matter? I wish there was a competent hospital near by.

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:hug: Oh man, what a stuff up. Your OB sounds like he needs a swift kick up the butt.
You don't have to go to MMC, you could go to the Mercy and be transferred to the RCH. If you're really not happy with it ask your OB what your other options are.....
You poor thing, being shoved from one place to the next. :(

:hug::hug::hug:Oh hun I so sorry you are being put through all of this! I think you should have a really good chat with ur ob and tell him you aren't happy with what is happening! It really isnt good enough. I m sure all will be fine at ur u/s today. Don't know what to say...I am thinking of you and we r all here if u need our help to back you up so you feel you have the confidence to stand up for yourself and demand the medical care you deserve!!

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how frustrating DD! :wall::wall::wall:

Hugs....MMC is a great hospital.

Annabelle is a fighter!

Thanks everyone. I just feel like I have been stuffed around so much. I wanted minimal to intervention this time and an overall good experience, but it is looking like it may be worse.

MiraBelle - I know alot of people speak very highly of MMC but I went there with my DD and they did not pick up any of her abnormalities even though I had fortnightly ultrasounds from 20 weeks to birth.
At 28 weeks I went for an ultrasound at 9am, they told me nothing but I needed to go for monitoring so up I went, at 3pm they finally tell me (why I had been kept there all day) that my baby is so incrediabily small that she would not survive unless she was delivered that day, they did another ultrasound at 3.30pm only to tell me that my measurements were spot on for my dates and that I could go home, I left at 4pm. Major stuff up and I am so lucky I demanded another ultrasound that day.
That is just part of it, so unfortunatly my faith in them is not really good :(.
But thankyou for your support, I just wanted to explain why I did not feel the same.

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Thanks everyone. I just feel like I have been stuffed around so much. I wanted minimal to intervention this time and an overall good experience, but it is looking like it may be worse.

MiraBelle - I know alot of people speak very highly of MMC but I went there with my DD and they did not pick up any of her abnormalities even though I had fortnightly ultrasounds from 20 weeks to birth.
At 28 weeks I went for an ultrasound at 9am, they told me nothing but I needed to go for monitoring so up I went, at 3pm they finally tell me (why I had been kept there all day) that my baby is so incrediabily small that she would not survive unless she was delivered that day, they did another ultrasound at 3.30pm only to tell me that my measurements were spot on for my dates and that I could go home, I left at 4pm. Major stuff up and I am so lucky I demanded another ultrasound that day.
That is just part of it, so unfortunatly my faith in them is not really good :(.
But thankyou for your support, I just wanted to explain why I did not feel the same.

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I'm speechless.

Oh hunny, big :hug: for you. I'm sorry you are being stuffed around, I hope you will be able to sort some things out with your Ob on Monday. You have every right to feel the way you do, and please know that we'll support you no matter what :grouphug:

as always you are a amazing woman, I truly dont know how you are staying so sane...

I hope you got some more answers today :hug:

I swear things just keep going from bad to worse, I won't type it again but I have yet again been stuffed around by doctors and I am ready to snap, I am so ANGRY.

I cannot deal with incompetent doctors anymore.

If you feel like reading anymore of my dramas:

http://forums.bellybelly.com.au/foru...ly-fuming.html

I have had enough :cry:.

:(hugs hun xx :hug:

i hope tomorrow brings good news x

I thought that I would pop in to update everyone. I finally had my ultrasound and meeting with the cardiac specialist on Thursday. Annabelle definately has a coarctation of the aorta or an aortic interruption however they are still unsure which one it is. They also discovered that she has a small hole in her heart but at this stage they say it is a good thing as it is allowing blood through to the smaller side of her heart which can reduce complications while I am still pregnant. They are going to watch the hole but say it is only small and could close by birth.

She is most likely going to require the surgery when she is born, they say within the first week. I have been told that she will be in hospital for about 2 weeks, I really hope this is right, I think I can handle 2 weeks, I really don't want to think about if it is going to be longer like Matilda.

They have already bought up the suggestion of having a CS, the reason being, as they know that she will require intensive care shortly after birth they would like to have the required team of staff ready for her arrival, usually they would just induce the mother but due to my previous CS they suggest a repeat CS. This is something I have to research, discuss and decide between now and 37 weeks. I have so many more reasons for wanting a vaginal birth because she is going to be sick than before.

Either way it appears that our little Annabelle will be here before Christmas and we will be spending Christmas in hospital, I feel a bit sad for Matilda as she will be 19 months and would really enjoy the festive season, we are thinking of celebrating a couple of weeks later when Annabelle is home and inviting the family, asking them to keep hold of her pressies (and we will hold onto theirs) to celebrate properly just a little bit late.

Matilda had a sleep study earlier this week and we have heard that her results were not good and she may require more surgery, I don't know what or when, I am meeting with her specialists on Friday, I am a bit nervous as maxiofaciall have requested an appointment with the whole team, they are the team that did her jaw distraction surgery when she was 9 weeks old, I am a bit worried about what they make of the sleep study results.

All in all though, I am doing really well, now that I am getting answers and a bit more respect and understanding for the medical profession I feel like I can handle anything.

I am in awe of your strength hun.
Im glad u are getting some much needed answers.

So glad you finally got in for your appt, and now have a plan going forward. Like Anila said, your strength is amazing, I dont know how I would cope in your situation. And dont ever forget we are all here for you hun :grouphug: