Did you tell people you were expecting an IVF / FET baby?
Reply With QuoteThanks for the congrats! We're so excited, but still cautious as well. Don't think we can relax till bub is safely in our arms and alive and well.
Thanks so much girls for your honest and open responses. Bringing this up has been quite good, as it's a subject that's been on my mind a lot recently. I told my husband that I was putting this post on and we had a long conversation about telling people or not. I think there's lots of reasons keeping me from telling people. I think the reason I was asking is deeper than just being ashamed of having conceived via IVF.
One of the big ones is that I told my temporary boss last year when I was pregnant and was having loads of medical appointments and made the mistake of trusting her and telling her it was conceived through IVF. She doesn't have kids of her own and did not understand at all. This year she's my boss and when I told her we were pregnant she asked if it was through IVF. Even though I didn't have to reply I still did and said yes. I found out last year after I told her all this that she shares stories and tells other people what hardship certain people have gone through, sometimes going into details. I don't think it's up to other people to decide to share our story. It also makes me feel uncomfortable as I don't know if and who she's told. One of my other colleagues started a story about a friend of hers who did IVF and while she was talking she was staring at my bump. Then I'm thinking, has my boss told her???
Another thing is that my parents are very strict Christian, when I was living at home they were against a lot of things going on in the modern world. One was getting married after divorce, which I did last year, but in the last few years they've eased up on that and they were happy to attend my wedding. I'm sure they used to be against IVF or other intervention to do with babies. So more or less said if you can't conceive, don't go against nature. They don't know that we conceived this way, and I don't know if we should ever tell them. I'm just worried for their response and worried they might love our little one less?!
Just wanted to say - Dusty - love the way you see the whole pregnancy. Thanks for sharing as well!
And MLR - Can't believe you're 38 weeks pregnant already! I think we were in the miscarriage group together for a while almost a year ago?!
Oh yeah, forgot to add one more thing... Sometimes I think why is it so important to share. When one conceives naturally you're not going to ask / tell when it was conceived, how and in what position it was conceived etc??? I feel sharing about IVF is about just as intimate.
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