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If you were responding to a post that was in regard to infertility and that eating pork increases the risk of infertility... In this thread women that were suffering infertility were replying. I came along and said: "well I'm growing increasingly tired of this post and I have suffered from infertility but I still ate pork and look I have a baby... It is my belief that some women just can't have babies..." ( I know your words were different - I am trying to paint the picture) How would that be heard?
Because even though the example is different, it does illustrate the reason for your hurt so much more clearly, thankyou! It is sometimes so hard to delineate, isn't it, between personal and general feelings. I was so wrapped up in trying to explain why i had the attitude i did, i didn't think for a second that someone who was NOT in or about to come from the place i'm at could actually be tripped up and really hurt by my unintentional insensitivity! Sometimes i really need to pull my head out of my...well, you know! One of my parents had a very "you might be hurt but i never meant to hurt you so it's your problem" attitude at times and it's something i can fall victim to myself, speaking loudly before thinking about how it will be taken by others. Especially ridiculous when you consider their advice following my second loss ("at least you know you can get pregnant") was so incredibly painful for me.