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My mum had 2 known losses around the 12 week mark of 6 kids. She thinks there may have been a couple of others though.
I've got 4 kids with 1 possible chem pregnancy between baby 3 and baby 4 (cycle is 25 days, I went to 28-29 days one month and started having symptoms but then AF showed)
I was under the impression, according to my fertility specialist, that the 'normal' miscarriage rate is 1 in 6. Ive had 7 losses, 3 live births and currently pregnant (11 pregnancies all up). After my 5th miscarriage my specialist said my personal rate was 1 in 2. Probably near impossible after the last 2 miscarriages but here I am!
3 babies followed by a miscarriage for me
3 babies, no known losses. I'm not sure if I was pregnant a month before our last baby/pregnancy as I had the symptoms for a few days and then nothing (?) Never showed up on a home test, but then again our third pregnancy took ages to show positive.
I did have bleeding with all 3 around 6-8 weeks and thought I'd lost each of them. Did the ultrasounds etc. Never worked out why that was.
4 pregnancies, 1 daughter, 2 early miscarriages and 1 current pregnancy 28w2d.
I never knew how common miscarriages were until I had my first loss.
2 miscarriages, 1 Chem currently 23 weeks pregnant.
My second pregnancy ended in miscarriage. And i've had 2 suspected chemicals. My sister had 5 babies before having her first m/c. my mum had 9 pregnancies with 2 ending in m/c.
I'm right with 'average' at the moment. I had one loss, then DD and am now over half way with this one.
I lost my first at 12.5 weeks. It was a missed miscarriage, so my body was still 'acting pregnant' when I was told what had happened. I had no idea that could happen.
I am now 21 weeks with my second. I agree with MLR that it does take the naive joy out of following pregnancies (which in itself feels like a loss), especially with the experience of missed miscarriage. It's hard to feel like you can trust your body. Sorry to sound so gloomy!
I feel it's important for women to talk about it though, as I think knowing about the reality that it does happen makes it a little easier to cope.
I find it hard when people ask (now that I am very visibly pregnant) if this is my first. The truth is complicated, but even though I feel it should be talked about, it's not something to go blurting out to shop attendants! In some ways though I do wonder if it perpetuates the myth that babies aren't lost often?
a friend of mine has 9 kids and she had one m/c.
I had a fairly early miscarriage (about 8 weeks) then had a full term stillbirth (Ellen at 41 weeks) then had Harry who is now 14 months born at 38 weeks (c/s).
Oddly I did not stress much about the miscarriage, just thought oh well, wasn't meant to be, nature taking it's course. Stillbirth was another matter.
I had my DD then had one missed miscarriage this year. I am kind of suspicious of the month before my miscarriage as AF was very late but I never actually tested before AF arrived.