I am part of the 1-6 month TTC thread and almost due to move on to the 6+ thread... we naturally always get very excited when any one of us finally gets that and congratulate before they move on...
and then we quietly hope and pray that it will be us next...wondering what we should have done differently ...what we did wrong ...
So I am wondering if all the recent would like to share what exactly they did in that very cycle leading up to getting that BFP !
Thank you ever so much , and i am really looking forward to read about all your stories of success
Gecko, the main thing we did differently is we signed up to do IVF with ICSI and we assumed that as we had been trying for a while and that we had just been told our chances of getting a natural BFP were less than 5% that we wouldn't get PG naturally. So we DTD only twice that cycle, I didnt take the clomid (it made me a crazy b***h) and when I did do the ovulation blood test it showed that I hadn't even o'd. So we threw in the towel for that cycle in preparation for Christmas and starting our IVF journey in Jan 09. Seems that I did o but later than we thought I would...
Then I had to wait for AF to start the treatment and guess what? BFP.
I know you have heard these stories before and believe me I would have happily gouged out the eyes of the next person to tell me to just relax and let nature takes its course - there is no way I thought that would happen for us. And it did. And there is really no reason for that. It just happened. The only difference for me was that I relaxed because I kind of gave up on getting pg by ourselves and was pleased to be handing that responsibility over to "experts".
I think from memory you are charting? When I decided to start TTC I started charting, I found this so helpful and also if I had not I would have had no hope as I just assumed that I ovulated on day 14-16 of my cycle when in fact I do not o until day 28-29.
The month I concieved we started DTD once a day, every second day from when I first noticed fertile CM which happened to be 9 days before I o'd, we continued to do so until I noticed my temperature shift.
I believe that the charting (watching my CM and temping in particular) and timing with DTD really was the major factor in getting our BFP.
Gecko, I wish you the best of luck and really hope it is your turn soon .
For us, I had gotten tired of the charting and no results at the end of the month so I gave up on the temping, recording CM, everything, just let it all go and shrugged my shoulders and thought whatever. That month, got the BFP.
The things we did the month we conceived were:
- I was charting (had been for 3 months - used Fertility Friend, the VIP membership)
- I was checking CM and other fertile signs and logging them in FF
- I used digital OPK's - the smiley face made it so easy to know when I was fertile
- we used Pre-Seed when we DTD
- we only DTD twice - on days 13 and 16 for memory
With our successful months, I knew I had a 27-28 day cycle, so we DTD on day 13 & 15. We may have done it at other times, but I made sure we did it on those days. I did try out the MaybeBaby but it never gave me a definate. Other than that I didn't do anything like CM, temping, charting, as I knew it would make me more anxious.
I had also gone to see the Dr who confirmed me and DH were in good health and then just tried to let mother nature take its course. (of course DH would say I was POAS every day to see if we were succesful.... and he unfortunately is right!) It is hard to relax about the whole thing, but from what the others say, it is a pretty common thing to have success when you do let go.
? In Hindsight? Plea to all recent BFP
and congratulate before they move on...
, and i am really looking forward to read about all your stories of success
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