I agree that it is such a personal choice. We both agreed that we were going to have it done while we were still TTC. We also agreed that should we get a high-risk reading, we would have an amnio or CVS. Taking the decision then made it easier to go ahead a do what was a very emotional screening for both of us when the time came. I do not necessarily agree with the view that it is pointless unless you are willing to terminate. I would rather say that it is pointless unless you are willing to have an amnio or further examinations to clarify any doubts. Just my opinion

Our reasoning was that, whilst we may not have terminated (unless the baby had no chance of survival and / or would pose a very serious life risk to me), we felt that being informed of any potential challenges lying ahead would empower us and equip us to more readily handle a child with special needs and requirements. The last thing we wanted was to be in the awful position of not being properly prepared to support a child that had very specific emotional, physical or financial needs that we may have been unable to cater for had we not known in advance.

Further to this, we knew that at the scan we would be able to have them check a variety of other things. They checked the health and position of my cervix, the blood flow in and out of the umbilical cord, that bub had 4 properly-sized heart chambers, that the placenta was in the right spot and healthy etc.

Our risk for DS is extremely low, which we are so thankful for. The hour-long scan was very special for both DH and I. DH walked out saying that he would have to categorise that scan as one of the top 3 experiences of his life. It was for both of us - we were both in tears most of the way through. So whilst it could have been a sad experience for us, we were fortunate enough to have had a very special one.

Nothing has changed for us and we will definitely have NT scans (and amnios, if required) for all future pregnancies.

Firstbub, it is such a difficult decision to make and I hope that our feedback helps. Big x