Have you thought about having a birth attendant or doula? the last thing you want to worry about in labour is if he is okay, you need to worry about you or the anxiety will only slow labour. Continuous care during labour is exactly what the doctor ordered, but you have to get your own these days Check out https://www.bellybelly.com.au/birth-support for more info. I am also finishing off an article at the moment for men about birth support & their partner in labour.