Christmas this year for us is at my DH Aunties house and its only about an hours drive away but we are not going as its too close to our bubs arrival also. I feel bad but DH has his priorities right as he says that we are his family now and its more important that we stay together and close to home and to hospital. Although I am sure the family think I am a wuss we don't really care. I wont risk it and spend the day stressed out and uncomfortable.
A wedding is a bit different. But I can completely understand your thoughts and its a tough one for him to have to make. But seriously I am sure his family would understand.