Dan.. You certainly didn't offend, I just didn't know where you were coming from!!

Comments like "why are you lost?""do you need directions?" and "How does that make any sense" are defensive and not too polite thats all. If you were gay, you would very obviously need a surrogate mummy, so there is no need to be rude, thats all.

Jac... I hope you weren't refering to me being judgemental, because I certianly did not judge. He infered that the "maid" will decide whether to breastfeed or not, not the "mum", hence my confusion, thats all. Simply asking is NOT judging.