having DH ask me if it is normal to be so tired! and rolling his eyes when i mention any symptoms or niggles! (he was much more supportive first time round)!
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having DH ask me if it is normal to be so tired! and rolling his eyes when i mention any symptoms or niggles! (he was much more supportive first time round)!
Oh im so glad ive found this thread! no one else understands the moans and complains of a pregnant woman like other pregnant women!!!
bad M/S from week 4 to week 13
sleeping on my side, finding myself on my back when i wake up
watching three other pregnant women at work who are "loving being pregnant" and have had NO ISSUES at all
being bloated
craving food that is SO bad for me
being SO tired all the time (this is a big one for me)
PT issues (oh i could go on forever about this topic.....)
When i saw a lady the other night (who has been TTC for a few years unsuccesfully) i saw her just as teh baby pushed on my pelvic bone and really hurt me on my right hand side and i had to lift my leg up and she said to me "are you not enjoying your pregnancy?" almost incrediously and i just looked at her and thought... you will never understand until you are in this position! and then i felt bad for thinking that cos thats what she wants as well but i couldnt very well let her know i was not enjoying the bonding of my son and my pelvic bone so i had to pretend i was fine!
i said "i am, im just tired alot and there are aches and pains i have to deal with etc etc"
Im over rude people on the train and tram, the fact that i have to ask for a seat is ridiculous and the fact taht people look at my belly and push in front of me anyway to get the last seat makes me want to B!tch slap them.
The two tram drivers with nearly empty trams that went straight past me on a rainy day, one after the other, when i was the only one standing there with my hand (and belly) sticking out!
Im just grateful for my DH's patience as i moan and moan about all these things. Beleive me i am very very grateful for my little bundle, i will just be even happier when he's out and im not going through half these things anymore.
Roll on January (oh why is it so far away!)
Yay a thread I can relate too lol.
Ok here goes
M/S until after 17 weeks
DF bringing home 2 viruses in 3 weeks
My other kids not helping around the house
Sore back
sorer hips
Not being able to bend over because of the bump
Not being able to sit properly cause the baby is so low and kicks me in the vjj
Soooooooo tired about 3pm
Not sleeping at night
and the list could go on lol
At least DF is supportive and this time he didn't have the M/S symptoms with me
Rock on November
I'm tired.
Oh soooo tired.
And I just woke up from a nap. I feel like I could sleep through until the morning.
My belly hurts and I have NO motivation to do anything - why aren't I nesting??? I want to nest....
It's GORGEOUS outside but the thought of getting Isabelle and the pram set up was just too much so I put on a DVD for her and now I feel like cr@p for taking 30 mins for myself.
I want to enjoy these last few weeks of pregnancy but I'm just too tired.
I don't remember being like this in the last few weeks with Iz.
The Wiggles annoy me.
DH went back to work today after a week and a half off and I miss him.
Off to feel sorry for myself. :crying:
Thank god for vent thread. I've had the most awful night last night and morning!
Partner is giving me the absolute Sh@!s. He's usually very sweet and patient but last night he had a 6 pack with a mate and i'm exhausted and told him i'm going to sleep so he followed me into the bedroom and kept talking to me - i kept asking, 'please let me sleep, it's 11pm i'm TIRED and have to work tomorrow' .... he just kept talking (about nothing much).
of course i got cranky and then he got cranky and said 'go to sleep then, that's all you're good for these days'. makes me feel awful but at the same time SOOOOO mad. He's not had to sacrifice ANYTHING for this so far (given, he quit smoking but so what)... what i wouldn't give for him to carry the friggen thing for 9 months, no drinking, certain foods, exhaustion, hormones etc etc etc.
Why can't men understand (even the nice ones!). Are there any books out there that explain it in 'men speak' because it doesn't matter how much i tell him i'm tired, not hungry, don't like smells/ food, feel nauseous. i feel like he thinks i'm putting it on!
BLOODY MEN! :wall:
has anyone else had to put up with this - how did you cope? I feel like i'm going to have to endure this alone with no understanding support! :cry:
:hug: hun - they really have NO idea and no amount of reading or explaining does it for them. It has only been in the last few weeks that my DH has had the lightbulb go off because he has been home alot during the day to see WHY I have been so tired! Im huge and he watches me get up off the floor from playing with Isabelle and the look on his face is priceless! It will pass for you though and then you will have the 2nd trimester to be feeling wonderful, pregnant and gorgeous!!
I hope it sinks in for him too and feel free to vent any time! :)
More gripes lol
my belly is huge and getting in the way
I'm starting to swell up in my fingers and feet
baby is sitting so low I feel like it is going to drop out any minute
still have sore back
and sorer hips
have to waddle everywhere now as can't manouvre my way round anything because of the belly
feeling like I have to clean then getting puffed just from getting up
Am so sick of this
just dropping in to vent too:doh:
i dont remember pregnancy being this hard with my other 3 , i did have bad M/S but i dont remeber having so much trouble sleeping , ive not had more than 3 hours of sleep a night with this one.
My back kills all the time,ive been super cranky all the time and the last couple of weeks ive been out of breath a lot because i feel like i have a huge wieght on my chest .grrr.
enough from me for today.:rolleyes:
Being sick and not being able to take anything for it!!! therefore feeling worse than the average joe at just having a cold and cough....grrrrrr
people think im a sook!:(
Grr I need to have a big vent about public transport in Melbourne!!!!!!
I took a packed tram at lunch time up to the hospital to have my 20 week u/s. Bubs is measuring large for her gestation so I am a bit bigger than you'd expect and to my eyes I am clearly LOOKING like I am pregnant. It must be obvious as people I haven't told are starting to ask me when I am due!
For crying out loud, I got off at the hospital stop and got back on to go back to work at the hospital. So do you think people would realise and offer me a seat? NO!!!!!!! :angry:
The same thing happens when I get the train home from work. If I do not shove my way on to grab one of the precious remaining seats on the train, I have to stand, for up to 45 mins until I get home.
How rude are people!!!!!!
I am worried it is going to get worse the bigger I get and the hotter it becomes!
C'mon people of Melbourne - offer a pregnant woman a seat!!!!!!!! :wall:
Ocean - what line are you on? im on the werribee line and i make sure i get seat for my 50 min train ride, if i dont then i make someone move. i dont care how embarrassed i am about it, my body is going through enough without having to stand for that long. If you are on my line at the same time as me i would be glad to save you a seat, otherwise use the transport law to your advantage, the signs do say they MUST give up their seat for pregnant women.
Thought I would have a vent in here... some things you just can't share with family or friends!
Whinge #1:
Having a cold and not being able to take any codral :doh: *cough* *splatter* *cough* *sniff* - and to top it off everyone wants to tell me what I should be doing to get over it - "Drink lots of water, eat chicken soup, drink lemon tea, lots of bed rest".... LIKE I DON'T KNOW ALL THAT! IT DOESN'T MAKE ME FEEL ANY BETTER HEARING IT A MILLION TIMES!!!!!
Whinge #2
I like to think I am a fairly practical, intelligent, sensible woman. This however doesn't stop people giving me advice on EVERYTHING. I know they mean well, but when MIL says things like "I'm really worried about your cat when the baby is here" - I mean really! Firstly, its my cat and my baby - let me worry about it. Secondly, do you think I am so stupid that I would just let my cat have free reign over the house to curl up with my baby whilst I'm not looking :rolleyes:
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh That feels so much better! Thanks for listening ;)
Josephine, that is so sweet of you!!! :D
I'm on the Hurstbridge line - can take anywhere from 40 to 50 mins to get to my stop.
Thanks for the thought though!
Lilcosmo, I know what you mean! Its like being pregnant gives every single other person who has been remotely involved with a baby at some point in their life (even being a baby when they were younger is good apparently enough :lol: ) the instant "expert" status!
Hi All,
Just found this site and think it is brill!
I wanted to get peoples feedback on choosing c section over vaginal birth. I wouldnt want to go thru a day of agony if it is not necessary but the reactions I get when I tell people are amazing, It seems to be very contraversial to not WANT to have a vaginal Birth why is this? would love to hear what others think
lilcosmo...I'm with you...I am already so sick of everyone telling me what I should be doing...eating...buying...organising...what colour...grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr...and the next person that touches my belly....LOOK OUT...coz I'm going to touch theirs right back and give it a good old wobble lol :)
LOL Ellie!!! please let us know when you do that, i wanna know the reaction you get hehehe
:p
Ellie :rofl: Thats a great idea!!
Sorry my time for a whinge.
At work I am currently in comeone else's role while they are on long service leave. They had been here 7 years and I haven't even been here for 1.
On friday I bled LOTS and on Monday and Tuesday discovered that I had infact had twins but miscarried one of them. After being prodded and poked, been to 2 hospitals, 3 doctor appointments, ultrasound and a needle in my bum (anti-d) I come back to work on Wednesday.
I have 3 uni assignments due in on Friday and have been so exhausted, haven't started them. Couldn't even pick up a box of printer paper at work this morning and just about puked everywhere when I tried. Also have a freelance graphic design job to finish (which I am thinking I may have to turn down).
Have what feels like the flu and am not sleeping well and have shocking cramps still.
My body is past it...it's so tired. It's had enough. If I was in my normal role at work and not this one I would ask to go part time for a few weeks but no one else knows how to do this job and it's integral to the running of the place. People keep telling me I look like s**t which really doesn't help my spirits :-)
Slipped in the kitchen on Saturday night and had a fall. Hurt back, wrist and ankle. Bummer.
All I want to do is lay down with a warm pack on my belly and try to sleep!
Am so confused over whether to keep trucking on through work stress (with these assignments to finish...which means a few all-nighters) knowing that I will burn myself out or say "stuff work" for a bit and have a rest.
I'm not the crying type but I could definatley cry now!
Ever since telling work i was pregnant at 9weeks i've had people freely commenting on just how massive i apprently am for so early on in my pregnancy :angry: Just recently it seems to have eased of some.
That was until today!!!!!!!!
I had a customer happily make a comment about my belly. I was told "Gee you're massive for not being very far along" :angry: :angry: :angry: I promptly replied with " I know i've had people telling me how huge i am since i was 9 weeks". Thanks ever so much for making me feel like a freakin whale lady, I'm having a baby & popped early.
I bet if i wasn' showing as much i'd then probably be told i'm too small for how far along i am,you just can't win.
Nope Blue you can't win!!! Still no Belly and when i say i'm 14 weeks people repeat it with their eyebrows raised like i'm telling a porky! :doh:
I'm fat anyway and DREADING the day someone asks me if I am fat or pregnant!
Same here hun... someone asked me today if I am starting to show... I said I dunno as I already have a tummy!!!:
I thought I wasn't showing either but I have lot 5 kilos (damn morning sickness) and my button up top doesn't button up on the bottom part of my but anymore so there must be something there under the fat roll! :-)
hey everyone
oh blueiris - i wish i was in ur situation - i'm 18.5 weeks and not showing at all - only put on half a kilo ... ppl at work keep commenting to me that i'm not showing and raise their eyebrows like i'm lying or having a phantom pregnancy.
I think it is SO rude ppl commenting on bellies. everyone is different. i never tell ppl if they're big or small for their stage of pregnancy. no ones business.!!
not showing yet either but already some people feel they have the right to my belly!!!! gggrrrr
and the whole "was that an accident?" thing too....
and the "i bet your hoping its a boy" thing too
OMG myson - me too - even tho not showing - people come up and touch me.
None of my friends have randomly grabbed me - they all ask - but associates and colleagues who i barely know grab me and touch my stomach.
i find it so rude. :o
You need to start grabbing their bellies back! That's what I plan to do... haven't had any random gropes though!
Someone asked me "are you married?" when I was pregnant. I really dont see how my marital status is relevent to my pregnancy!
And towards the end of my pregnancy I had to get DH to help me put on my shoes because I had trouble doing it myself due to a bum and pair of legs pushing my ribs up into my throat constantly.
The constant "advice" from random people was annoying too, especially completely dumb advice from people who had never been pregnant or didnt have any babies themselves.
And all the people who kept on harrassing me about not drinking any alcohol because of my pregnancy - "oh I drank and my kids are just fine". That lovely to know - that was you and this is me, so shut up and let me do what I want to do!
karina DITTO :rolleyes: I stopped drinking completely also (i.e. those alcohol and pregnancy ads aren't on TV for nothing) - and our good friends who have grown up children (18 & 10) are like 'you're being ridiculous, I drank throughout and mine are fine'.... makes me soooo ANGRY.
it's my choice and i've gone off the midwives current advice that says 'none is best' ... not off what they said in the UK 18 years ago. and it might not have hurt your baby, but what if mine is different (which it is) and it hurts it - jesus. This is my biggest pet peeve cos it comes from very close friends.
they treat me like i'm an alarmist and a 'cotton-wool' type person, when i'm just doing what's best. i guess if i drank it would make them feel better - stiff ... not going to! :protest:
Ha!! YES the main culprit for me was this lady at work (who I think actually is an alcoholic, but I'm not 100% sure) and she kept on hassling me and asking why I wouldnt have any alcohol. It didnt help that the culture at work was all about drinking and party. There was a bar across the road and at least once a week most of the office would be over there drinking alcohol paid for on the boss's work credit card. It was so hard to get through to them that NOT HAVING ALCOHOL IS NOT GOING TO HURT MY BABY, but having alcohol could hurt baby... what option am I going to choose??? hmm.... They all thought I was some freak! Luckily they stopped hassling me after a while so that was nice. Its not that I hate hat others drink alcohol when pregnant, its more that people were hassling me and not respecting what I was doing.
karina - i agree. it's not that i think ppl who drink when preg are bad - i respect their choice and would 'expect' the same from them.
wow - where do u work that allows them to drink on bosses c/card. i work at a university so i have to fill in a form if ppl drink alcohol during work hours or alcohol purch by the uni!
mustangsachy, I work at an insurance company.
oh I agree with so many things that you guys have bought up!
I have been asked three times if this pg was unplanned and it really gets under my bonnet! What business is it of theres?
I hate the alcohol thing. Mostly people do the whole "awww, i bet you miss having alcohol so much..." No, i don't. Because 1. just the smell makes me gag anyway and
2. this baby is depending on me for everything, who am i to chuck alcohol down my throat for my own fun?
I've also had a work collegue (no kids) lecture me about how lucky i am that my job isn't physically draining and that i'm lucky to be in my roll while i'm pregnant, especially since i've had morning sickness i'm able to quietly sit at my desk. Karma is soooo gonna get her in the butt when it's her turn.
And Karina, our work usually have drinks every friday arvo to wind down, and guess who's labeled designated driver now... Ooh you guessed it! :P
You could just tell them that you had a glass of wine the other night and it gave you a headache (which is true in my case) so you'd rather avoid it ;) Sometimes you need to give people a valid reason in their eyes :rolleyes:
GGGRRR! People saying" DONT find out the sex... make it a surprise... its better that way..."
Nick off and mind your biz! done that twice already (not by choice) and it WASNT better that way!!!!!
Also people saying "Oh you HAVE to have more than one - it needs something to play with! And they MUST be close together or it'll be too strange for the first one!"
I'm sorry but I cannot justify having another child JUST so the first one has something to play with! At the moment we have a teeny tiny house and it absolutley will not under any circumstances hold more than one child :-)
Oh ladies i hear you on the alcohol thing, i have close friends and family saying the same "one glass is ok" or "its a special occassion" (like that changes how my body is going to use the alcohol on my unborn baby!)and im like "i love my child enough to not even risk it" for goodness sakes, is alcohol such an issue in our society that people feel the need to push it on you even when you are pregnant?? makes me mad. I have decided not to drink because my baby is worth more than that risk to me. If i need a reason to drink, i will find one on my own, dont need anyone else to justify it for me. And besides its not a lifetime without it, just 9 months and while im BFing! Youd think i was losing a limb the way some people react! grrr, makes me wild!
Oh and I work in an insurance company too and we get friday night drinkies as well but they dont push it on me, only friends and family who feel the "need" to be upfront with me. *sigh*
I should just say "and while im downing a glass of wine should i snort a line of coke at the same time? they are after all both drugs of some kind" just for shock value! :lol:
As for sizing of bellies... im so over the "you have dropped, you are going to go so early i can tell" this said by 5 different women in the past week. well if i do then i do, if i dont then i wont, well see how it goes shall we Dr ummmm whats your degree again??
I popped out a belly at 15 weeks but there is a lady at my church who is nearly 20 weeks and you cant tell shes preggie, shes stick thin but has no bump (or the tiniest one but hidden by clothing) shes always upset that no one thinks shes 4 months pregnant, poor girl. I never say a word about the size of her belly, i just keep reminding her theres a bubba growing healthy and strong inside of her.
Angela yesss, i hate the people who say you have to have more than one!
It's like hello can i spit this one out first at least?!
A work collegue gave me a "once you have kids your life is over" speech the other day (she has no kids) What gore to say that to someone who is pregnant... sheesh!
Hi girls,
My name is Saša (pron. Sasha) and I am currently 9 weeks pregnant with my second child. My DD is almost 1 1/2.
Can I have a little dummy spit?
Why do people feel the need to invade your privacy so much when you're pregnant? It's like once you're knocked up, it's not your life anymore, it's not your body and EVERYONE knows EVERYHTING better than you do (even though you have done tons of research, then they'll just say: don't believe everything you read).
I don't drink in the first semester. But after that, if I go out to dinner, I might have a shandy or half a glass of wine. But that's it. It would never add up to more than 1 standard drink per week. I respect people's choice when they decide not to drink at all. It's the safest way to go.
But what really got on my nerves was people criticising me for doing it (my FIL was the biggest culprit) and at the same time telling me how I should book in my epidural already (at about 20 weeks pregnant). So, how is it suddenly alright to put drugs in my body for birth (that are proven to affect the baby), but before that, you've gotta be so careful??? I'm not against epis. I just found this attitude quite hypocritical.
When he heard I was planning a natural birth in a birth centre, he laughed and said: "You won't be able to do it without drugs, it really really hurts, believe me!" BELIEVE ME??? How does he know? How many babies has he given birth to? Well, I was not only able to do it without drugs, I never even for a second felt a need for them. I have to admit, I felt a little smug when I walked into his living room only 4 hours after giving birth (yes, your read correctly, I visited my in-laws on the way home from the birth centre), carrying my healthy baby and feeling pretty good, tired, but otehrwise fine.
I did quit smoking when I first got pregnant. It was easy for me and I haven't felt like taking it up again. But I know some people who just couldn't quit. They have soooo many people chastising them. What's the point? They feel guilty already. All you will achieve by berating them is to make them feel horrible and seek comfort in another smoke. Yes, of course it is better for the baby if the mother doesn't smoke. But what gives anybody the right to judge them? How do they know how much effort this person has put into trying to quit?
And about the "your life is over once you have kids". It is true. The life you had is over. Another much richer life is starting. You can still do the same things you did before. If you want to. But there is another dimension to your life, to your partnership, to everything. People who don't have kids will never truly understand that. People who don't want kids have no chance of even getting close to understanding it.
But to be honest, all these people telling us what we should and shouldn't do are just preparing us for what is ahead of us once our kids are here. If you think they are getting on your nerves now, then brace yourself for how much unsolicited advice and criticism you're gonna get about your parenting style and methods. Everyone is an expert. Especially people who either don't have kids or have had them a long time ago. It's insane. Especially if your methods vary from what is the common current norm. You will be "educated", judged & criticised by virtual strangers. You will have to develop a thick skin. My MIL (who never had a kid, she's DHs step mum) always said to me: unfortunately, children don't come with instruction manuals. I disagree. There are a million manuals out there. But they all disagree with each other.
My father has made one of the most helpful comments when it comes to parenting. But you can apply it to pregnancy, too: "Follow your instincts. They are usually right. If our instincts were that wrong, our species would not have thrived as it has."
Sorry for the rant. But thanks for "listening".
Saša
Hi Sunshine - big hello and :clap: for saying it how it is!
It amazes me how many 'eddie the experts' there are out there. i'm 'deciding' to ignore all of them and not let their b/s effect my day/ life. at the end of the day i think they want you to do it the way they did cos it will validate for them that what they did was 'right'. i don't think there is such a think as right or wrong but there is def a 'right for me'.