during pregnancy, the amount of alcohol consumed doesn't make much difference - you can be a regular drinker, or you can have one binge - and can still do the same amount of damage (google fetal alcohol syndrome - you should find lots of information)

the delays mentioned can more than likely be linked to FAS from the alcohol consumption during pregnancy, not BF (unless the mum is constantly pickled and the bub is constantly drinking very alcoholic milk). the child may have been slower to develop anyway (not all kids develop at the same rate) but may have signs of FAS

i know of someone with three children - she didn't drink through any of the pregnancies, and has only had small amounts of alcohol while BF the youngest. it is the middle child with developmental and learning delays - so you really can't guarantee that developmental delays are related to alcohol consumption


we all do what we feel comfortable with. when DD first arrived, i didn't have caffeinne, i didn't eat much spicy food, no alcohol. then i realised i was depriving myself of foods/drinks i wanted and was beginning to resent breast feeding my daughter. so i reintroduced them gradually. i don't drink a lot of caffeinated drinks, but if i have a headache, i'll have a coke instead of pain meds (this was recommended to me by my neurosurgeon as a way of preventing migraines developing - caffeine was the only difference between two preventative drugs - and the non-caffeinated ones didn't work). i started eating full flavoured food again - i had no intention of weaning DD early and i wasn't going to go without the food i enjoyed indefinitely.

it's up to you to make the call as to what to include or leave out of your diet - but you can't judge others for making a different call to you. if someone it putting their child at risk (copious alcohol etc) then there are ways to report this - but consuming caffeine and/or small amounts of alcohol - not a drama.