Parenting after LT TTC #3

Hey everyone,
what a thriving bunch of mummies we all are. It's great to see. Unfortunately, though I would love to write a book in here of all the stuff I've been going through, I can only spare a few lines (well a few more than that, but i will only cover a couple of your comments for now).

Grub, you know I love ya so I'll skip the mushy welcome:nahnah: but it's great to see you and I have to comment on your windy issue. Had a few tears myself this week and went to my wonderful community health care nurse and had a great chat today. I'm in and out of doctor and paed and specialist appointments all the time, but it was so nice to just go this tiny little health clinic in the bush (Cow Bay) and get so much peace of mind and common sense advice. Better than any counselling session. Anyway, your dummy solution for wind is what I was recommended today. I have the exact opposite problem to you though cos Jazz is great with the boob, but can't for the life of her work out how to suck a dummy or bottle. I bought one for the audiology appointments. I'm not a fan of dummies but can see they have a place and especially with her deafness, car trips can be a nightmare and I'd love her to comfort on a dummy. I just get in the back with her when DH is driving but on my own, well there have been a few tears. The poor little mite is just lonely and in her own quiet little world. I have flashing lights and toys and things but voice soothes babies so much and we don't have that. Anyway, I was told the dummy for windy babies as when they cry they suck in more air and the sucking helps push it through. Apparently they have to learn how to fart :lol: and it doesn't just come naturally. Do you do that tummy float in the bath for Ash? I've only just learnt how to do it without drowning her and it was a gorgeous experience - instant relief and the longest bath ever - she just loved it and so did I.

I have to pull you up on your anatomy lesson girls:D but it is a common misconception that the dangly bit in the back of your throat is your epiglottis, when it is in fact your uvula. How do I know this and why believe me....well, the damn thing collapsed on me during of course pregnancy and I choked on several occasion (each one less scary than that first time). Yep my soft palate went floppy from all my snoring :redface: and the dangly bit flopped down my throat. Complete gross out I know. I did a hell of a lot of googling to work out if I was going to die:p but as usual common sense prevailed, it seemed natural to me to suck ice and all things cold to shrink the little sucker, but it wasn't a nice experience. My snoring was because my sweet breech baby gave me 7 months of pure hellish indigestion and I own shares in the fruit tingles company now! I had to sleep sitting up with this little darling stuck firmly with her head in my ribs for months on end and the indigestion did not cease until the night of my c-section...ahhh, such sweet relief. End of uvula lesson.

See you again soon when I write my novel.xox

Ah Murph I love reading your posts :)
Poor little Jazz in the car. My friend has had a terrible time with both of her kids in the car. I feel for you both! Have you seen the mirrors that clip on to something so that the baby can see your face in the rear vision mirror while facing backwards? maybe that would help. Thanks for the anatomy lesson. I had terrible indigestion too and had to sleep sitting up for ages. Also had prescriptions too. Mine didnt go away instantly though, I took the meds for a week or two afterwards, I guess till all the organs found their way back down to where they should have been.

i was just thinking "where the bladdy hell are you?'' murph lol. and i love your "few lines'' novella there love heehee.

i know this is extremely juvenile BUT when i read uvula i said Vulva haahaaa. interesting imagery there ladies.

thanks for the dummy info there murph. i really didn't want to give the dummy and spent a few days beating myself up as it's not what you are "suppossed'' to do but with words like yours murph and help from the ABA helpline and our community nurse made me realise that dummies were made just for the purpose i'm using it as... a comforter. And so long as i dont fall inot the trap of shoving it in to solve all problems i think we'll be fine. Plus i can hopefully get rid of it in a few months. In fact he's pretty good at spitting it out as soon as his wind problem is solved... but this means i have to sit by his bassinette and do ''dummy patrol'' as he often needs it back within 30 secs and screams/wakes lol.

STILL waiting to hear from the docs regarding that blasted scan. they were supposed to give me the results yesterday but "didn't get to it'' ! effing hell. it's not my regular doc so i'm really peeved. specailly seeing she put me on antibiotics and these have been upsetting ash a bit as well as the wind! so if there is nothing there i would like to know and if there is, i need to organise the little op while my MIL is here so she can help with Ash. So getting my grump on and am going to call this morning.

sazz - we have one of those mirrors - LOVE IT. not that but knows its there, but i can see him. only thing is you have to get used to looking at the cars and not the baby all the time.

Ah! ABs & bubs do not agree. A was very unsettled, windy and green-explosive-poopy when on I was on ABs. But got better almost as soon as we stopped. Watch out for signs of thrush too

Thanks Murph. :lol:

We used a dummy when A was very unsettled (also good for reflux) from around 3-8 weeks. Only when he was bad. And then he settled a lot, we didn't use it for a week or so, and after that he refused it. Never tried to push it so that was that. Of course, he still had his booby, which does the same job ;)

Out at gigi and dodo's today. They are babysitting while I work. Although we pay our babysitter a pittance, having her 5 days a week would pretty much make working a waste of time with how little money there'd be left over.

I love our teething necklace. Wish we'd bought it about a year earlier than we did. I think if we have more, I'll have them in one pretty much from birth:D

Happy Friday everyone!

Hi everyone, it's been 12 mths since i last logged in to see how mum's and bub's are doing and thought i'd check in today as i fiddled around on line, to see who's is still around... Marcellous, Sazz, Butterfly Warrior, Wow, so great to still see some familiar names on here. No doubt there's been so much happening! Amazing to think some of the bubs are close to 2 yrs now! Hope and the lil ones you are all going well. I think of you guys often and all the support i got back in the pregnancy threads 2 years back. Still just Jenna and a frozen cycle at my end. Go back and forth on whether we should give #2 a try. Who knows. So great to just read how well everyone is going :)

Hi Everyone

After reading some of these posts I jumped online and have ordered an Amber Teething Necklace for Tara, if it helps in anyway I'm all for it.

We also have the mirror in the car as well, not that Tara pays much attention to it as she enjoys looking out the window at the world going by but it such a peace of mind to be able to see her when I'm driving.

As us recently new mummies are always showing off our bubs, I am adding another link for you all to look at if you want.... Tara has taken to having full on 1 sided conversations lately, DH took this last night and you've gotta love that she can suck her thumb and talk at the same time. I think this is a sign of things to come though, she is going to be a real chatterbox... Login | Facebook

Hope you all have a good weekend.

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KellyD, that is the cutest thing ever. I had tears in my eyes and even DH watched twice and said "awwwww". what an intense conversation. I love the little growly bit toward the end. Sooooo funny.:lol:

Grub, I been perving at your night picnic too. Couldn't think of anything to say on FB but looks like you had a really nice time and you are all looking gorgeous. Weight check? Baby J is 12 weeks and 4.2 kilos. Ash is looking similar in size now, maybe his thighs are not as beefy. Yay for fat bum cheeks and thunderthighs I say!

Thanks to allyou girls for my birthday wishes for my Dad, how sweet. the party went well, arrggh but full of coppers. Nothing wrong with that but it was meant to be a family thing and as usual felt outnumbered at my Dad's house by people I don't know. It's always that way since he remarried, but now his wife is a copper, it's an improvement on when she was Army. Dad didn't have any say in the end, he only wanted to invite family but half her squad were there, then it turns my bro and his wife into work mode (both vic cops) and Dad's ex cop, but it was alright. Just as an aside and a quick name drop, my brother's wife was the cop they based the female detective character on in Underbelly. Interesting life for my family.

Oh the trip to Townsville was divine...7 1/2 hours and not a squeak out of little Poss. A leisurely lunch stop and it took no longer than it normally would. Yay! Last time it was 11hours and lots of stops:wall:

I survived the inlaws and the "grandpa" issue never came up.Phew. but turns out my innerB was a bit more of an outerB than I thought, as they did a hasty departure and left all the stuff you would take if you werent running away in a hurry. Not sure what happened but so glad it was over and had to have a big talk to Dh...no more. I have tried for too long to put up with people I don't respect or trust and now that he knows i'm not just being vindictive and nasty and knows my reasons, he agrees that we need to do things differently and not have them stay with us. Not sure if I told you , but I value the mother role above all else and she does not meet the lowest standard I would ever set as a mother so it only gets harder for me, especially now. I am so protective of my gorgeous DH, just a apity she never was and now turns up in his life acting like she never played any part in his early life and everything is rosy...soooo not for me. Anyhoo, at least now we can stop pretending and work out a compromise.

so, looks like I'm battoning down the hatches and any other cliches you can think of as there is a cyclone bearing down on us....another one. Oh great, just had an almighty chunk of rainforest fall in on us while we were sleeping the other night. I said a few choice expletives while assuming the "about to get killed by a whopping great rainforest tree" position. for reference, my position was, jump almost out of bed, but not quite and only make it to the bed post at the foot of the bed and cling like a monkey (well in my defence, it's a very solid bed frame). DH managed to clear the bed and almost dive off the veranda if needed, but then again, when i assumed a crash position in my first overseas flight and we plummeted, it was pull my flanno over my head:redface: while others thought to scream! Back to the bedroom scenario of two nights ago, I was still clinging to the bed post when DH turned on the light...too funny. It was a massive chunk of tree, completely missed us but we heard it falling and had no idea where it was going to land. It was only metres from the back of the house, but it fell parallel to the house. My adrenaline was up for about 4 hours and inspected in the light of day,I was nearly sick, it's a hooa of a tree and opened up a major bit of rainforest. so do we stay or go....we are outta here. we are leaving the house of sticks and going to break into the old concrete bunker house we used to live in down the road.It was literally built by a crazy scientist to withstand nuclear holcaust. they breed em a bit eccentric over the river here, luckily for us!

well better go and make cyclone preps...Grub, still miss FNQ?

OH my goodness Murph! Thank goodness for crazy scientists, hey? Maybe you need some aluminium hats too...could keep the bad mil vibes out at least

Hi Kimbe!! Looooong time no see. Tell us more about the lovely Jenna... Please?!

Murph - I saw the length of your post and had to stop to go get a cup of tea hehehe. Sounds action packed up there, and a wee bit terrifying! Stay safe. And I'm pleased that you and DH have come to more of an understanding regarding your MIL. I have some problems with my MIL (think it's universal) and it took a long time for my DH to see my side and that I wasn't just being biatch for the sake of it. It helps when you can present a united front to them. I am so glad that your DH found you so that he can get all the things emotionally that he didn't get as a kid.

KellyD - that video is too cute for words. These little babies just love life don't they? I had to laugh at the towel/nappy under her head....looks just like my house!

Grubby - any news on what you need to do next with your op? I hope you have had some news by now and even a D & C to sort you out. Sending big hugs your way :hug:

A big hello to everyone else :p

AFM: All well here. We took Adam out to a ****tail party last night. He was a little cherub, but I think he's now passed the age where you can just drag him around anywhere. I think he really loves his routine and it throws him not to stick to it. Anyway, we had fun. I am loving this stage he is in....the chattering, squealing, giggling, and so dam cuddly and warm. Ah, getting all gooey, better go and check on him.

lol neptune, did adam enjoy his ****tails? heehee. he sounds divine with the sqeaking etc!

oh murph, the joy of FNQ living lol. i happened to be visiting home when larry went through, we sat inside the house on the steps to the kitchen watching as our huge jacaranda was trashed and a huge limb broke, and was pointing right at us, via the glass door and windows... while behind us the 60yr old mango tree was getting killed, literally. It had to be removed afterwards as it died - it was larried! But having grown up around Cairns it's a bit old hat isn't it. Still glad you guys got outta the rainforest there. be safe and remember, tape them windows up! leet us know how you get on.

Oh and Ash is nearly 4.5kg! eeek. he's long tho, so like DH.

kellyd - she is just gorgeous! what little chubby cheeks hahaa.

well rang the docs for my results from the scan... have to see the doc about it but if "you feel okay within yourself'' i could go off the ABs. So i'm not sure what that all means. Am seeing my regular doc on friday anyway for Ash's 6 week immunisations and my whooping cough shot so talk to her about it then. I just have a "feeling'' there is some issue there but they said it wasn't urgent ... so not sure what that all means.

Ash has a scan on thursday to check his waterworkds etc due to a single umbilical artery. so we have a busy few days there!

Went and had a seaside picnic dinner the other day.. it was soo lovely! and Ashton just adored laying out spread eagle and kicking his legs and 'chatting'. It got to 40C+ here yesterday so we took off for another picnic high up in the hills. it was a very long day, but Ash was a treasure in the vehicle.

Can't believe how much more settled/comfortable i feel in dealing with him thesedays. specially since i can manage his pain with cuddles, patting and the dummy. Plus he's sleeping like a little trooper, it seriously is freaking me out... he fed at 7.30pm and then another about 8.30pm (just a top up as he was fussing) and after quite a bit of belly pain and a few dirty nappies he finally dropped off to sleep just before 10pm... and woke up at 6am!!!

i just keep reminding myself that he's stacking on the weight and has HEAPS of wet/dirty nappies each day so he is fine to sleep like that. but still, it's very unsettling! Anyone else had trouble 'accepting' your bub sleeping through? our community nurse said to just go with whatever Ash wanted to do and said i shouldn't wake him to feed him for my own peace of mind... he'd let me know if he is hungry.

ooh. sorry. gas bag :)

sorry Kimbe - welcome back! hope you hang around a bit more. Can you tell me a bit about yourself as i don't think we've crossed paths before? xoxo

Murph: Take care and I'm thinking of you and hopefully you will miss the worst of the cyclone. I suppose there is always a downside of living in "Paradise".

Neptune: So cute to hear that Adam is already a little social butterfly and I know what you mean by a slight change in the routine, we generally have a miss crankypants when that happens. As for the "spew rags", things have settled down on the reflux count for us but I still have them around especially when she is laying flat as we still seem to get a bit of spill at times. Plus it is so much easier to wash them instead of whatever she is laying on. Ps: Love the new Avi, no more preggy belly...

Grub: MMM, strange thing to say about stopping AB's like is there something there or not that needs to be treated. With everything else we have had to go through an infected uterus is the last thing you want or need. Hope Ash get's the all clear from his scan and yay for big sleeps, we also give Tara a little top up feed about 8pm at night just to make sure she has a full belly and in nice and content and sleepy and then she crashes for about 11 hours.

Kimbe: Welcome back, I love hearing stories about how all the bigger babies have changed and developed so I know what to look forward to.

Marcellus: Hope you and A are doing well.

Anyone I've missed, a big hello to you all.

Thanks girls about your comments on my chatterbox, it is so lovely that she seems to be enjoying life and wants to share it. I really love now how when she wakes in the morning she will play and chat to herself for about 20 minutes or so before I have to get up to change and feed her. Even then she is not screaming the house down for a feed, she is quite placid and just smiles and giggles until the food arrives. It is great for me as I no longer have to jump out of bed straight away in a half sleep to get her but can actually take my time getting up, plus I want her to be able to amuse herself as well and not need constant attention when she is awake. Although I must admit she is pretty independent already and only likes to be held when she wants to be held and loves spending time playing by herself on her activity mat.

Anyway, better sign off and finish the breakfast DH has made for me this morning.. Yay, gotta love the weekends.

Oh and a question to Neptune, Murph, Miss M (wherever you are) and Grub: Have you started to malt as yet?? I was told that around 3 months I will notice my hair coming out and spot on for the past week and a half I have been losing handfuls everyday. I didn't notice a change while pg, but if it keeps up at this rate I'll be bald in no time. How are you guys going?? Noticed any difference??

Just a quick one...

Grub, Sam was a SUA baby too. We had the scan, and all was clear... but he really didn't enjoy it. He cried the whole time through it and actually made himself hoarse and got a sore throat from it. They told me it was just routine and they rarely find anything, so hopefully all will be ok with your little boy.

Still somewhat stressed about the issue with his bits - just can't make a decision on what to do!

BW

Kelly - my hair fell out after I had DS1 too. Not cool!! No bald patches, but the shower drain looked awful!

Kimbe - long time no hear:) Would love to hear how Jenna is going and your thoughts on number two. Hope you can stick around a bit.

Hi to everyone and i hope to be around a bit more now - but we'll see how things go.

Hi Lenny

Welcome back and congrats on the arrival of DS2. You are now the expert mum with 2 beautiful bundles of joy and energy.

Hello...I'm back home!

Well the big bad wolf didn't huff or puff and I doubt he'd have blown out a candle if he did. Arrrghh! We went into total lockdown mode and made the decision for Jazz's sake, to leave before the cyclone came through (it was headed straight at us). Our friends offered their house in Innisfail, so we agonised and finally decided to go. We packed the dogs and anything worth saving and drove down the coast to Cairns, hung out at Maccas, heard it was downgraded, headed back home and there was nothing at all happening (although it didn't stop the totally bodacious surfer dudes from chasing the gnarly 1 foot high waves along the coast...too funny!) Bells Beach..it aint. Back home, we were just confused as to what happened, the radio stopped broadcasting updates and alerts and it apparently went straight over our house but was so weak, it barely blew a leaf. What an anti-climax. DH was spewing. Oh well, the house of sticks lives to see another day and us with it.

Thanks for checking in on us. BBL to catch up. xox

Just a quick one, heading out for a run whilst Adam with his daddy.

Murph - so glad that it was an anti-climax, sorry you had to stuff around so much but very happy that you are safe.

KellyD - YES YES YES......I actually thought it was becasue my hair is longer than normal and needs a cut, but coming out in clumps :shakehead:. How long does this last does anyone know? i was not blessed with thick hair so may have to resort to becoming an eccentric hat-wearing type person.