Pregnancy after Long Term TTC #5 - 2009

:leap: CONGRATS FG!!! SOOOO GOOOD TO HEAR FROM YOU LOVEY. :leap:

Is archer doing well? how's you? hope the birth went okay sweet. ox

how azz sounds like you had a lovely day. i think that's the worst part about life - it seems to fly by! aftr all this trouble we've all gone to get preggers, it'll all go by so quickly bbrrhhh.

greenslw - Oh men! maybe he's just feeling nervous/anxious etc about the new arrival and is trying the 'fix' how he's feeling in a man way??? why can't we all just win the lottery and live and do whatever we please??? you are a vrery good step mum indeed and it souds like you have a great rapport with dh's boy.

kriskit - how you going love?

Murph - how did that study go love?

hi to all the other lovelies here.

also wanted to update you - I am so pleased that i had a great reason for feeling sssooo awful lately - i have gastro! go the full effects of it yesterday evening and went to the after hours GP service this morning. Heard Bluey's nice strong heartbeat - so he's okay... i think it's passing now ... i hope so anyway! feeling much more upbeat this arvo.

hope you all had a much much better weekend than me girls.ox

Thanks for the congrats on our exciting arrival.

Things are going better now...our little boy arrived at 37wks +4days by emergency c section after labour 'failed to progress' (got to love that term) after my waters broke - even though I was put on the drip etc. He was born on the little side (only 2.8kg) - but DH and I are only short so that was not surprising. Our major drama was that he was that while in hospital he lost more than 10% of his body weight, and depite this and the fact I was still having probs with BF (milk came in very late which resulted in him getting formula as a top up from day 2), + some other issues, we were discharged after 5 days. I had booked into the laction clinic before leaving hospital knowing that I was still going to be having probs! Because he was also jaundiced, DH and I were having to wake him every 3 hrs to try and feed him, I was stuggling to get him on the breast and then we were basically having to force his mouth open to get whatever forumula into him that we could - which was heartbreaking to do. Anyway, 3 days later we were back in hospital as he had only put on 10grams! Was very stressful as he was put in special care nursery and I just felt that I was a failure as I could not feed my baby. I now swing between blaming myself and total anger at the hospital for allowing us to go home (although I admit I thought we would be ok) when I could not BF properly, plus for all the conflicting advice we recived (dont get me started) and that we had no plan for how to top up with formula (eg how much he should be getting and how much to increase it by each day - all the advice in the world on BF and nothing on the bottle). Anyway, he is now putting weight on well, I am still BF'ing him although we still top him up with formula. I dont think that he is the happiest baby on the planet and we have probs getting him to stop crying and sleep, but we are getting there...I think :D

I wish everyone here a better time than us, but in the end we have our little boy and he is well, and that is what matters!

OMG Farmgirl, my heart sunk when I read your story I felt exactly the same with my DD when I had her, and it annoys me that it is still going on the conflicting advice you get from each midwife I understand that everyone is different but you would think they know the signs. I got baby blues and it was all because no one pick up that my milk had came in late very stressful for a first time mum. I do have some advice don't be affraid to go to formula if YOU want to and his weight isn't picking up. I had a great Paed when I went for my DD 6 week check up he said that she has only got about a week of fat reserve left and wasn't putting on enough weight what a slap in the face I felt like a big fat failer the nurses did not tell me about her weight. He suggested formula and I put her on it straight away and never looked back it was the best thing I had ever done.

I do plan to BF my twins if I can this time I know I will proberly have some issues as the are going to be premmie but I will try my best and if I can't do it then I will put them on formula.

BF is really harder for some then others you do what is best for you and Archer. I hope I helped a little bit.

Hi folks, just sneaking in to dip my toes in as I have been told I have to get over it and embrace this pregnancy.....lol!

Like most of you we have had a rough ride to get here...nearly sixe of years of TTC with five miscarriages along the way, one of them being this little man's gestational twin. Tp top it off we had a really bad nuchal scan at 13 weeks and were told we had a 1 in 2 chance of downs syndrome and 1 in 18 chance of other chromosomal issues....needless to say we had an incredibly stressful days as we waited to have a CVS done and then another stressfule few weeks waiting for the results.
Turns out our bubba is chromosomally normal and is a boy so we have known for quite a few weeks the sex of bubba which has made baby shopping so much easier (or harder as the case may be as there is so little selection for boys compared to girls we have found...hehe).

Discussion with our Ob came to the conlusion that most of our high risk score had come from the low papp-a score and that this low score could also mean the possibility of heart issues or IUGR.
The 18 weeks scan has shown normal heart function for the gestational date so now we just have the risk of slow growth to deal with. So i have to have detailed scans every four weeks for now to make sure we have no issues.

My ob also me on baby aspirin and clexane 40mg daily as there is a school of thought that this may help reduce the risk....so no belly shots for me as it is covered in injection bruises....LOL!

Add to that the fact I am a long term Type 1 Diabetic and it's all shaping up to be a fun ride to the finish line!! Bubs EDD is Feb 28th 2010 but will likely be joining us a few weeks earlier depending on how things progress.

Sorry for the long post and thanks for reading......now I have dipped my toes in, I hope to be more regular and get to know you all better.

:)

farmgirl - it seems we had a very similar birth experience! its in the birth stories if you want to read, also my bub was jaundiced and it took 6 days for my milk to come in so he is mostly on formula aswell, i feel like ive let him down but in the end its what put him back to his birthweight and thats the main thing :) my boy was also very jaundiced for almost a week but all is well now, look after yourself and that little man!

Grab a cuppa girls!

In no particular order:

Azz - great to hear you enjoyed the party (and your own bed) :D

Farmgirl - hello, hope everything is on track for you soon, but don't rush it. It's taken so much to get here, it's bound to still have setbacks. You are doing a great job and have nothing to be ashamed of. goodluck with the gorgeous little "Tex" and be gentle with yourself :hug:

Grub - you take that back!! Oh it's going soooo slow now! You might be Queen muck on your 6 pillows but I am sleeping upside down, with a head under my ribs....errrr still...on a mountain of pillows...and...it's...not...working!!!! I'm going to advertise for landfill-can't get my pillow mountain high enough to sleep without spewing form reflux!!

Greenslw - I 2nd Grub's comments on your stepson - one lucky kid to have you in his corner. You are a Mum in every sense of the word and should be very proud of yourself. Sorry to hear DF not playing nice and feeling a bit less than confident at the moment. I'm sure you will work it through. Sounds yuck but emotions are high all round.:hug:

Melbel - :welcome: So sorry to hear of your excruciating journey. I can only imaginesome of it. So happy your nuchal scan results were wrong. My personal opinion - nuchal scans suck a.rse! The worst time of my life too was waiting 7 weeks for the amnio to be done and results to come back. Congrats on your little boy!! We named and claimed ours the minute we got our results back. amazing post. Thanks for sharing.

Smithy - keep doing what you are doing with your posts. You are everyone's number one cheer squad, always thinking of us as we are thinking of you, Coops and Charlie.

Poppyfairy - your place sounds soooo cold. Mine will be the exact opposite. what will your baby be wearing when mine is in nothing but cloth nappies and singlets? Don't pile those chairs too high...and remember where you put that basket down :D

TwoMums - thanks so much for coming back and sharing. It must be the last thing on your mind. Even my DH is asking how Noah is going and it just blows our minds to those feeding details. Sooooo happy for you! Go Noah and goodluck with the 10ml feeds.

Saph - hope you are not too sick and the back is feeling a bit better. How is your pelvis...ouch! Goodluck with your scan tomorrow - hope you are celebrating whatever the outcome.

Persephone - :welcome: don't underestimate the effects of stress. If you are an anxious person and who isn't after all you've been through to get here, even happy changes can rock your foundations. We spend so long trying to save ourself from giving in to too much hope. I bawled like a crazy woman when my scan confirmed a heartbeat. the nurses thought I'd been given bad news but you have to remember the journey you have been to get here. Stress!! Talk to us, talk to a counsellor, but allow yourself to feel perfectly normal and just be with your thoughts to understand the place you are in and embrace it. You are pregnant! You will enjoy it soon....and then it will suck...and then you will love it..you get the picture. Enjoy the wild ride.

KellyD - I was thinking of you on Saturday (and your waters!) Congrats on a close game. Now enjoy the countdown to the next big hooter...woo hoo! Hmm, west of Ballarat (my geography is not great), do you live anywhere near Rushy? I used to live there.

Krikkit - It's not selfish to share - I can't imagine the situation you're in but sounds like there are a lot of hurt feelings. Mums are human and can be childish and dig in their heels when hurt too. Your sis sounds like she might be adding to the situation too and maybe could have chosen not to tell you about your mum's angry outburst. Someone has to take the higher ground and be the adult. think about the relationship you want with your mum. Can it get better before it gets worse or does it have to get dragged inthe dirt first. I hope you can let it go, step back and appreciate this special time.

Just my own funny story to lighten the mood - my Dad told everyone up and down the east coast of Australia when I got my confirmed pg at 2 weeks. Oh god can you imagine my disbelief. Admittedly I had failed to tell him not to tell anyone. I let my Mum tell whoever she wanted to cos her partner had just died and I knew it would make her world. dad though, I thought he wouldn't be that into it as my bro and sis each have 3 kids. Nup Dad was pleased as punch and told everyone he knew on a big motorbike trip down from Townsville to South Australia (every friend, every relative). I didn't have a single person to break the news to but I chose to see things from Dad's point of view..kind of cute really to have that support and happiness. I kind of got up him but only to let him know that nothing is certain...his response, oh well, you win a few, lose a few. I joked that when I got to 12 weeks I'd pick up the white pages and indiscriminately call names at random to say "guess what?" like I'd always imagined and dad said they say..."yeah we know...Ken told us!:doh:)

Sorry, I know that's not how things are for you, but hope you can work it through without getting any worse Krikkit. You can choose to react differently.

If I've missed you, it's only because I might get kicked off the website for going over some world record word quota.

Hello to all the Mums still lurking and popping in - Bee, NicoleS, Nixon, Janie, Briggsysgirls eetc. Thinking of you all.xoxox

Hi everyone

Seph - congrats sweetie. I was hoping this would be your month

Krikit - I think mums are just so pleased that we finally have some good news that its hard for them to understand the anxiety we still feel.

AFM - I had a small bleed last week that sent me into a complete spiral of panic. Ended up having another scan and it still all looks good - still a heart beat and still growing at the right rate (and growing little arms). My OB (who I haven't even seen yet) was away and his stand in just looked at me like I was a complete lunatic and said "its very common" "nothing to worry about". My sister who is also pregnant told me that I would just worry the whole pregnancy because it took so long to get here. I got really angry and told her she would be worried too if she had cramping and bleeding. Anyway, all seems to have calmed down now and no more bleeding so fingers crossed.

It really doesn't get any easier does it?

MELANIE... yay for coming over to join us chicky babe wow you poor girl youve had some hicups but all is sounding ok now great to see you here hun.

MURPH... :hug: you are just the sweetest thing hunny thinking of me and coops oh and charlie out of all of us to remeber you think of me and coops awwww thank you .

FARMGIRL... just really good to see you and know all is well in your life take care and thanks for keeping us all posted love smithy

:hello: to all my beautiful pg friends i hope your all going good today thinking of you all and :bellyrubs:

Hi Ladies,

I can't do persies yet, today has been one of the most difficult of my entire life.

Got up and had breaky this morning and went to the loo - saw some small brown spots...well. My world fell apart. I sweated buckets, started hyperventilating, and then jumped in the car and made a crazy dash to the IVF Clinic for a blood test.

So after the blood test I spoke with one of the IVF counsellors, and DH came from work and we drove home. We then waited several hours for the phone call with the BT results. When they came through I was shaking so much with nerves.

BUT...the BT showed that my progesterone is normal - 60+, and hCG 400+ (I only heard parts of the numbers, not the exact numbers). Seeing as my hCG was 137 on Friday, that's normal. The nurse was very reassuring.

But I'm still a mess. I told the counsellor that I'd be happy to sleep for the next 8 months, because we've come so far and to have to deal with spotting so soon after a BFP is sooo traumatic. I feel sick.

Still thinking stickyvibes, and I know there's a little one in there waiting for me. S/he just has to hang on for awhile!

Will someone please tell me all the above is normal?

I promise I will try a more upbeat post at some point...

:hug::stickyvibesgirl: PERSEPHONE.. hang in there hun and keep your feet up as much as you can but im sure everything will be just fine thinking of you heaps and thoses numbers do sound good to me hun and as scarey as it is brown is still good its proberbly a bit of old gunk i had a bit of that too espesially when i would do # 2 ( sorry lol) but very true now rest up ok xxoo

Seph - I know how you feel. I did the exact same panic, race up to freemasons, last week when I had some spotting. As per my earlier post today, I was told it is very common - about 30% of people have some form of bleeding in the first trimester. It is very difficult to relax though, isn't it?

:grouphug: a big hug for you persephone. and **stickyvibes*** coming your way big time lovely! and it does get easier than today, but it is never stress free!

bridget - don't you hate that... the complete dismissal of your concerns! sometimes they make you feel like an idiot for what, at the end of the day, is a very normal response/concern. But i'm slowly learning to dig my heels in and just ignore them. I'm sure your sis meant well sweet. sticky vibes coming your way too ox

okay okay Murph, I take it back! now, the pillow situation - have you got a manpillow and a wedge? both from big dub but you will have to put up with crude comments from DH about the "replacement husband'' as my dh calls the man pillow ;) seriously they really help, particularly in keeping your hips balanced while you sleep. But there is one drawback to my comfy nest, the inability to get out of bed without DH pushing from behind lol. hope you get comfy soon... the other place i find comfy is the lounge cos of the angle of the seat pillows (slightly back). Did you get that TV yet? lol, you may find a new hobby - laying on the lounge watching tv!

hi melbel - well it sounds like you've had a very stressy time lately love! and you probably thought things couldn't get more stressful than AC, brh! my cousin is a nasty diabetic, or more precisely has a bad case of type 1 and she just had her first IVF bub at 40... she said it was the best her diabetes had ever been. i hope this is the case for you darl. and I hope your results turn out was wel as murphs. ox

hi azz, greenswl, miss tania, BOC, poppyfairy, kriskit, BDT, juniper, smithy, and all the girls stil waiting for their arrivals :)

saph - can't wait to hear how things go lovey.

kellyd - how many days now darl?

afm - more gastro last night yuk! and felt like i'd drunk a 40 ounce of bundy all day. so been hitting the lemonade, gastrolite and water big time.

sweet thing happened after my shower tongight DH was doing his fatherly 'duty' (ha, he's just copping a feel) and rubbed the vitamin E cream into my boobs, belly, legs and back for me... as he went over my belly he stopped and looked up surprised and said "ooh, i think we have a head here''. it was really cute. he went back later and declared "he moved'' heeheee love it.

Sorted out his work thing. They have put him on a course for April to June. So i don't have to worry about losing him for 7 weeks before bub is due, and am going to go and stay with him a couple of weeks while he's sent away. So i have a plan now and feel better about it.... still probably lose several hundred bucks worth of airfares i'd paid for my sis to fly down. brh!

oh, sorry for the long post just one more thing i wanna share - my friend who is hosting my baby shower sent out the invites today and they are just devine! it's a book theme and she made each invite into a little story book with it's little tale about me! she even included my fur baby The Cookie Monster (a jack russell) into it! lol. i cried when i saw them .... ahahahhaha

oxxoxoxoxoxoxoxox

Azz B'day parties are the best!

:bluecheer: congrats farmgirl well done.

Grub :hug: from a distance gastro bugga. :rofl: at you getting out of bed from the "nest" maybe you should just stay in bed? ;)

Melbel, I love you're avitar! and wow you really have been working hard at your TTC jurney, I hope you can enjoy the experience Welcome.

Thanks for the cuddle Murph I need it. DF is quiet atm but I know it's in the back of his mind, just needs to get the timing right. Gotta love parent's :lol: that's why I told my dad last.

Bridget my fingers and toes are crossed for you too, I had spots in early pg, Squeak is still steaming along well :hug:

Persephone :hug: hang in there sending you lots of sticky vibes.

ATM Heartburn and brain awake. But that's ok I get to catch up in here and play a game on PC that I love but I know DF thinks I play too much. hehehe it keeps my brain off anything meaningful.

Really had Monday Itis today, came home for lunch and really wanted to stay.

On a cool note, I may :pray: be getting a new work car. I've been complaining a little (maybe a lot) about the Astra, it's too small, so I may get a brand new Subaru Forester! So excited! Keep you posted no chickens before they hatch.

Thanks for everyones comments

As for mum she can keep to herself , I don't need her interfering - I have been through enough just TTC - I don't need someone to call me selfish it is plain rude, its my pregnancy, its my baby. I have learnt my lesson and shouldn't have told her at all.

Murph01 - I agree with the childishness, she has put on this performance before with my sister and her kids. I won't go into details, but it was a lot worse than what I am going through at the moment with her. The way she turns thing on and around, you would think they were her kids and she is pregnant.

:hello: girls hope youve all had a good day.
i just bought 2 x belly bands off ebay brand new for $16 :clap: very happy now cause all my shirts are rideing up now lol

Hi just thought I would let you know it's more blue for us. A healthy but stubbon baby boy. He wouldnt move and scan took over and hour, I had to go out and go for a 15min walk and scul; a bottle of water to get him to move. He is very low which is why I can feel him in my bowels so much. Have already been out buying more blue. Just got the cutest overalls from pumpkin patch. Saw them a couple of weeks ago and just had to have them. Also got some maternity clothes. They had a sale that if you bought 2 baby items then you got 25% of maternity. Yeah. Cant wait to get started on the nursery but have to wait for the mother in law to move out.

Oh yeah by the way tablets are helping the morning sickness and for the first time in 5 months I have felt hungery. Also went to physio and she is pleased with the progress and I can now do her pregnancy water class. yeah.

Well must go and mae some phone calls and confirm caterers for my poarty on saturday. Having a 30th since my real one last year was just crap.

Hope everyone is doing really well.

:dance: yay saph for blue bits :bluecheer:

Congratulations Saph on a Blue Bundle How exciting... And it is so good that the tablets are giving you some relief from the MS and also that you can do the PG water class... I really hope that you will be able to enjoy this PG more from here on in... Yay for a party.. Happy 30th Again... I hope this one will be awsome..