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Thanks BG,
I sometimes get pre-menstrual "sadness" prior to pg so I guess this is "normal".
21 - I've got PHI so have decided to do shared care between by GP and OB. I estimated that I will be paying my OB close to 2 1/2K but will get some back from medicare.
Possume - I have decided to work till I am 35 - 38 weeks. Not sure yet. I have an office job and we need the money. Also I would like to spend more time with bub after birth. I am more concern regarding how long of a maternity leave I should take. I want to take at least 6 months after birth but DH thinks 4 is sufficient (my MIL will be moving in with us to help with the bub). Since DH changed career path, I earn almost twice as much as he does so technically we don't have much option. We are saving up very hard at present for me to take longer maternity leave.
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Kahlan, I have had similar bouts on and off - particularly in the 2nd trimester. It might last a day or a week. Work is a major source of stress for me at the moment, along with renovations, baby not moving (ok now, but last week was hard), I find it really difficult to make decisions that involve our finances including buyign baby stuff. This is all everyday stuff that I need to deal with and I don't want to palm off to DH. Sometimes he is the one who sets me off crying, nothing to do with him really, but sometimes it gets to the point where I think becuase I love him so much it means more when he snaps at me? KWIM?
I can usually feel the stress/depression building for a few days and then all it takes is one tiny thing to set me off
- if it's really hot and I'm lying on the couch and I can't breathe properly = meltdown.
- get home after a tough couple of days and see the size of my ass in the mirror = meltdown.
- thinking too much about what can possibly go wrong with pregnancies in general = meltdown.
- thinking tioo much about what would happen if anything happened to DH = meltdown.
What I have found that really helps is Acupuncture and practicing the Calm Birth techniques. Focusing on me and the baby and my DH instead of all the rest of the elevator music (that's what I call it - you might not like it, but it's there and it's a part of life, but it's not really that important).
Anyway - we're here if you need to unload.
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Megan - how are you finding Calm Birth?
Kahlan - You are able to extend your maternity leave once (I think), so you could book the 4mths and then extend if you are not ready to come back?
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hi girls - just caught up on the news in here...things move very quickly!!
Possums - thrilled at your scan results. Well done.
Just a quickie from me...I've got my first ob appointment tomorrow. I'm also having a 10.5 week scan next Tuesday (anxiety got the better of me and I decided I couldn't wait until 12.5 weeks). Just praying everything is ok...and waiting patiently till next week.
Hope you all had a lovely weekend.
Mels xx
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Nic, finding calmbirth really interesting. It's strange that after just 2 classes I already feel better about the birth. I don't feel scared anymore. I'm not looking forward to it like DH just yet, but I definitely feel more confident.
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Hello everyone-thanks for the replies regarding
Kahlan- sorry you have been feeling low...i have also heard of bouts of depression during pregnancy. Have you tried acupuncture?...I am an emotional person, prone to anxiety and worry and it helps me.
Sometimes I also use meditation CDs which also help
Nixon- I can relate also to feeling overwhelmed sometimes. I hope this week is a good week for you
21- I agree that the MS sounds like a good sign that all is going well. I got a referral to my OB from my GP- I think it's worth seeing an Ob if you can afford it. And try talking to your partner...it's so important to keep communicating...tell him how you feel
TL- yay..not long to go!
Janie- glad you are feeling happy...and excited
afm- all going OK...going to see our OB for the first time this pregnancy tomorrow afternoon, so that will be good. DH and I have been arguing a lot lately...just not very connected...i hope that improves again soon
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good morning ladies
thankyou so much for all the info!!! im impressed!! im also feeling a little better still hurling in the morning and night though! i still dont know what to do but will be seeing GP at the end of the week so will prob get a referal then and ask him what he thinks, thanks again for all the info it was very helpful!!! also im putting off my scan for a bit as im very nervous and feel i need a bit more time to prepare myself for whatever is to come, any advice on how to survive the waiting room before the scan?
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Megan - I'm really looking forward to the birth now. I think I have had a lot of weeks to visulise and be ok with letting go and stepping aside so my body can do what it was made for.
I still have the odd niggling doubt here and there, but I try not to dwell on those as I know it is my 'little devil on my shoulder' telling me that I am not going to be strong enough.
It helped a lot with the visulaisation to go to the hospital and have a tour of the birthing suite - I can now picture scenarios (if that makes sense).
DH was very pessimistic when I told him we were going to Calm Birth Classes but to his credit he kept his doubts to himself until after the classes were complete. He then told me how blown away he was by the course and how glad he was that we'd done the course as he now felt that he could actually do something for me during the birth and how much better understanding he had.
Possums - good luck for tomorrow. Will you get to see Hope again at the OB appointment? I hope so (ha ha - no pun intended).
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Nic, I think we go into the visualisation in tonight's class. I haven't been practicing that much at home, just some calm breathing everyday when I wake up but even just taking time to do that I notice a difference about how relaxed I am. DH looks forward to every class and he asks lots of questions. I am shocked at how much he knows now. I went to high school with him and he was never this attentive in class! lol
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Morning Ladies, great to have a short week... hey :dance:
Kahlan, I think most of the ladies have summed it up perfectly for you and that it is normal to feel this way and react differently.
There is allot going on in our bodies and our heads and sometimes you can only take so much.
I find I over react more at the moment for things that really don't bother me.
Rest up and take care of you and that baby belly.
Possum, Best of luck tomorrow with your OB.
Janie, that light at the end of the tunnel sure is there.
Must be getting really exciting for you...
TL, only 6 weeks more of work to go....not that your counting...hey ;)
Bellyrubs to BG, Megan, Nic, 21, Mels, FG and anyone else I missed...there sure is a party going on in here:lol:
AFM, not much going on June Bug was moving around most of the weekend on and off and am trying to relax more that you can have quiet days.
Anyway off to OB this Friday and I can't wait to see our little one again.
Question, when do you start seeing the OB every two weeks??
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Thanks for the well wishes everyone
Mel- think we must have posted at the same time before, as I missed your post...good luck with your OB appt...and I am glad you canhave that earlier scan !
21- not much you can do about the anxiety except try and think calm thoughts and not focus onyour worries too much while in the waiting room
Nicole- how exciting getting to see your little one again soon!
Nixon- nope no scan for me...there isnt a machine at my OBs rooms...but I have only a week and a half until the 10 week one...so I pray all is going OK in there!
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Nicole - I started seeing OB every 2 weeks from 28 weeks. It sure makes the time go faster... I used to hate having to wait 4 weeks between visits!
Janie xxx
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Thanks Janie, I hear you on the 4 weeks...almost drives you batty...
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I have just started fortnightly appts and I think they're weekly from 36wks.
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Mine start this week Nic
No I am not counting :rolleyes: I just want to be a WAHM now :lol:
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:wall: *Damn computers - was half way through my personals when I lost everything!!*** :wall:
Let's try again...
Wow, things are very busy in here today!
21 - I came to the realisation before my last scan that no matter what the outcome, there was nothing I could do to control or change that. Once that happened I was much more accepting of the process and felt more relaxed. I hope you can find some way of communicating with your DF about how you're feeling. It's important to have him there for your support now and in the future.
Possums - As long as I am healthy, I expect to work up until about 36 to 38 weeks so I can maximise my mat leave with bub. I am hoping to be able to take about 6 months if we can afford it! And good luck with your ob appointment.
Mels - good luck with your scan next week.
Kahlan - sorry to hear about your sad day. I have those occasionally and have just put it down to hormones. I had one yesterday actually and decided to spend the day relaxing and just chilling out doing fun things but I did drag DF out for a walk later in the afternoon - it all helped me. Hopefully you will find something that works for you too.
Mels - good luck with your ob appointment tomorrow.
Nicole - ditto for Friday.
To everyone else, a big :hello:.
Not much going on with me. DF and I have started talking about where we will put the furniture in the nursery. But before we do that, we need to buy some, and we need to rearrange three rooms of the house - two studies and a guest room becomes one bigger study, one small guest room and the nursery. We'll have to do that sooner rather than later otherwise poor DF will have to move all three bookcases, desks, computers, bed etc by himself. We're looking forward to the 12wk scan on Monday. Not long to go now!
Take are all
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Thanks so much girls. You all have made me feel better. I will talk to my OB at our next appt. I told DH what I was experiencing last night and he just kissed and hugged me very tight. I think he was afraid that anything he might say would trigger another flood of tears! Poor fellow.
Chez - 12 weeks is such a big step. I remembered breathing a really big sigh of relief when I saw my baby healthy and strong at 12 weeks.
Janie and TL - not long to go now. I bet you are both very excited and nervous.
To those who are still in the 12 weeks period, I hope this might reassure you a bit. I was told by 3 doctors that although m/c do occur up until 12 weeks but the majority do occur within the first 8 weeks. If you have passed that there is a very very high likelihood that you bub is staying for the long haul. In short, 5 out of 6 pg will terminate in the first 12 weeks, however the majority will terminate within the first 8 weeks.
One question, I am having problems getting DVD recording of my ultrasound. All the places my doctor refers me to said they don't do it as standard but I can come back at 21 week pg and pay roughly $190 for the recording and 3D/4D images. Is this right? If you are in Victoria and have any info on which places to go, please help me out. Thanks.
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Kahlan- thanks for that encouragement for those of us still in the first 12 weeks...it is good to hear! I am not sure about the scan dvds sorry...I do hope you are feeling a bit brighter in yourself
chez- we have also started talking about nursery things (even though it's still early days) and will also be rearranging some rooms/guest rooms to get things just right- I am looking forward to my 10 wk scan now...and i hope the time flies until your 12 week scan
afm- well, I am a bit rattled today and I apologise in advance if this is going to sound silly or something. It's just I have found out that a girl at work (well, she is just a casual, and isnt here that much these days, but we used to work together a lot) who I am not all that fond of, and who drinks and smokes a lot, is pregnant...I think due in July (I overheard a conversation in our open plan office, but havent been told directly). Anyway, she's has a child and has been trying for a while for a second, all the while smoking etc. And I used to find it really upsetting when she would whinge to me she wasn't pregnant again yet, and yet her lifestyle is not good (and she's 40) and meanwhile I was doing ALL the right things, and going through IVF and losing babies etc.
Now that I hear she is pregnant, I feel all rattled. I am not even sure why. Perhaps because I thought it was my turn to announce exciting pregnancy news and be the pregnant one? Perhaps because I know she has still been smoking etc. Perhaps because she is ahead of me, and I have this fear, that imagine if I lose this baby, and she then has a baby...I don't know how I'd cope. As I said, I know this probably doesn't sound rational and I am trying to understand it myself, all I know is I feel emotional and rattled.
