Pregnancy after Long Term TTC - November 2008

mornin ladies! hope everyone is having a nice mornin!

welcome on tra_k and congrats! - the next couple of weeks you'll be under the care of the clinic - i started with low HCG numbers so weekly BT's for three weeks to make sure things were rising as they should be. when i was around 6 weeks, i went for a scan - bubs was measurig small (5w3d) but had a heartbeat. i then went back to see the FS the following week, and due to my concerns about size, i was able to get another referral for a scan at around 8-9 weeks. gremlin had caught up a bit (only 2 days ahead of what we should have measured if we'd been 5w3d at first scan) but it was a fantastic confidence builder to see that our baby had grown. after that last scan, we were released to the "normal" pregnancy world - scary thought!! i tried to book in with the doctor i wanted to see for an appointment at around 10 weeks, but due to Melbourne Cup she was on leave - went to the GP on Monday and got myself a referral from him. at the moment, i'm living appointment to appointment. if i think too far ahead, it's just too scary! take each day as it comes. research your care options early (in case you want a popular doctor or something like the "know your midwife" program) - can be very difficult to book in, esp if you're in a major city.

HM - BW has put it so perfectly about that longing to be pg - and once you're there, it's like you're lost. you have all this focus on getting there, and when you finally make it, there's no instruction guide to tell you what to do next! it's daunting for sure! i still struggle with the idea that there will be a bubba in my arms next year. have closed myself off for now to the notion of giving birth (that's too far away) and instead am just taking one day, one week, at a time. each milestone is one i haven't reached before - and i'm intending to keep my focus like that! eventually i'll accept that i have to birth this little Gremlin, and that, once it's here, i'll have to learn to deal with a new born - but from then, everything is about both of us growing together. i think it would be so much harder to be thrown in to the deep end with an older child, but having a new born, you bond, and you both learn about each other from day one.

AFM - having a bit of a shocker - very tired. still feeling exceptionally unwell all the time. i have good "hours" at the moment - can't wait until i can have good days!! will be ringing today to book 12 week scan - and trying to get it to fit in where it's most convenient for DH to be home. it's not easy doing this mostly solo - i know he feels somewhat out of things - even though he cant feel sick for me, or feel movement yet, he is very much a hands on person. he spent the last four days home (bliss!) and was just doting on me and trying to do all in his power to make life easier. i guess i'm still struggling a bit with the notion of doing so much of this solo, but i'm getting better! will be ringing the store i'm hoping to buy all our furniture from today as i know they're having a sale - but the shop is two hours away so i have to do it all by phone as i can't even drive to the PO without feeling seriously ill, let alone going to Melb! other than that, i'm having a bludge day. ringing work to tell them i won't be back for at least a couple more weeks (GP suggested four) as maxalon just does bugger all for severe nausea, and GP didn't want to prescribe anything stronger. will be asking specialist on Monday if she has any other options...

ah well, think i've waffled enough - time to make a phone call or two before i feel too bad - the others can wait til after lunch...

Kahlan, you may hate what I'm about to say... the fact that your mother and sister got no morning sickness doesn't necessarily mean you will escape.

My mother and sister had no fertility problems - I did.
My mother and sister had no morning sickness - I did, from three weeks! :o
My mother and sister both had trouble-free births... oh crap!

It would be nice to think it could work that way, but it's not always the case as I found out. I'm also hoping that my body will stop doing things in such a way as to be different VERY soon! Best to be warned, though...

HM - that's what we're here for. :hug: It's so nice to have that feeling of "this is normal", so don't be afraid to share even if you think it's strange, you'll likely find that everyone will respond with a chorus of "me too!"

BG - I really, really hope that MS eases up sooner than those 4 weeks your doctor is suggesting. :pray:

I'm just having a really, really tired day. Munchkin moves LOTS and just LOVES playing with daddy... and of course, daddy just LOVES getting him all excited at night and feeling lots of kicks... then is rude enough to roll over and go straight to sleep leaving me with a bouncy little Munchkin for a while... and he was rude enough to snore last night as well! Urgh... But it's hump day, and the weekend will be here sooner than we think...

BW

Thanks for the warning BW.. It's a good thing your DH is excited about the Munchkin. My DH sleeps really easily as well and sometimes it peeves me off that he would be able to sleep better than me.

It is very cute that you have a nickname for your bub. My nieces have decided to call mine Sausage... their reason is that it is a neutral name :o

Hi All,

HM- Don't ever feel bad for your feelings. This is such a hard journey that we have all been on and I give praise to all of us for staying sane and strong.

On Trak- So glad to see you in here. What an amazing run on BFP's we had in the last couple of weeks. Look forward to sharing your journey with you. I can't really answer your questions on what happens after you get your BFP. I think my journey has been a bit different cause of the OHSS. I am still being monitored, having BT's and scans because of that.

BW- Hope you are getting through the day ok. You'll have to warn daddy that when Munchkin arrives, he won't be able to stir him up then just go back to sleep!! Too cute though!

Janie- Hope things are still going wonderfully for you

Nic- No news is good news I say!!

TL- Will try and make breakfast on Sat. Would be great to meet you finally. Let me know time and location when it is finalised. Hope you and Baby Tigger are well today

Possums- I think of you every day and can't wait til you are back here. Your strength and kindness is an inspiration to us all

Kahlan- Hhmm..I was thinking maybe those HCG levels may mean MS soon but so far so good. I think you handled yesterday really well with people being told you are pg. IKWYM about people knowing and what if something happens. But you know what..I have just decided for me, that this time NOTHING will happen. My 2 little ones have been through a lot already, and they are part of our lives now. I want the world to know we are blessed. I'm not putting an ad in the newspaper, but all my special people in our lives know we are pg.

BG- How exciting buying furniture!! I'm sorry to hear you are so unwell but I think it's a great decision to take the extra time off work. Does your DH travel for work? Mine does and already he missed the 1st scan. I felt so bad for him that he couldn't be there when I was told we were having twins. Luckily we are having another scan on Mon and he will be there.

Nicole S- 2 sleeps to go!!

Sorry if I missed you...so busy in here now.

AFM and the 2 little ones, just relaxing still. Taking things 1 day at a time now. Very excited about seeing the babies again on Mon with DH. Might go and have a nana nap soon..what a sloth!!

Have a good afternoon all

Hugs Bel

Bel - my DH is a long distance truckie, so can be away anything up to 10 days at a stretch, then home a day or three, depending on what is happening. thankfully he has a fantastic boss that gets him home (albeit sometimes ONLY JUST) for all appointments. he has only missed one FS appointment the whole time, and that was simply because i said it wasn't worth him coming home. every other appointment he's been home so that's helpful. apparently the bosses wife is a bit envious - DH gets home, but the boss used to miss their appointments! oopsie! i think we did the right thing with the boss from the start - he offered DH a job - DH accepted on the condition that he were home whenever an appointment comes up. he started with this boss during the TWW of our full stim IVF cycle - so the boss knew from the outset about IVF... boss has four kids, and wants to be able to spend more family time, so after less than a year, he's looking to train DH to run the business from home while he is away with his family. means more home time for DH, more free time for the boss... and more work for me (DH can't use a computer! lol).

i think the big thing is that i've come to a place of acceptance of physically being a single mum - provided i still have his emotional support. having him home is fantastic, but having him listen when i'm down is what i really need - no matter where he is!

Gosh am gone a few days and there is a new thread and lots of chatter!
Firsty congrats (again) HM, Kahlan and on-trak
Bel - yay twins! How exciting!
Shann ... not long to go hun how exciting!
Hi to you all and :bellyrubs: will do personals later as was planning to leave work at 5.30 and am still here reading away!
AFM: 1st scan tomorrow! Yay! Cant wait! Of course am nervous as, but just need to go with the flow.
Will let you know how I go
Mon :)

It's so busy in here...struggling to remember everything I've just read in this and the last thread! I've only just got my computer going again after nearly a week without it.
I had my GTT on Monday and the Dr called and left a message for me today as he wanted to discuss the results. I've called him twice and left messages but he's been with patients so I still haven't heard from him. The midwife said he would only call if there was a problem, so of course now I am freaking out because it looks like I have GD and I have 20+ weeks of pg to go.
Feeling a lot of flutters now which is nice. I also booked in for my next scan which is in 2 weeks, booked our antenatal classes and am starting a pregnancy excercise class this week as well. I feel the need to get off my backside and do something after sitting around for the last 12 weeks feeling tired and struggling with m/s.
Am going to try and keep up with everyone from now on..... sorry, couldn't possibly do personals after reading 5 pages of posts! ;)

Megan Hi ya!....a couple of days ago wen i joined...i thought yep busy in here but not too bad...i can keep up....and then i keep meeting more and more new people. So I appologise for when i will regularly miss people...will do my best.

Mon- Yay you are in here too!! Love to you hun and good luck for the scan...i am with you in spirit and 'going with the flow' sounds like a great plan! I will do the same at dr appointment today...first one and already getting a funny belly.

Bel- Thanks Hun, we are all pretty wicked aren't we.. enioy your nap.

BW- Mwua...thanks, I feel much more 'normal' thanks to you girls. Get some rest hun...and boot that loving hubby of yours...naughty!!! LOL

Kahlan- Of course we can share info hun...I am around the 10-12th July...but mid july sounds less definitive! I have Dr appointment today for the first time so will let you know what happens hun. Bear/bare (never remember which one) with me though...the uk is not so forth coming with helpful sometimes...fingers crossed. I am an Aussie in Essex...

Possoms- Oh hun, I am so so sorry. Your perspective has kicked me up the bum...much needed. My heart breaks for you going through this. I had a early miscarriage in May hun and now knowing how much excitement builds from one day to the next...you must have been knocked for six. I send you all my love and comfort and I will do my best to make you proud hun. Take care and thank you so much.

Janie- Hi ya...nice to meet you.

BG- LOL re 'gremlin'. I am avoiding all books and pictures for the time being with pictures of the embryo and early foetus until it more resembles a human...i was in the book store a couple of days ago and scared myself to pieces...Told Hubby....What on earth have you done to me?!!!! Ha
Hope you feel better son hun and having your hubby away so much must be quite challenging. I remember us talking about it a long time ago when i was adjusting to not working with mine. I think you are incredible!!! We are here for you hun...you won't be a single mum if we can help it...well emotionally anyway. Enjoy your bludge day and I plan on taking a similar view as you...one day at a time...don't look too far ahead...I can handle it. a couple of days ago i said to myself, right just get to day 36 first (which was my longest ever cycle) then next get to 6 week scan....then 8 weeks to tell everyone...then 12 weeks will be christmas...etc etc. It is the best way you are right!

AFM- Right you incredible women...you are so empowering and love to you all.
Today for me is the first DR appointment...have no idea if he will take my blood or send me to the hospital again like last time...where i will wait for hours. Hubby can't come which is a shame but i am fine with it. Would be good to have his comfort. I will get past today and having booked my scan for about a weeks time...i will end today feeling very confident with how we are...all 3 of us.

xoxox HM xoxoxo

*throws suitcases in*

Okay which bed is mine?!

Hi Folks...decided it was time to bite the bullet and officially move in here seeing as BG keeps telling me I have to think more possimistic like!

For those who know me "Howdy" and for those who are new "Nice to meet you all and I hope to get to you know you better over the next few weeks andmonths...YIKES! Sounds scary saying it out loudlike that!"

I am so with everyone on the whole focus so much on getting pregnant and then cr8p your dacks moment when you actually do get that BFP.....I think panic is my middle name at the moment. scared of being a mum...scared of miscarrying (gotta love the knicker checking - even DH asks everytime I go to the loo! scared of Morning Sickness, complications (of which there could be plenty seeing as I am a type 1 diabetic as well)...well you get the gist.

I 'think' a touch of morning sickness type stuff has started to kick in the past day or so...just a feeling of being empty even though I have recently eaten type thing nothing too major so far, touch wood. I am with you Kahlan...I am sticking to the my mum didn't have morning sickness, my sister didn't have morning sickness, I will NOT have morning sickness theory. I dont care what you say BW...ignorance is bliss over here!!LOL

I have to have a repeat blood tomorrow to check my HCG and P4 as we will be tracking these for quite a while to come I guess. My levels on thursday were HCG 615 and P4 52 so I am guessing my HCG needs to be around the 5000+ mark if it is doubling properly..... fingers crossed.

And I get a scan next Friday to make sure we have a heartbeart :pray:

Anyone here have any experience with taking prednisilone, clexane and P4 pessaries during the first trimester? We are following instructions from the illustrious Dr. Sacks after finding out we have an NK cell issue earlier in the year. OMG prednisilone does wonderful things to blood sugar levels....In the past week alone I have more than doubled my insulin doses and I am still not quite back to normal...almost there just need to do some tweaking...Let the fun begin!!

Okay that's enough from me...Look forward to getting to know you all!

Hi ya Mel Bel,
LoL re suitcases and 'which bed is mine?'...love it. Like a big 9 month slumber party...how fun. We will have to have the odd virgin ****tail with our fluffy slippers on and sexy slinky hot mamma pjs!

Also re the 'knicker check' This will make you guys laugh...sorry if TMI My husband was in the shower ...and I went to the loo this morning and wiped...then i hear this Oh No are you spotting?....I loudly replied..NO, you twit! God I love him...if he could have his head in the loo each time i go...he would. Love him though for being so involved. It reminded me of a site a saw recently that encouraged the man to get involved as much as possible and to support the pg testing, to be around ...but not too close etc...but please don't hold the POS for her as she will know best which direction she will go...MAD ME LAUGH!

Love and wishes
HM xoxoxox

Hi Melbel,

Glad to meet you.

Oh I love slumber parties!

I have taken the day off and hadn't done much at home... I have got 2 assignments to complete and well.... still checking the forum...

My DH is also very concern. This sarvo I had a little bit of indigestion. I called him and said that I am in pain. I didn't get to tell him that it was unrelated to the baby and he was already fretting. just after dinner he rubbed my back and tummy (personal note to self... will not try and use this advantage in the future to get what I want).

Girls, I've got a question. I get dizzy spells when I get up really quickly or start to walk and turn my head quickly. When I get this I have to stop and close my eyes before my balance and spatial awareness returns. Do any of you experience this early on in your pg? I am also getting CM++ on some days and not on others.

Mel Bel - Congrats on that :bfp: you have me laughing still
HM - Goodluck at the Drs all 3 of you will be fine
Megan - :hug: hope the Dr calls soon maybe all managable too sweet
Mon - So excited about your scan can't wait to see a pic of super bub :)
Bel - Trying to find the cafe now details will be here
https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...reg-8-nov.html


To everyone else and my head is :o spinning trying to keep up :grouphug: talk soon.

Me too Kahlan, CM- little bit enough to be on knickers at end of day...and a little dizzy sometimes. But I do occasionally get a little dizzy when my blood sugar is a bit low...eat something small and often hun and see if it helps. xxoxo

Thanks HM. Glad to know I am not the only one....hmm... will consider about the blood glucose level in the future. since we are on the topic, I might as well share, my tummy is rather bloated (like the time during the stimulated cycle).. wonder if you are experiencing the same. I know the baby is no more than 1mm but god all the blood going down there does make my tummy big (am very petite... actually underweight) that's why it really shows.

eat small and often for the dizzies. BP could be a little low if it's happening when you stand up quickly. take it easy getting up! not as easy done as said, but hey, we'll say it anyway! i've found i can mostly control it that way. i dived up to grab my mobile the other day - thankfully DH was home and caught me as the dizzy took over - so just take it easy!

Mel - so glad you're being more "possimistic" - about time!! you probably need the (in)sanity of talking to others not just me - i'm a very one dimensional person - it's all about ME!! pull up a comfy chair, and get yourself into this chat!

AFM - had a pregnant moment earlier (though it could almost be a blonde or just downright STOOPID moment) - put some food in the oven to cook and not sure if i put the oven a bit higher than normal, but somehow i managed to turn it all to charcoal. i'd planned a late-ish dinner to sustain me through the night, and it ended up a VERY late dinner when i had to cook a whole other meal! i had intended being in bed on my way to sleep by nine - it's now almost 10, i have to go feed the haminals, take the bin out - and put myself into bed, so i'm going to do a runner!

nite all!

Just passing through on my way to bed - didn't think there'd be this much to read!

Mel, good luck with the anti-ms thoughts! I hope it works for you! And you've just (I think) hit on the reason for my low BSLs... I dropped my prednisone dosage and I don't think my body has adjusted yet! All I can suggest is keep in close contact with Dr S and follow his guidance. He's usually brilliant at replying quickly, I've found.

Anyway... must go... think it's going to be another night of excitable munchkins - he's been going off all afternoon without a break!

BW

Hello Ladies

Mel HUGE :welcome: and congrats so glad to hear of your BFP!! Woohoo! You can have my bed i am well and truely ready to go!

Khalan- The CM & Dizziness sounds pretty normal, take it easy and make sure you are eating reguarly etc. Look after yourself!

Megan - Good luck with the Dr, did you do the 1 or 2 hour test? If you did the short one he may just want you to do the longer one and you may be perfectly fine! Good luck!

HM - Ahh you make me laugh your DH sounds like mine!

TL - not long know until we know if its Archer or Charlotte and i can't wait! Plus i want to see more pics of that gorgeous baby!

This thread is taking of it is just fantastic 2008 has been such a wonderful year for BB AC stats! I know i have missed heaps of people but i am reading and sending huge :bellyrubs: to everyone!

Only 8 sleeps to go here, and after a very dissapointing Ob appointment yesterday babies are still head down and the boy is almost completely engaged but after a not so nice internal something is wrong she thinks his head may not be positioned right so he is not putting the right pressure on my cervix so all my pain is not doing any good its just because his head is tilted wrong which will make the induction a lot harder. So ate a fair amount of crunchie chocolate and curled up on the couch all crampy and feeling sorry for myself.


Shan

Youchy Shannon, You have all the crunchies you want hun...i would be feelign sorry for myself too hun. Hopefully the bubbas are on their way. Will you have to induce or can you go naturally if you can? Oh how very exciting.
Hm xoxox