Pregnancy After Long Term TTC ~ April - June 07

Hey guys

Yeah...mixing work and pregnancy is hard, hey? I work for myself (in private practice)...it's great, in that I can be sort-of-flexible...but I also find that I work probably harder for myself, than I did when I was working for the government!

Anyway...only 2 weeks and 1 day to go!!! Can't wait!

Unfortunately no paid maternity leave at the end of it though!

I'll probably need to start working again in January...but it will only be part-time.

Jo...sorry to hear you're having difficulties with your co-worker...you poor thing!

Has anyone found that being a PALTTTC-er that you felt you shouldn't be able to complain about the not-so-great things about being pregnant? I did! I found that I had to speak to my Dad, in particular, because if I would complain about something (e.g. morning sickness), he would say something like "well...it's just great that you're pregnant"...in the end I had to explain to him, that although I'm thrilled I'm pregnant, especially after so many years of trying, that it shouldn't mean that I have to be thrilled 24/7 for 9 months...he agreed...and then proceeded to be a huge supporter of any whinges...and encourage me to complain, even if I felt fine!!! LOL!!!

Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend...take care all!

Yeh Monnie I have to agree with you about complaining about the down sides of being pregnant. When I was in the early stages and was tired and sick all the time, I was told by several people that it "comes with the territory" or "just be grateful you're pregnant" etc. It was like I had to be happy all the time otherwise I was seen to be ungrateful iykwim.
Wow hun only 2 weeks of work left. I hope the time flies for you and you'll soon be able to relax and enjoy your time before ziggy arrives.
I also understand about the mat leave without pay too. I'm only casual and only started this job in early Feb this year so I don't have any entitlements either. I'm not all that worried though as I knew this might be how things would turn out.
Anyway I hope you and everyone else here have a good weekend. Big belly rubs to all.

I found this too. It's funny that if someone falls pg naturally, that it gives them the ability to whinge as much as they like, but with us, it's 'you're lucky to be pg at all, so shut up'.

I admit though I generally had a great pg with Charlie, but I did get awful round ligament pain in my second tri, and also felt like I wasn't allowed to complain. Yet pg is a really uncomfortable state to be in, and I think we shouldn't have to martyr ourselves to the discomfort. Just because we say we're tired and need to sit, or we're sick and can't stand the smell of frying bacon, or we're in pain and need to be pampered, doesn't make us one teeny bit less grateful for being pg, I'm sure in almost all respects, we're probably more grateful than most! So whinge away ladies, and if people dont understand, it's their problem, not yours!

I always read this thread coz I mod in here, so I hope you don't mind me jumping in with MO!

Hey Sushee

Great to have you jumping in...I always appreciate reading your threads!

I was wondering what round ligament pain is...

I've had this ongoing pain in my right side...in the groin area...it seems to be really deep, to the point that I can't even find the sore spot to massage it...but it hurts when I walk, or change sleeping sides during the night...it's not unbearable...just a bit sore...

Is that what round ligament pain is?

Countdown for work is really happening...very exciting! We're heading to southwest WA after I finish work...for a week's holiday...our final couple holiday! Can't wait...it's one of my most favourite places...Pemberton...gorgeous karri trees everywhere...so beautiful!

We bought our baby carseat on the weekend...feeling so real now! I also bought some fantastic (well...I think they are) wallcandy art for the nursery...it's basically wall stickers for decoration...they are these great coloured dots...big and small! Hopefully they are unisex enough...as we don't know what our little baby is!

Hope everyone is doing well...

Take care...

That sounds like ligament pain for sure, Monnie. Not necessarily round ligament pain, though, but similar. The round ligament is the one that stretches under your belly, down to your groin. I also experienced pain if I turned over in bed and when walking, but mainly in my sides, and a little in my groin. I ended up using a belly belt to help with the pain, and it made some difference. I also found that doing water-bearing physio at my maternity hospital helped heaps!

And I've also checked out the WallCandy website for inspiration for Charlie's room, so I know which coloured dots you're talking about it. I reckon they're definitely unisex! And gorgeous too! WTG!

Monnie - how right you are about the ltttc & not feeling like you can whinge, this is partly the reason I tell you girls because I know that you all understand.
Sometimes if I do complain I then go 'well this is what I wanted' because I feel bad about whinging, I shouldn't though because like Sushee said it's not exactely the most comfortable thing in the world.
I hate those woman who say 'I didn't get anything when I was pg', why don't they just rub it in a little bit more!!!

I like the idea of the wall stickers, we don't really want to paint the room so they sound great.
I think I will have a look on the website.

Can anyone tell me when the supposed 'glowing' happens to pg women, cause I am ready for it but it doesn't seem to be coming anytime soon.

Well it's only 2 more weeks until our 19 week scan & we still haven't decided if we will find out what sex we are having.

Hope everyone is feeling fantastic!

Jo - 27 (treated endo)
Dh - 34
Second chlomid / IUI March 2007 - :bfp:

Hi Girls,
I hope you do not mind me joining in, just got my first BFP from our first IVF cycle….. very fortunate.
Seeing I’m only in my 4th week, I do not have anything to contribute, but have read everyone’s posts and find it very interesting, looking forward to my pregnancy.

Just one quick question, the tight pulling feelings on the right hand side of my belly and sometimes the left, is that just the uterus stretching. You read so many thing that you start to go loopies and analyse everything. Now I am obsessed with the idea of Ectopic (if that is how its spelled) pregnancies.

I find it funny because I always use to look at ladies that did get pregnant easily and think why are they winging, they are so lucky…… but at the end of the day, no matter how you conceived the bub, we all go through the same thing, and its not always the most pleasant experience, and sometimes it’s a happy whinge, because we would complain if we didn’t feel anything.

Thanks girls for reading my babbling post, hope everyone is going well.

Hey Ltl Panda

WELCOME!!!

And congratulations...what truly wonderful news!!! So thrilled for you!

I know exactly what you mean about the little pulls and stretches you feel...they drove me insane initially...they are your uterus stretching...

It does feel a little scary...but it's good news...it's your body adjusting for your new little baby!

The way I dealt with it was just to keep saying to myself "one day at a time...every day is a bonus"...and just trying to remind myself that this is 'normal'...

Wishing you all the very best in your journey...looking forward to sharing it with you here at PALTTC...

Take care!!!

Hi and welcome Ltl Panda.

CONGRATULATIONS on your BFP.

Like Monnie has said already, the pulling and stretching is completly "normal' so please try not to worry too much(I know much easier said than done).

Jo Wow I've just realised you are only 1 week behind me. I have my 19/20 week scan not this Monday but the one after and my next ob appointment is next Wednesday. Dh and I haven't decided if we'll find out if bub is a B or G either. Sometimes I would love to know and other days I'm happy not knowing iykwim.
Also on the "glowing" side of things I've had people commenting since the day before our BFP and still get comments now. I think everyone is different and it happens at all different times etc. I honnestly can't see any difference myself and probably wouldn't have thought anything about it except that others have commented.

Monnie Not long to go at work now hun. I bet you're looking forward to your holiday. How's little ziggy doing? I hope you don't mind me asking but how many weeks were you when you had your last scan? I'm just wondering if there is anymore after the 20 week one. My ob has always done one each time I've seen her so am hoping this continues for my own piece of mind.

Hey Mako

Ziggy's doing well...but I'm sick! I've either got a horrible cold or the flu...caught it of a client of mine last week...she came into my session with her nose dribbling and eyes watering and I thought "oh no!"...3 days later...I'm a sick chickie!!!

Which means that I've had to postpone my work commitments...so still have 2 more weeks of work to go...ahhhh!!!

We had our last 'big' scan at 19 weeks...each time I visit my Ob. we have a scan, but it's really really quick and not very clear...I think I might be having another 'big' scan at 34 weeks...which will be exciting...

As I feel the baby so much now, I don't really mind not having great scans...I find the movements really reassuring and so precious!

How exciting that your 19/20 week scan is coming up so soon!!! So exciting!!!

Hi all,

Panda - Congratulations on your exciting news, I look forward to you joining us.
The niggles are normal.

Mako - Yes I am very close behind you & I have the days were I want to know the sex than I don't, we'll probably decide for sure when we are having the scan.
We have the 3d scans so I'm guessing it will be pretty obvious one way or the other.

Monnie - Hope you get better soon.

So I had a bit of a breakdown this afternoon, my cousin came & told me that she was pg.
We have a very close family & she likes to have all the attention & I can tell she hasn't liked the fact that I have been getting the attention in recent times due to being pg & the fact this is the first grandchild everyone has been so excited for me & dh, especially with how long it took to fall pg.
The thing is I knew she was going to get pg just because I am & sure enough it has happend.
I just can't believe it, she is only 22 (& very immature at that) has only been with her boyfriend for 7 months & she tries to tell me that it was an accident.
Like hell it was!!!
So for her this is her second accident (had an abortion supposedly 2 years ago we think she made that up).
The thing that really annoys me is that because she is young & unmarried the family will go poor her she needs help buying things.etc.
I also think this is a way for her to not have to work.
Oh & she also told me to keep it secret for now, how can I?
I probably sound really selfish but I wouldn't if I knew she really wanted a baby & wasn't just doing it to get attention.
The look on my face told her that I wasn't happy but what do I do?
Do I tell her how I really feel?

Jo - 27 (treated endo)
Dh - 34
Second chlomid / IUI March 2007 - :bfp:

Thank you for the king welcoming. Well I am only 4 weeks 3d, and this morning I went to the loo and hopped back in bed only to feel like I had drunk all night. The room was spinning. Is it normal to start to feel like this so early, I though symptoms kick in week 5-6.

DJTTC, I know how you feel hun, I had the same problem with my 21 year old sister. I was very upset. She too said it was an accident and I did not believe her. I actually had stopped calling her and wrote a very harsh email giving her my 2 cents worth about all the things she had done in the past and about her husband and that this was just the cherry on top of the cake.
Just before my transfer, I called her up and apologised, I felt bad as we all have the right to have a baby, and we shouldn’t have to contain our happiness. I think she felt even worse about the situation and was dreading telling us. I am pleased to say that we have settled our differences and look at this as God’s gift for us to bond better with one another.
DJTTC, I hope you feel better about the situation, and at the end of the day, all that matter is you, bub and DH.

Monnie I so look forward to feeling my baby move, I think its so amazing.

Hope everyone is doing ok.

Guess I'm officially joining now...

Wednesday's beta was 83, today's was 253.8!!

Ltl Panda, I've been having strong symptoms for about a week now - and it's just getting worse and worse!

This is just so surreal - it doesn't feel real yet at all.

BW

Hey DJTTC

I had a similar (but different) experience...

My brother and his wife were married a few years later than us and are a few years younger than us...they started TTC within a few months of getting married...and within a few months were pregnant...we had already been trying for 2 years...

It was so hard...not that I deny them the chance to have a family...but it was more the way they went about it...initially denying that they were trying and when they did fall pregnant, basically ignoring the fact that we were still TTC-ing and finding it hard to come to grips with their news...it was like they convenientally glossed over the fact that we had been trying for so long...

I think part of it was that they just didn't know how to deal with it...it would have been so better if we could have talked about it...and I made lots of opportunities to do that, but it was as if it was too hard for them to face the 'awkwardness'...

Anyway...they now have a 8 month old...

What has totally amazed me, has been our support of our family...although they are thrilled to have the first grandson (my brother's son)...they are so incredibly excited about our baby coming along...they understand what we have been through...and truly see this baby as a miracle (all babies are miracles...but this is a long awaited one!)

So...I hope that you have the same experience...

Regarding talking to her, I'm not sure if it's really worth it...I was going to talk to my brother and his wife...and gave them lots of "openings" to talk about it, but after a while realised, that they were just unable to face it...and it was probably better off that I left it...as the 'talk' probably wouldn't have resulted in the outcome I wanted anyway (ie. for them to acknowledge our difficulties)...

Your baby is incredibly special...it's a long awaited miracle, like ours...and people in your family will no doubt recognise what you went through to have this little one...

I would just see how the dust settles...review it in a few weeks and if you want to talk to her then, try it...

Take care...

Monnie

Welcome BW. Its great to have you join us. Congratulations on your bfp.

Monnie I'm sorry that you're not feeling well hun. GRRRR to the client who shared the germs( how rude). I think my ob will do very quick scans too.

Jo I feel for you sweet. I know how hard it is when people fall preg so "easily" and expect everyone to make such a fuss over then. However unfortunately this is what happens in life. My step sister is one of these people. She's 30 and has 7 children under 13. I have learnt to switch off when her name comes up and I don't see or talk to her at all for alot of reasons eg her lifestyle and the way she treats her kids.

Well not much is happening here. I'm a little concerned though as I've only felt bub move once a couple of weeks ago and nothing since. Is this normal???? I'm really trying not to worry though but its getting a little hard not to iykwim :rolleyes:

Hi to Sazz and Sammi I hope you are both ok.

Big belly rubs to everyone.

Butterfly Warrior!!!!!!!!

My eyes just popped out of my head!!!

WHAT WONDERFUL NEWS!!!

Yay BW, we are pretty much in the same preg week. How exciting.

At the moment, sore boobs and feeling dizzy every time i look down and than up.
I also have some funky pulling sensations alternating left to right here and there.

mako - I remember my sister in law saying she felt the baby move and nothing for a while after. So I guess its normal.

talk soon

Hi everyone,

Sorry I haven't written for a while... I've been lurking though.

Glad to hear that everyone is doing well.

Congrats again to BW - so very happy for you mate!!! You did it 1st go too!! And it still feels surreal for me...

Welcome Ltl Panda, hope you don't get M/S too early! It's horrible!!

Mako, how exciting that your 20 week scan is coming up!! I've still got just over 4 weeks for mine... not too long! I can't wait to see him/her again. I don't want to find out either, although some days I wonder why... especially now with all the sales on and I can't buy anything because I don't know what I'm buying for!

Monnie - hope you feel better soon, and you get your work commitments done so you can relax! Not long to go now.... how exciting!!

Jo, you're about a week ahead of me! I'm sorry about your cousin, maybe you should sleep on it, so to speak, and see how you feel in a little while... try not to let it bother you too much - just enjoy the fact that you're having a baby!!!!

Well, not much happening here... I've got another ob appointment on Tuesday which I'm looking forward to, then the next one is 20 weeks!! Can't wait for that scan, it will be very exciting! I'm feeling much better, which is great. The m/s seems to have gone, but I'm still really tired... but it's better than feeling sick! Still waiting to 'pop' but not concerned, the longer I fit into my clothes the less I'll have to buy!

Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend!

Sam x