Pregnancy after LT TTC #12

Lise - Wow, he's so cute. Congratulations again. I hope everything has been going well since the birth.

WantBaby - I'm having a c-section due to the fact I have grade 3 placenta praevia, so the placenta is completely covering my cervix (no choice but a c-section).

Lisa B - I chose to go private, with one of my main reasons being that I wanted my own hospital room after the baby was born. Probably sounds shallow I know, but I just don't think I could handle sharing a room with up to 3 other women and their babies, as well as my own baby. I'm also a worrier, so I liked the idea of having my own OB throughout the pregnancy. Mind you, after each appt I have to wonder sometimes, since he really doesn't do that much. But for me, going private was peace of mind. Good luck with the scan next week.

Leabie - Thanks for your positive comments. I hope I turn out to be a good mum too.

Yogi Bear - Welcome. I completely understand your hesitation given your history, but I have everything crossed for you that this is the one for you. Good luck with everything.

Wishes xoxo

Hi
Just thought I would pop back in here to say hi and send belly rubs!

It is so exciting to see that all the ladies who were just confirming their new pregnancies when I was still on this thread are now all having their babies or are due very soon!! Mitf, Lise Congrats! Londonmiss Wantbaby, Paula not long now!! Feels like yesterday I was having my DS but now he is almost 6 months and sitting up and rolling and being gorgeous! Though I am jealous of those newborn snuggles you will be getting ladies!!! Enjoy!!!

Welcome to the new ladies as well!

Lise, Finnian is adorable. You and DH must be soooo proud of him.

YogiBear, Totally understandable for you to be worried about this PG given your history. Hopefully discussing your worries and anxieties in here with other ladies will help to lessen your worries. Welcome!

Lisa B, I'm going private because we went through IVF and needed to be privately covered in order to try to recoup some of the IVF costs. Plus my fertility specialist also delivers and for peace of mind I really want him there. It's looking like I will have a c-section, too, as I am carrying twins so I definitely want to see his calming face there not some stranger. And as Wishes has said, I too don't want to share a room with other mums and their babies, especially if I will feel like crap after having a CS and being a first-time mum.

I want to raise what is probably a contentious issue, and that is weight gain during PG. I have been regularly weighing myself throughout this PG, once a week on the same day for ages now. I have put on 1 kilo over the last week! To put it into some perspective, though, what I weighed at week 6 compared to what I weigh now, week 16 (Yay!) is only 1 kilo in gain. Not too bad I think. But I will be worried if I keep putting on 1 kilo every week! Can others add their perspectives/experiences? I know it's hard to ask what is "normal" because we all have different experiences, but did anyone else put on 1 kilo in a week and maybe not so much in other weeks?

Poppyfairy - how lovely to hear from you, it's spooky I was thinking about you and Smithy this morning! I love "lactivist", very cool. He is such a little man - can't believe he's so grown up already!

Lisa B - wishes is right on the bed thing. I'd check with your local hosp, RWH does single rooming for most women and most you get in a room is two. But lots of older public hospitals have different rules. But Danni Minogue, for all her money ended up giving birth in the public system... so you can never tell. I'm surprised she's picked such a normal name (does that sound awful??) Got two texts yesterday from friends/ antenatal people who have given birth. And I wanted to ask an etiquette question: how have you responded/ what do you think is the best way to respond if someone gives their child a wierd name? Do you just ignore it, or do you lie? In general on BB, I don't tend to comment on names and you can't tell how well it works really unless you know the sirname and we don't all tend to use those. Or as in the one yesterday, where its not immediately obvious what gender the child is (poor texting from the DH if you ask me!!), would a general reply be ok and wait for them to tell you?

Lise & Mitf - :bluecheer::bluecheer:congratulations on the safe arrival of your beautiful baby boys. Lise he is just gorgeous and wow so much hair!! Hope both of you and bubs are doing well.

Mum2be - I am praying so hard for you honey, I can't imagine how you must feel. Fingers crossed you have one hell of a little fighter on your hands!!

Yogi - Congrats and welcome.

I am currently away at my mums for the week relaxing and being spolit!! :hello: and :bellyrubs: to everyone else i will catch up with you all when i get home.

Lise, he's gorgeous! Thank you for sharing the photos!

Brunette, for now my weight's going the other way (I've lost 10kg so far thanks to the m/s). I'll need to do what I can to keep it in check once I start eating again though because I'm very overweight to start with.

LondonMiss, I go for ignoring as my first option, with lying as the backup plan. But to be honest, generally I don't comment on names regardless of whether I like them or not. The only time I've had an unavoidable conversation about a name was with one of our friends who went to great lengths explaining how much effort they'd gone to to make sure their daughter's name was unique.

Lisa B, like you I'd spent all my time researching the TTC side. I know the IVF doctors in this city with good reputations, but not the OBs and had to make a choice on OB quickly with no time to research it. We're going private so that we'll get a private room and DH will be able to stay at the hospital with us if he wants to. The only appeal the public system had for me (aside from cost) was that they are less likely to intervene unless absolutely neccessary. Some OBs in private hospitals are very quick to jump to c-sections or inductions and I don't want those if I don't need them.

Mitf - congrats on the safe arrival of your baby boy.

Brunette, I started at 53kg (but it would fluctuate by a kilo or so every week), and now at nearly 17 weeks I am about 55.5kg so haven't put on much at all.

Can't do personals today, what a mad mad week it's been.
Belly rubs to all.

Chrissy.

Brunnette - I would have 2 stable weeks and then a big growing week every three weeks. My weight has always been an issue as I'm very short and I went a bit mad at the beginning with the "permission" to eat. I've probably gone from 68kg at 20ish weeks to currently about mid eighties (probably creeping towards 90 based on the water in my ankles alone at the moment!!) I wouldnt' worry too much about your weight if you think you have basic nutrition going in? (in my case topped up with copious Cadburys, Magnums and with a cake chaser)

CK, You must be tiny, weighing only 53 ks! How are things going with your work, Chrissy? Have you finished training the people who are going to replace you? Gee that must be tough.

LondonMiss, Once again you had me in tears - your comment about the cake chaser; love it! Re correct etiquette with "unique" names, I agree with Leabie (I think it was) who said to say nothing. It makes it difficult if you can't guess the baby's gender due to the name the parents have given it, though :rofl:

Juniper, wow, I can't believe you have lost 10 kilos while PG! You must have very bad MS and not be eating at all? That's horrible. How did you go with the horror report?

:happyforyou::wiggle::happyforyou: LISE AND MITF A HUGE CONGRATS GIRLS ON YOUR NEW BABIES IM THRILLED TO BITS FOR YOU BOTH.

LM..hi hun not long for you now,ill be keeping an eye on this thread ;)make sure you come over and join us girls in parenting after long term ttc ,cant wait to see you all.
keep plodding girls im so proud of you all

Hey Brunette, so weight update this morning 57.5kg!!!!! Everything I read says 2nd trimester gain is about 500gm per week however ok to have a big week then a slow week like LondonMiss said. Tiny? well I've always been on the slim side and have a lot of trouble gaining weight so this is very unusual for me and the heaviest I have ever been - LOVING IT!!!! My sister put on 24kg with her third baby (only 16kg with her first) and was borderline gest diabetes so I'm hoping preg weight gain isn't genetic. My belly really popped this week and I definitely look pregnant - yay!
As for my staff, I said goodbye to all of them on Friday, a bit sad as I started the department in 2006 and it's been handed over to some ignorant people with blinders on. On a positive note, after 9.5yrs I was to be made redundant this Friday coming, however I've managed to push my redundancy out until end November by giving another department a helping hand through to then. So that means I can work through to about 3wks before due date, and then my redundancy will hit the bank account ready for baby to use it all up ;-) I was really stressing about having to find another job for just a few months but now I don't need to!

Juniper, which OBs did you go with? I think with private hosp jumping to inductions etc, you might be able to write it into your birth plan and get the OBs across it all beforehand so they only induce if medically necessary.

Hope you're enjoying your time away Renee! Lucky you to be getting spoilt.

Wishes & LondonMiss - not long now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hope everyone's had a great weekend, roll on next weekend I say!

Chrissy

Good morning ladies,
Thank you all so much for your warm welcomes and replies regarding my levels. i do feel a little better now, but of course will still worry a bit!! I have another bt on thurs in the lead up to the scan next week, i just want to know beforehand if anything doesn't look right because i've had bad news at scans in the past and it is such an awful experience. Anyway, keeping positive and praying for a healthy heartbeat.

i have another question please - the last few nights i've been waking up with mildish cramping, nothing too bad but lasts for about 10-15 mins at the same time i feel quite hot and a bit sick in the stomach too. I have had no signs of bleeding at all....is this normal for early pregnancy? i am hoping its just bub growing inside there but also worry that it means bad things too? Did anyone else have this?

Thanks again for your help everyone, told you i was a worrywart. i tell you what, we all worry & wait during the initial 2WW to find out if we are pg but then the bigger worries start. I just dont want to lose this one - it would just kill me :cry:

Have a good day everyone, lots of :bellyrubs: to you all xxx

Morning Yogi Bear - completely and utterly normal I'm afraid dear!!! The first two are pregnancy related, the last one is probably fear about pregnancy related : )

I'm still here.... DH keeps reminding me that I'm not technically late, but it feels like it! We went for a lovely posh lunch yesterday and I went in the ladies, and I swear to you, I had just walked through the door, and my belly set off the automatic taps!!! I had to do it about four times it was so funny. But then someone came in and I had to stop before I looked like a nutter.

Brunette, to be honest the m/s could be worse. I just find I really don't want to eat during the day because I feel sick and can only eat a small meal at night so I'm eating a lot less than I normally do. But since I started out so high (BMI over 35) it's not like I'm wasting away. What I do eat I generally keep down which is why I say it could be a lot worse. The horror report is due tomorrow, but we've had some set-backs so they'll be waiting a little longer (which unfortunately means its in my life a little longer).

Chrissy, we ended up going with Glenda McLaren. She was one of the OBs recommended by our FS and was also recommended by my acupuncturist.

Chrissy, that's great news about being relocated to another department and not having to worry about work. You made me laugh with your weight update. That's how I was when I saw the 1 kilo weight gain in one week! Hee hee

Juniper, does your OB deliver anywhere, or only at one hospital - like mine does?

LM, what a classic about your tummy setting off the taps! Very funny. How are you feeling now? Are you over it all and just want to meet bub?

YB, I remember getting cramps in the early days, but it wasn't in the tummy it was in the legs. I would just move a leg and get this horrible, horrible cramp. I also got headaches early on, and they've returned with a vengeance over the last three weeks or so. But everyone is different and every PG is different. GL with your BT and upcoming scan.

Brunette, I believe she only delivers at the Mater, but that's where we want to go.

Hey. The only thing I'm over is the unknown....all of a sudden I'm a great big scaredy cat. In some ways, I think I'd rather know how much pain there is going to be (which I appreciate is impossible to know) and I would definitely like to know when its going to happen. I dreamt last night that I was having contractions, how perverse the mind is. The other thing I'm over is people asking me constantly if I'm ready or excited, and constantly asking me how I am. I know they mean well, but its doing my head in at the moment, its a bit claustrophobic. Someone told me that the best advice is to lie about your due date, and I'm coming round to thinking that it is a brilliant idea!

I've got 3 of the 5 signs of prelabour - but as this could last weeks, I'm trying not to read too much into it. Docs on weds. Another lady at antenatal had her baby, we're down to three now... I feel like the party has started without me.....

Welcome Yogi Bear. As everyone has said, its perfectly normal to be worried after all we have been through. As for the cramps, definitely normal also. During my last cycle it was the one time i was sure i was getting AF from the cramps and it ended up being the time i was pregnant. The cramps do continue for some time unfortunately which wont help your worrying.
Brunette as far as weight gain is concerned i have heard ladies that have put on 6kgs their whole pregnancy and others that have put on 29kgs so no right or wrong. There are guidelines out there but as long as you are eating right try not to worry to much about it. I have never weighed myself at home this whole pregnancy. I just rely on the obs scales. That way im getting a reading from the exact same scales for the whole pregnancy.
LondonMiss i tend to agree with the others and say just send a general message if you dont like the name or in this case dont know what sex the name is associated with (that is very weird). Very exciting that you have 3 of the 5 signs. Not long before we get an announcement from you! As for finding out others are having their babies and your not, im not even due yet but i found out a friend of a friend was due a week after me and she already had her baby and to be honest i feel cheated like its not fair. Im meant to have mine first :-( Can you imagine if i go overdue.. OMG i will be losing the plot!
Renee enjoy being spoilt at your mum's.
wantbaby#2 how are you going? Got everything ready to go?

Have really been struggling with sleep this past week. Cant get comfortable and sleeping on my sides gives me back pain. Oh and not to mention the constant toilet trips! I just want one night of undisturbed sleep!! I will be having plenty of sleepless nights once she is here so why not let me sleep now?!