Pregnancy after LT TTC #13

Congratulations to Loula - can't agree more about welcoming William as a little miracle!
xxx

Congrats Loula!!!

A massive congratulations to Loula on the long-awaited arrival of William! :confetti:

Congratulations to Loula - wonderful news, and lovely name, William!

Sweetie, really glad to hear about your scan!

Lairdoz, work stress (own or partner's) is just awful. It can be all-consuming. I hope that the stress backs off a little and that you're getting support and your DH too, like counselling maybe (?) or that there is someone who can advocate and support your DH at his work. Sorry, I sound a bit too advice-giving. I used to work in a community legal centre advising employees on their rights. Glad your sickness is gone.

AFM, I'm fine, just working away at Uni stuff which is exhausting and trying not to worry too much about it. I think I've deflected all my usual worries about the baby onto Uni (which is better, by far). I don't know about others, but I hardly show. I'm quite short and slight. I kind of want to show, but then don't, becaue I hate shopping and don't want to have to buy new clothes. Right now, I just look a little tubby. Also, every now and then I get a sudden urge to vomit, and then it goes again really quickly. It's weird. Anyway, better than all day nausea, any day.

Hope everyone's well.

Thanks worrywort, I actually rang the government's fairwork hotline as well as the legal advice hotline here locally and neither can help as it is expected if you earn over $100k you are big enough to look after yourself so aren't covered by anyone from a legislation or advocate perspective. I actually rang a lawyer who pretty much told us there isn't much we can do without taking them to court which isn't going to help in this situation. My DH told me yesterday to just worry about our DD and the new baby - he agreed it was really unfair on me and our new miracle that I hardly thought about the pregnancy because of all the stress. There is way too much evidence that stress impacts the baby so I am trying to stay away from it!

I am quite slight and didn't show until I was about 20 weeks with my DD - I just ended up buying a few things the next size up rather than buying a whole new wardrobe?

Hope everyone is having a lovely day - it's a beautiful sunny day here :)

Hi Girls,

I have been away for a few days at a course and have alot of catching up to do (on bb and at home!).

Glad to hear that everything is ok for girls who had some bleeding. I was reading all the posts thinking I hope everything is ok and was glad to hear that it is. I am lucky I have not experienced this but can imagine it is terrifying.

Chrissy - on the hospital thing - I only really have one choice as that is the only hospital in town where you can have a baby. Fingers crossed the new one is finished.

On the popping out issue, with my first I didn't start showing until 14-16 weeks, but this time I popped out straight away. All those stomach muscles ain't what they used to be!

The course was very inspiring but slept terribly and thought I would come back all refreshed not having kids to look after but actually feeling really tired today. Good news is for me that the m/s is settling somewhat (although today I don't think the tiredness helps). We have decided to invite parents over for dinner on Saturday night to tell them, as I am getting too fat and they are sure to notice! Plus I actually feel ready to tell people now even though our first scan isn't for another 2 weeks. I think we will tell our kids first and then our DD can tell them which will make her feel very special and involved.

That's about it for me, take care everyone!

Yep, Lairdoz, unfortunately that's the case - that once your income is at a certain level, you are assumed to be able to negotiate for yourself, which doesn't recognise the inherent power imbalance with employer-employee, even at the highest levels... Anyway, glad that you're focusing on you and your DD and the new little one. As someone who is highly anxious (seriously!), I was surprised to find that you can actually just "learn" relaxation, just practise it every day (like with guided relaxation tapes or meditation or even just gentle stretching). I try to do this every day and those 30 minutes are just precious and really make a difference, even if I get caught up in other troubles throughout the day. Anyway, you prob have your own techniques ... Thanks for the reassurance also about showing/not showing. I will just be patient.

MaggiePie, glad your course went well and how exciting, telling your kids (and parents). You mean, your kids didn't know so far? That will be so cute, your DD telling her grannies!

Hi ladies, just a quick post as dinner is almost ready - I'm not cooking for once; DH is, yay!

Sweetie and Jaki, glad to hear that everything is well and your reassurance was seeing your babies and hearing their little heart beats. As I think Glenny said, too many of us have been where you guys have re bleeding and spotting and thankfully we still have our babies growing strong every day.

Lairdoz, sorry to hear you and DH have been under such stress with money issues. We are lucky in that both DH and I are in the public service, but we've got money issues with a huge mortgage and me being on reduced earnings the whole PG as I've not been able to work full time and was on bed rest for the first 13 weeks. Then there's maternity leave which only lasts so long and its back to reduced earnings as I will have to work part time, then there will be child-care costs when I go back to work. You're right to try not to stress as it's no good for babies and no good for mum! Take care, hey?

Congrats to Loula on the birth of William!

Maggie, that's a lovely idea telling your children and letting them tell others.

Hi to Juniper and all the other ladies!

Hi Ladies!

I'm so happy that all of you have finally become pregnant after waiting so long. I'm kind of not really meant to be in this thread given that i'm NOT pregnant but I was wanting to ask a really big favour of you guys? I am in my tww after my first IVF attempt and I'm really nervous (as I'm sure all you felt as well during your tww). I really want to get a realistic view about what my chances are of concieving in a few ivf cycles. I know that its really unlikely to happen the first time (but I'm fantasising about it anyway).

I have some questions that I woul really REALLY appreciate you answering if you get a spare few minutes. I'm sorry there are so many but I'm sick of going from website to website typing in the questions individually as its really time consuming. Feel free to copy and paste them to make answering them easier. Thank you so much ladies, I really appreciate this!


Questions:
Age of mother at time of conception:
How many fresh or frozen cycles did it take?
How many cells was the embryo at the time of transfer?
What was the problem (unexplained, endo etc)
Did you use natural alternatives such as acupuncture as well ivf?
Did you experience any pregnancy symptoms during the tww? Is so, how soon did you feel them?
How many eggs did you get at retrieval and how many fertilised?
How many embryos did you get to freeze?

Here is the most updated version!!!

Nix76 24th Aug 2010 - It's a ??? - Lil Bub

Emerald Star 26th Oct 2010 - It's a ??? - ???

Miss K 5th Nov 2010 - It's a ???

CK77 Dec 19th 2010 – it's a ??? - Munchkin
Brunette Dec 24th 2010 - it's a ??? - Double Trouble
Renee Dec 28th 2010 – it's a ??? - Little Bug

Glenny C Jan 5th 2011 - it's a ???
Leabie Jan 11th – it's a ???
KitKat Jan 19th - it's a ???
S’Rose Jan 20th – it's a ??? - Little Monkey

Juniper76 Feb 2nd - it's a ???
Maggie Feb 2nd -it's a ???
Worrywart Feb 7th - it's a ???
BJ*81
MissAma – LHB
Lairdoz Feb 24th - it's a ???

Lisa B Mar 5th - it's a ???
MaggiePie Mar 22nd - it's a Midget
Jaki80 Mar 28th - Little Man
Airline Mar 30th - it's a ???


BABIES BORN

Loula---Welcome William!!
Paula---Welcome Tiana!!!
Sonyalouise--???
Dusty---Welcome Freya!!
Ninah---Welcome ???
Seachange---Welcome Thomas!!
Londonmiss --- Welcome Charlotte!!
Wantbaby#2 ---Welcome Ellie!!
Wishes --- Welcome Casey!!
Mitf --- Welcome Luke!!
Lise --- Welcome Finnian!!
Mrs Slyder welcome two lovely girls!
Persephone --- Welcome Archie!
Kyrawolfe--- Welcome Tristan!
LilMissHaveachat --- Welcome Ethan!
Sammiejam - Welcome Colt!
BOC - Welcome Jagger Dylan!
BDT---- Welcome Sophia & Aria!
Saph----Welcome Xavier!
Greenslw---- Welcome Lincoln!
Smithy---- Welcome Charlie!
Ella'sMum---- Welcome Emme!
Poppyfairy---- Welcome Robin!
Grub17---- Welcome Ashton!
Laniwantsababy---- Welcome Jett!
Bella55---- Welcome Jack & Samuel!
Miss Magpie---- Welcome Trent!
Murph01----Welcome Jasmine!
Neptune----Welcome Adam!
KellyD---Welcome Tara Rose!

Our thoughts and prayers go to those beautiful mothers whose precious babies have been taken too soon.
Much loved & wanted son of Frosty'sMum, Benjamin born sleeping @ 14 weeks 4days. Our thoughts are with you.
Much loved & wanted daughter of Hippy Mum & Hippy Dad, Georgia Ariela taken too early from this earth 12-03-09 @ 22wk 6d
Much loved and wanted son of Chez67 & her DH, Ryan Patrick, born sleeping 17-03-09 @ 18wk 1d

Hi ladies,

Congrats Loula on the birth of William, hope you are both doing well.

Glad to hear that everyones scans are great and that any worries some of you have had all worked out for the best.

Hi to everyone!

I have been MIA for awhile have had a heap on. My grandad is still the same and work has been crazy. I feel absoluetly exahusted (both mentally and emotionally). I finally have a day off today so am going to relax, but i can feel a cold coming on now:wall:I can't win at the moment. On a positive note bub is going nuts down there!!! DH felt his first kick last night and i couldn't wipe the smile off his face, so cute!!!

Hi girls,

DS has so kindly given me his latest illness. Supposed to be at work but didn't think people would appreciate me coughing and sneezing all over the place.

Hi Marie, hope you will be joining us on this thread soon. Sorry I can't really answer your questions as I didn't do IVF.

Worrywart, we haven't told kids yet as DD the oldest is only 4 and doesn't really get the concept of keeping a secret. She will say 'I'm not supposed to tell you that ....' so we wanted to wait until we were ready for the whole world to know before she found out. We have talked about being 'pregnant' in front of her but I don't think she knows that word in association with having a baby.

Renee, thinking of you and your granddad. Hope you can find some time to relax your body and mind, and that this helps the cold to go away. Very exciting that your DH felt a kick, it's a really special time when they can share the joy like that.

Lairdoz, hope the financial stress settles for you. I would have to admit that having kids makes you poor! It's a fine line between staying at home, working, child care fees etc etc etc. Then theres all the other stuff like swimming lessons, dancing lessons, Drs visits ... it just goes on. But believe me you do somehow manage your finances (don't ask me how) but you seem to do less travelling (eg I'll just go stay with friends for the weekend no longer happens on a whim). Try not to worry about it as really unless there is something you can do right now it is one of those things that will always be there. Maybe a financial advisor could help you put it all in perspective.

Well am going to have a nap. DS kept me up half the night little ratbag!

Oh and Renee, DH has nicknamed the baby 'Midget' not very pc I know but can you add that to the list next time? ie "It's a Midget' Thanks.

congrats to Loula on William!!!

Hey Marie - hope this helps, and good luck with your 2ww. I'll pop in and see how you're going some time. There are sooooo many different scenarios though, what I would take away the most from reading about everyone's experiences, is that when you are almost convinced that AF is on her wicked way.....wait and see, because the symptoms for her and a BFP are often sooo similiar.

Age of mother at time of conception: 35
How many fresh or frozen cycles did it take? 3 x stim IVF and 2 x FET - this BFP was 2nd FET using last frozen embie
How many cells was the embryo at the time of transfer? 4 ... I think. They thawed one, it did well overnight then stopped morning of transfer so they thawed another and transferred both, so 2nd one had no 'history' and
we don't know which one 'took'.
What was the problem (unexplained, endo etc) Hubby low sperm/slightly abnormal
Did you use natural alternatives such as acupuncture as well ivf? Acupuncture once a week
Did you experience any pregnancy symptoms during the tww? Is so, how soon did you feel them? sensitive nipples (i don't get sore boobs at AF time), cramping and twinges (just like AF symptoms!)
How many eggs did you get at retrieval and how many fertilised? My memory's shot, but I think it was 5 eggs first time 5 the second, and 9 the third. 3 embies first, 3 second and only 1 the third. (that was sad)
How many embryos did you get to freeze? we popped one in and froze 2 the first time, and the same the second time. The 3rd time we just used the one emby we got.

Renee, sorry to hear about your grandad. How exciting that DH felt bubba kick!!!! Can't wait for that myself.

AFM - still nauseas still tired. still enjoying oranges more than normal. really looking forward to feeling myself again. x

Thank you so much for your reply, airline. I really appreciate having this info. I know everyone is different but I just love hearing that people do actually fall pregnant from less than say 4 cycles. It gives me so much hope!! Thank you again.

Marie - there is a thread called 'Success Stories' under the general LTTTC thread if you haven't read it before is full of fabulous happy stories, I highly recommend reading it!

Congrats to Loula, hope you're enjoying amazing baby snuggles.

Hello to everyone, hope you're all going well, so nice to see so many new faces in the thread.

Finn is now 7 weeks old, I can't believe how fast the time has gone. I know when I was pregnant it often felt like time was DRAGGING along but looking back it's over a
year since I started IVF and it feels like yesterday I was giving myself that first injection...

Anyway, belly rubs to all xx

Thank you! I will read the success stories right now!

Marie-
Good luck with your TWW honey, It's a stressful time. Here are my answers...

Age of mother at time of conception: 31

How many fresh or frozen cycles did it take? We got pregnant on our first fresh cycle (it DOES happen!!)

How many cells was the embryo at the time of transfer? Not sure but it was a 3 day embryo

What was the problem (unexplained, endo etc) I have PCOS as well as Endo, One of my tubes is blocked as well.

Did you use natural alternatives such as acupuncture as well ivf? Acupuncture once a week, herbal teas etc.

Did you experience any pregnancy symptoms during the tww? Is so, how soon did you feel them? Not at all, in fact I was convinced it hadn't worked. I was very sick with food poisoning during the pickup and transfer and we thought there was no way.

How many eggs did you get at retrieval and how many fertilised? We only got two eggs (sad) luckily both of them fertilised, we transferred one.

How many embryos did you get to freeze? We have frozen the other embryo

Hope that helped.. I think the best thing you can do is try and think positive. Rest and relax as much as you can! Good luck!!!

Hi marie, good luck with your 2ww, I hope you can join us soon. When is your BT? I will pm you my story when I get up. Right now I am laying in bed on my iPhone ;)

afm- I learned a painful lesson this morning! Do not hold in your pee all night!!! Omg when I finally went I got the worst belly ache and back ache (around the right kidney). I've never been in so much pain. Won't do that again!

Hope you all have a great weekend!