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O........M........G!!! This bub began ausKick practise at 5:30am this morning and hasn't let up!!! I think I preferred it when the movements were more sporadic! 3 hrs now and counting.
Pop back later for persies. I have a full house this easter. Hope you're all having a great weekend :)
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hey ladies i will be doing a hpt in the morning so hoping to join you soon.
BT in 9 days with 2 embies on board.
good luck to all
fingers crossed JBM! and remember it's still early. aint' over til the red lady sings :)
with this bub, i had some blood the day before my BT so rang the clinic saying "oh it didn't work and i need the next cycle to start asap" (cos we were moving that month). So i was totally bummed but resigned it hadn't worked... went in that day for a BT so they could check my levels and we could start again!... and well I suppose you know what happened seeing I"m in here! They think it was implantation or something arather bleeding. I literally nearly fell off the bed when they said "oh, actually you are showing pregnant!". So good lucky honey oxoxoxox
kelly - I hope you are managing. and fingers crossed it's soon.
not much happening here. Dh has gone away overnight for anzac day but will be home tomorrow morning. WE had a big day trip to a nearby (1.5hrs away) national park yesterday. it was so great to get out but I was really really exhausted last night and all of today.
Also hit the 'huge swelling feet stage'. It's still very warm up here and my feet have just exploded. Even my size 10 thongs leave dents in the top of my feet. aarrgghhh am so glad we're on the home stretch ;)
oxox
Hi everyone,
Just wondered if any of you have experience with gall stones? I had been getting pain up under my ribs and blamed baby for it. Thought she/he was somehow kicking me up there. Anyway it has steadily got worse over the past 3 days until yesterday I had a few times of such extreme pain I had to pull over from driving and buckle over in extreme pain and wait for it to pass. Decided I should get it checked out so went to the Berri local hospital emergency department. They were great. Had to wait for a Dr to come to the hospital and then they don't have an ultrasound technician working until Wed so we couldn't do tests to confirm his diagnosis but he believes it is gall stones.
Due to the pregnancy I couldn't get very strong pain killers (on pandedine forte). They said they could admit me until Wed to get the scan done (and in hospital they can give me better pain killers) but of course it's just me and my daughter here so I said I would try to solider on and drive home on Monday (today) as planned originally planned. will then get ultrasound done back in Ballarat. Was really worried about how I will manage an 8hour drive in such pain.
Friends offered to meet me half way and one drive the car they came in and one drive my car. Then my parents offered to fly to Mildura (150km away) and us to meet them there and then they'll drive us home (in my car). So that is what we are doing today.
Anyway the midwife at the hospital made the comment - "you might need surgery before you have your baby". I was under the impression that surgery during pregnancy is not recommended. Anyway would love to hear if any of you know anything about gall stones or have experience of having them. I had no idea your gall bladder was so high up under your ribs and had never stopped to think how painful it could be. Apparently pregnancy does make gall stones more common! With my daughter's pregnancy I had morning sickness and felt hungry all the time but no complications at all (apart froma really intense labour). With this one it seems I'm getting everything that pregnancy makes more common - i.e. thrush and now gall stones... I wonder what is next? I hope I don't get anything too bad.
Anyway the one good thing was I got to hear baby's heart beat. It took them a while to find it and I was starting to get worried but then they found it - quiet but beating at 160bpm.
Lori
DD - 14
Bub due 28th Aug (possibly a girl)
Hi everyone!
Hope you're having a good easter/anzac day break!
Kelly, you poor thing, you're doing such a good job to keep your two precious boys in there, thinking of you and hoping its not too much longer!
DR, oh no that sounds painful, I'm not experienced with gall stones and pg but I hope someone is able to give you some info.
Grub, eek, hope the swelling calms down for you and you manage to put your feet up a bit if you can with a little one!
JBM - thinking of you and hoping to see you in here soon!
MH, thats so exciting, hope bub wears himself out though and gives you a bit of a rest soon (but not too much rest, they should be programmed to kick at regular intervals to keep our minds at ease :)!
Kaybee, glad things are going well with DH at the moment. I never know what to say but thinking of you and hoping you find a way to work everything out. Oh no, gestational diabetes, do you have to take any meds or anything for that? Hope you're ok.
Hi to trishy, kass, possums and anyone else i've missed :)
AFM - so glad to be pregnant so hate complaining but am sick of being emotional, i fell like i have teenage girl brain attacks regularly (i.e., my mil said some very minor but very mean things to me tonight and i came home and cried for an hour). Also am sick of choking back the tears at tv shows and random commercials ridiculous! Have never been a big crier at the tv and now I'm crying at ads! I have no idea whats going on. Poor DH I keep trying to be "normal" but am thinking I am having irrational moments.
Take care xoxo
oh aimee - i've been a complete grumpy biatch for most of this pregnancy but i also cry at the drop of a hat. It's awful isn't it, you dont' feel like you can control yourself. I've given up trying to "protect'' anyone cos i'm just so far over it... so i might offer a warning but too bad. Your MIL sounds like a cow by the way so big hugs there maybe if you cried in front of her she might pull her head in. Does your DH stand up for you? I find they always do the snide comments in private with no audience iykwim.
One thing i find helps me focus is a bit of meditation or whatever you want to call it. I just stand under the shower and breath and try to clear my mind etc... or going for a walk or something like that might help you?
not much to report. bub likes chocolate lol mum sent us a choc fondue set and we indulged last night... mmmmmm so good!
Hi everyone! Hope you all had a great easter :)
Grub - swelling doesn't sound too nice! Hope it calms down a bit for you
Dreamrise - That sounds very uncomfortable. Glad you had some help getting home. Hopefully it will settle down enough that surgery can wait
Kelly - wow! Hopefully it's not too much longer for you :)
Hi Aimee, mindhugs, kaybee, possums, trishy, bugsmum, oneday, jbm
I'm sure I've missed people - there's a lot going on here!
Nothing to report for me. No symptoms - I'm finding it hard to believe it's actually worked. I'm having another bt tomorrow so hopefully it's all good. Have a great week everyone!
hi girls!
MH- well yay for the kicks anyway...good sign!
grub- hope easter was ok despite DH having to go away...hope those feet come down! and yum chocolate!
aimee- I am a lot more emotional too! DH and I had a fight last week and I cried and cried..it was crazy (and beyond rational)
kaybee- glad you and DH talked...and I hope you can perhaps see a counsellor or something. I know what you mean about brushing things aside sometimes...they do tend to bubble back up, so I hope you can sort through those issues
and bummer about the GD! hope it's not too hard to manage
DR- that sounds very uncomfortable and scary fo r you- hope you can get treatment, sorry I dont have advice to offer you. Glad the heartbeat is nice and strong.
JBM- fingers crossed for you!!
kelly- thinking of you and hopefully soon!
kass- good luck with the BT..it's all a bit surreal early on
and hello to anyone I have missed!!
afm- all going well...feeling well and feeling more movement now, still sporadic, but I love to feel him moving in there! DH can't wait until he can feel something too. I noticed a bit of wriggling after I ate an easter egg last night :-)
clinic appt tomorrow, so will get blood results and also get to hear the heartbeat again. maybe will get more of an answer for the heartbeat still pounding in my head too.
am busy at work at the moment, but DH and I head away tomorrow arvo...won't be online much for the next couple of weeks, but will pop in when I can to check for news!
hi girls, just a very quick one as DH and I are on the road now and I am on his work computer just briefly....I just wanted to hear any advice/feedback after my clinic appt yday...
Basically, this time actually saw an Ob (my Ob actually) ....she was concerned that the pounding head thing is continuing and hadn't heard of it as a symptom before (altho obviously reading on this site it certainly can be- as I posted about this and got plenty of replies!)...anyway, because my maternal aunt died from a bleed on the brain, she wants to do a CT scan of my head just to rule out anything nasty, that could be only making itself more noticed now with my extra blood flow. I know it's just a precaution and all is probably fine, but it gave me a bit of a scare when she started talking about the possible scenarios if they did find a clot or anything...ie go in for an early c-section delivery and then surgery for me....she just rattled those things off to me, then smiled and said, right now lets listen for a heartbeat shall we? I could hear his heartbeat nice and strong but by then I was a bit distracted!
anyway, hopefully it's just double checking all possibilities and I think all is ok.
I'll have the scan as soon as we return from our hols.
a big hi to everyone...will pop in here to check on all your updates while away when I can get onto DHs work computer :-)
omg possums! at least she's taking it seriously but that sounds very scary. why can't things just go nice and smooth for you??? you ssssooo deserve it lovely. Drive safe and try not to let worry overshadow your get away.
im still here girls, lurking. don'thave much to report. have a midwife appnt this morn so might post later. but i think the most exciting thing will be hearing the heartbeat and stopping DS from dismantling the office. *sigh* it'd be so great to have my family around for this sort of thing so i could just drop him over to nan or aunty for the morning.
ox
Oh possums what a scare! But as Grub said at least they are taking it seriously - much better to be on the safe side. Try not to worry and I'm sure everything will be fine.
LOL grub re the dismantling the office. I luckily have my mum come and look after my little cyclone while I have my weekly scans and OB appoints. Speaking of which I have one this morning so better get a move on!
Nothing much here, DS has a rotten cold so I am trying hard not to catch it. Hope everyone is going well - Kass how did your blood test go?
Possums - hang on, didn't you just get back from a babymoon? Another hol already? I gotta get me some of your lifestyle girlfriend!!! Sincerely hope the pounding sound in your head is nothing much to worry about. Fingers crossed for you. Enjoy your break and let us know how it all goes ;)
DR - I had gallstones 2 years ago. I chose to flush them out using naturopathy. I must have dropped over 100 stones I reckon - yuk! But yes, you do get referred pain under the ribs, although that is not where your gallbladder is located. It's below your liver and above your appendix. I hope this works out for you too. Take care of yourself. That pain can get very excruciating. The thing you don't want is for it to turn into pancreatitis, that's when it gets real nasty. Keep an eye on the colour of your pee. If it starts to look like Coca Cola go straight to the emergency ward.
Kass - welcome to you. Drop by anytime!!!
Grub - hey you. I have no fam nearby and my DH doesn't get home from work until 7pm. Panic panic panic!!! It's all starting to dawn on me. Who do I drop baby off to when I am having a meltdown??? Good luck with the midwife app.
Kelly - you still with us? Bubs still snug inside? Hope you're doing ok. Can't believe you are measuring past 50 weeks!!!
JBM - thinking of you too.
AFM - my family exhausted me over easter. Hello, I'm pregnant, care to lend a hand anyone??? Hmmm, slack! My niece and nephew were so buzzed up on chocolate they painted my house brown with their grubby little choc fingers!!! I was glad when it was all over. 3 nights of mayhem was too much. I sat on the couch yesterday just staring at the wall. The wind has picked up here and it only causes my mucous to increase, which sets off the gag reflex. Ah the joys!!!
Also - I read in another forum that tickers are out and they are issuing violation warnings if you don't remove. Did I miss something? Is that true? Why? I waited so long to fall pregnany and proudly display my ticker............. :(
Minhugs I'm pretty sure that's just the new rules on having photos in our signatures or avatars....
Oh, and how nice it would be for people to make allowances for you when pregnant! Uh-uh girlfriend, not in my land either. Apart from my mum, everyone else sees DH and I as the patsies and stands around waiting for us to do everything, and that's with me pregnant AND a toddler running around. Sigh....
Yep still here..
It must the day for appt's as I have my Ob one this afternoon and will be bringing up my long list of complaints that I am suffering from. Been having some more mild contractions again this morning to please let him take pity on me...
I'm lucky to have my mum & dad in Ballarat so they are happy to look after DD when I have my appt's, they even came up yesterday and looked after her for the day so I could get some rest. Although from next week it feels like the whole world will be decending on us waiting for these boys to arrive, my sis & neice are coming over from Perth in the hope I would have had the babies and then next weekend the IL's rock up to stay for a while. Mmmm I know they want to come and see the babies but supposedly they are coming to help, but they are really no help at all and just get under my feet and expect me to do everything. Hopefully DH can step in on that one and get them to help around the house.
DR: I hope they can sort out the pain for you soon.
Possums: You are having such a rough trott, hopefully it is just the Ob being overcautious with everything else you've been through. Hope you can enjoy your break - again - and everything will be sorted when you get home.
Oh well, better get moving for the day. It is so hard to do everything now that even thinking about doing stuff wears me out...
kelly, i know you don't agree but i'm glad you are still here with us! fingers crossed things get moving soon tho :) OMG what is it about families?? I hope your DH stands up to your IL better than mine does. It really is just not on to go to a house where there are small children and a preggy mum or newborn and expect to be treated like an honoured guest - MINDHUGS, I would have gone mental. Mind you we just had FIL and uncle here for about four or five days, and they wouldn't leeave the house (dh was working and i've never met uncle before) and just wanted to go everywhere with me!!!
anyhoo, you probably remember i had a mini meltdown a while back regarding the ILs visiting post baby. It's still up in the air. No one has mentioned it again since the last discussion that maybe in August (which I felt was a major compromise on my part but no one else seems to care, they are all too worried about how MIL will feel! pft)
We are planning a sept visit down their way so hopefully that'll do the trick. Having the visitors here last week really showed me why I don't want my ILs here straight away. They just don't do anything and I've got to constnatly ask for help. ggrrrr. it's not done nasty just they don't think to help iykwim.
sorry off on a tangent.
yeah bug's mum, i think that. I got an infraction notice for my signature i've had for ages and it was just all too hard with what i can and can't have and font sizes and pictures or not and whatever so i just really couldn't be bothered to put anything there now as my preggy brain is just not operating at maximum efficiency lol.
ok well appnt went well. DS just doesn't like the midwife touching me tho lol. but he sat up on the table with me for the measuring etc and was a pretty good boy. Loved hearing the heartbeat and the midwife gave me a foot massage!!! bonus!!!!
ox
grub17 hope bubs has given you some kicks to put your mind at easy, also hope your feet have gone down
Kaybee sorry to hear you have gestational diabetes,hope your survived easter
Kellyd how are you going, maybe you have done another post, I am still on page 7 trying to catch up.
Lori I have had trouble breathing duw to bub sitting up high, he has moved down low now which helps with the breathing but kicking my back now. Hope your little girl has moved into a comfy position for you. Sorry cant help with the gallstones.
mindhugs I have another auskicker here, maybe we can start a footy team lol.
JBM any news?
Hi Aimee, yep another emotional rollercoaster here too.
Kass how did your blood test go?
possum glad your ob is taking things seriously and hope for a positive outcome for you, with nothing serious.
bugsmum hope your DS is better soon and you stay well
mindhugs, my inlaws are like that. Just sit there and waiting for me to make coffee tea etc. Pffff go thirst I say. I got asked to make mine smaller here got a private message by the mods so all my angels and IVF stuff I took off.
KellyD hope the doctor took pity on you
just a quick one to say hi trishy :)
and kelly, any news?
ox
Hi Girls
Just a quickie from me... I have a new end date for these boys to arrive, yay...
My Ob is predicting they will come sometime next week but if not he said he will take pity on me and bring my c/s date forward by a week to the 11th May. So that means worst case I only have 13 days left (including today) and would be 37 weeks 4 days so after our week stay in hospital they should be able to come home with us. I was so pushing for a fixed date next week but he wouldn't go for it, even though I was having a contraction at the time he was talking to me. Although it has now been decided that we are no longer looking at a V/B as basically as at Saturday I'm classified as full term and also as twin b has decided to flip again from tranverse and he is now back to being breech a c/s is the best option all around.
Hi ladies sorry i havnt been around, went to queensland for a wedding which was great :)
Kelly how exciting not much longer to go!!!!!
I have my first midwives appointment next thursday which im very excited about lol and only 3 more weeks till we find out the sex!!!
hi...online briefly again...just wanted to say thanks for the support everyone...and yep, lucky to be on this break on the back of a work trip for DH! (and after our recent long weekend)
kelly- hang in there!
take care everyone x
Kelly,
so glad you have an earlier date now, though I understand why you want it earlier still. I couldn't imagine being as big as you are and still having another 11 days to wait.
Possums,
I know how hard it can be worrying about what might be but hopefully these scans will help put your mind at ease.
Hi everyone else.
AFM: I had a midwife appointment today and told them about my holiday and my visits to Berri and Mildura hospitals etc so I was referred to another Dr. Anyway the end result was they still insist it's not from bub but don't know what it is. At least the pain has subdued alot (only had a few bouts of a pain around 6 or 7 out of 10 yesterday and today was only a few around 5 - lot better than my 3 attacks of pain around 10 out of 10 in a 90minute period when I was driving from Berri to Mildura).
Lori
DD - 14
Bub due 28th Aug (possibly a girl)
Kelly glad your date has been moved forward.
oneday good luck with your appointment with the MW
possum enjoy the rest of your break
Lori glad to hear the pain isnt as bad but a 7 is still pretty bad.
hi ladies, just an update on our TWW madness. lol:bump:
well i am getting 2 lines now everyday. cause i have to test everyday you remember. lol
one is fainter but is coming up and has got darker since tue.
:hooray:
could i be joining you soon ???
BT is on tue, 4 more days, 4 more days,4 more sleeps.
i am so so excited and scared it's not real
:bellyrubs:
CONGRATULATIONS Jbm!!!!!!!!!!!! Such good news.
Just popping in quickly back for persies later!
xoxo
oh jbm that would just be the best!!!
lori, hope they sort it out soon.
hi trishy :)
kelly, that's such great news! now you'll be saying "oh it's happening too quick'' lol you know what its like.
better go, i'm being harrassed by a 16 mnth old
Yay JBM! I'm sure this one is it!
dreamrise - glad the pain has subsided. Hope it continues to go
Kelly - glad they've moved you forward! I'm looking forward to seeing your ba!
Possums - that sounds scary, but I'm sure it's just a worst case scenario and everything will be fine. It's good that they're taking it seriously - at least when you've had the test you'll know for sure that nothing is wrong!
Hi oneday, trishy, grub, aimee, bugsmum, mindhugs
My bt was fine - thanks for asking :) My first scan is next Tuesday, and hopefully then I'll be able to relax a bit!
Hey all
Ooh JBM it's sounding good!! How exciting! Can't wait for you to join us in here
Kass - glad to hear all going well, not long til the scan
Kelly - not long now darl, how exciting you are so close!!
Well I had an OB appoint yesterday and got a royal bollocking from the midwife for not going to hospi on Monday when bub was really quiet. DS was asleep and DH was not home so I didnt really have any option but to sit it out and cry.. I got in trouble BIG time! But lots of movement again now but will be 30 weeks next week and from then on have to take reduced movement very seriously so I have promised to be good. I also think I have SPD - that pelvic/pubic whatever it is. It is so so painful and each day is just getting worse, so any household things or anything to do with DS is killing me. Unfortunately with DH's ridiculous work hours I'm on my own so I've got icepacks on the ready and hoping it doesnt get worse from here.
Sigh... the things we do to have kids!
OOOHHH JBM, that's so exciting. With both my successful pregnancies I got second lines at 6dpt of day 3's so looking fantastic. I wonder if you will take over from me then as being the Twin mummy in this forum, we have to have at least one twin pregnancy in here. Fingers crossed for you...
WE MADE IT....
36 weeks today everyone... WOOHOO... So we are now technically full term and after all the drama's we had in the past 6-7 weeks I am so amazed we managed to get here and even though I feel like c**p I can't tell you how much my mindset has changed knowing worse case is that we have 11 more sleeps max. DH is also excited as he only has 7 more days of work before he then has 5-6 weeks off, although he will then be doing different types of work at home lol...
Hi everyone,
another quick one from me only because I have a tonne of housework to do.
Kelly - that's awesome, yay you've done so well to make it this far, I can't wait to hear about your precious babies arrival!!!
Grub , thanks for your understanding, I think I'm ok now, can't believe how irrational I was (now that I'm thinking normally but am sure it will happen again). Yay for foot massage, sorry to hear about your uncertainty with the in-laws visit.
kass- Congrats on a great bt result! hope your scan goes well!
possums - thanks am glad to know I'm not the only one, enjoy your time away, will be thinking of you with you scan and hoping everything is ok!
hi bug's mum - ho scary, sorry to hear about that, i think these babies should be given a manual with how regularly to kick their mummies so we know they are ok! hope you're hanging in there ok and glad everything was alright!
MH - love your new avvy! thats so bad about not having any help from your visitors! how crazy and annoying.
Hi trishy - I just read your ticker and had a little chuckle!
DR - hope they can work out something for that pain - how scary
Oneday - wow you're going along so well, the 18-20 week scans (like all of them) are so exciting!!! Hope it goes well and will be looking out for your news!
Hi to kaybee and anyone else i've missed hope you're going well!
ok so that wasn't terribly quick! had another massive pain attack from my ovaries - excruciating!!! after 2 hours of horrible intense early morning pain i had dh phone the ambulance as i couldn't take it anymore and it just disappeared again so crazy! I was already booked in to see my Ob so I went along for my visit and he said its just my overstimulated ovaries releasing follicles. its happened 3 times now and gotten worse each time (vomitting, fainting and excruciating pain in my ovaries). Am just taking it easy and trying to cut down on sugar and keep my fluids up and go to bed early so hopefully it won't happen again! The last few times it has happened has been where I have been on my feet all day and had a late night.
Other than that am doing well, baby has some quiet days and some really active ones so its a bit confusing, and I'm still stressing about everything I eat! I can't wait for baby to be here so I don't have to worry about food anymore! My OB said I'm anaemic now too!!! Looks like I will have to start eating more meat again.
Take care everyone!
Oh why do I leave it so long between catch-ups in here? I bet DS wakes up now that I've just taken so long to read all of your news!
JBM - Yes!! Awesome news! Isn't it just the best feeling ever
Kelly - congrat's on getting this far with your sanity still mostly in-tact. Good luck for the big day, whenever that may be. I am honestly thinking of you hepas xoxo
Possums - just what you need - another health issue! Keep us informed. Like everyone else has said, it is all just precautionary - the ob is just guessing at options. Very glad you are feeling a bit more movement. I am often concerned about mine.
Bug's mum - glad your lazy bub has woken up a bit. Your pain sounds horrible - especially with no-one there to give you a break. Is there anything you can do about it?
Kass - best of luck for tuesday. Hope it all goes smoothly with a lovely flickering heartbeat
DR - another drama for you too!!! What's going on? It must be a bit reassuring that the pain has died down at least a little bit. I hope you can find a way to defer the surgery.
Sorry - I am rushing because I know DS will wake up any second and start firing demands at me. So, hi everyone else - mindhugs, oneday, aimee, trishy!
AFM - I got booted from the normal midwife clinic and am now at the high-risk mega long waiting time clinic. I really hope I don't have to go on insulin this time, but last time I did everything right and excercised HEAPS and my sugar was still too high. I still also get worried almost everyday about how lazy my baby is. I have friends who are several weeks behind me who say theirs just won't stop kicking, and mine is so sporadic still. I hope it just means they'll be a really chilled out newborn and that nothing is wrong. Not stressing, honestly - I know it is all fine.
Who was talking about IL's? Can't remember, but you gave me chills up my spine - how horrible that they don't help out at all. Mine live close but never visit. I feel sad for DS but on the other hand am very grateful! Anyway, he's up, better go xoxox
Hey ladies :)
Aimee im glad its not just me!! i mean not that bad i need to go to hospital but when i sneeze my ovaries hurt or i just get pains in them every now and again, why do they stay stimulated for so long?? my ob said its normal but would have thought they would have settled by now! i hope they carm down for you, you poor thing!
JBM a big congrats cant wait for you to join us in here, all the best for tues xx
Kelly congrats it would be great knowing at the most you have only 11 days!!!
Kass goodluck with your first scan, even know there isnt much to see at that point its still so amazing to see that little blob with a heartbeat in your body!!! something most of us start to believe we may never see xx
Hi everyone,
JBM, I hope those two lines continue to get darker and the blood test on Tuesday brings the good news you have been waiting so long for.
My pains keep coming and going - had a few brief intense attacks today. Just wish I knew what they were caused by.
I have been having problems with my housemate (who has been here for over 2 years) because I finally said no to her borrowing my car whenever she wanted (half the time she would do over 200kms and not even completely refill the tank (it was full when she borrowed it) let alone contribute towards the running costs. Now that I'm not working I need to be really careful with my money and so I told her she couldn't borrow the car and she has got ****ed with me and is acting a bit nasty. It's making it really uncomfortable. I'm not sure what to do. My parents think I need to tell her to move out but we used to be friends and I don't want it to have to come to that (plus I need the rent to help make ends meet) but I don't like feeling so uncomfortable. Any suggestions?
Lori
DD - 14
Bub due 28th Aug (possibly a girl).
thanks for your support guys, this is just so hard waiting.
still no AF and i am now overdue :dance:
2 more sleeps til BT
i've run out of tests. LOL
but did do one of those digital ones and it said "pregnant 2- 3 weeks "ooohhhh
:hooray:
will be on here as soon as i get my BT results...
Hi everyone,
JBM, fingers crossed for your blood test.
I have recently found out a family friend, who is having a c-section on my birthday (end of June), got pregnant through IVF. It seems funny because they knew I was going through IVF but never once mentioned that they were too. I understand it's something most people don't broadcast but I just would have thought that when you know someone else close to your age who you have known for a long time is going through it, it would be nice to perhaps share that journey?
My mum feels a bit upset about it because the mother of the husband is my mums best friend. As such my mother had shared with her best friend all the ups and downs of my journey. I didn't mind her doing this as I know everyone needs to have some outlet to discuss things when they get you upset and to share the excitement etc. I have known the entire family since I was around 8 years old (the patriach - who is now dead used to work with my dad and they became close and as a result our two families used to hang out alot together as I was growing up). Their eldest daughter is my age, then there is a son (the one whose wife is now pregnant through IVF) who is a couple of years younger and then another younger daughter. Out of the 3 children I am now closest to the youngest daughter but growing up I was closest to the eldest and when I had my daughter I even put their eldest daughter in my will as guardian for my daughter if anything should ever happen to me. My brother was good friends with their son but I still had quite alot to do with him. I haven't had alot to do with his wife (only met her about 5 times or so as the whole family now live in Qld and we live in Vic). However I think that if she'd wanted to share her journey with me we could have become closer (she's actually older then her husband so probably around my age).
Anyway the last time we saw them all was during the 2ww for my 2nd last cycle (so one that failed). We all had lunch together and I told them that I only had a few more days to wait till my blood test and was keeping my fingers crossed. They didn't mention anything about them trying and given the fact that she is now more pregnant then me she was probably going through her successful cycle at that time (but wouldn't have known she was pregnant then). I'm not sure how long they were doing IVF - maybe it worked on their first cycle so thats why she didn't want to share?
It only came up recently the mother (my mums best friend) just casually said "they are still paying off their IVF" as if my mum would have already known they were doing IVF. My mum wanted to ask how long they had been doing it and how many cycles but felt like she couldn't. Though she did feel upset that this woman hadn't shared any of the details earlier, when my mum had. The whole pregnancy thing has been weird because mum guessed the girl was pregnant and her friend told her she wasn't allowed to confirm it and it was around 10 weeks that my mum had to pretend she didnt' know and meanwhile we had told them I was finally pregnant.
Anyway as I said I'm not close to the pregnant woman but given the friendship with her husband and his family wouldn't you have thought she might have been willing to talk to me about it? I would have loved to have known someone else I knew in real life was going through all this. The closest I had was a friend who had her baby son through IVF and he was born while I was doing IVF. My friend got pregnant on her first IVF cycle so couldn't relate to alot of what I was going through but it was still nice that she understood about the needles etc.
Lori
DD - 14
Bub due 28th Aug... is it a girl? I seem to be carrying more like boy... took my waist measurement yesterday and I'm bigger than I was at 26 weeks with my daughter (and I'm only 23 weeks tomorrow). In fact I'm closer to what I was with her at 35 weeks but with her I was all out in front and skinny everywhere else... I feel like my baby bump is flater and more out to the sides this time which is what I was told happens more with boys.
Just a quick one from me -
Lori, we have five close friend couples at the moment who are having trouble conceiving and may have to go down the IVF route. DH and I have discussed it many times and have agreed that we won't be saying anything to them about our own journey. In some ways it makes me feel bad, that I could possibly be helping them, but then I also feel that it is our personal business and we need to share only what we feel comfortable with. I have a few close friends that do know, and my decision to tell them was based on many factors. But I wouldn't tell someone just because they were doing the same thing, if that makes sense. We just wanted to keep things close to our chests for our sake, and our children, and it is no reflection on the people who we haven't told. So don't take it personally or think less of the couple, all people are different with how much they choose to share with others.
And I should also say, that even the people that knew that DS was an IVF bub, they don't even know with this one. We have agreed that we will never ever tell anyone, including family, whether this bub was IVF or natural. Again, we felt the whole process had blown our private life so far open, that we needed to regain some privacy for ourselves. Horses for courses!
Hi to everyone, hope you are enjoying the weekend!
Lori - it is such a private thing that everyone going through it approaches so differently. I've told my immediate family and one or two friends, but would die if they ever told anyone. I feel it's my story to tell to whom and when I want - if ever. I definitely understand your hurt, especially when you were so open to them. I have friends and distant family going thru IVF who have told anyone and everyone. So it really is horses for courses.
JBM - hope your going strong there. Gunning for you!!!
AFM - belly button is starting to disappear, ribs feel as though they're going to be cracked open, and I'm getting kicked in the front passage, the back passage and anywhere else it can get its little legs and elbows. I'm a first time mum, and this feels so wrong!!! Just want it all to go quickly so I can meet him. The state of being pregnant is not something I'm enjoying.......... I want control of my body back!!! Although I must say it's veeeeeeeeeeery pleasant not having monthly periods :) :) :)
Oh and hi to everyone else!!! Its another long weekend in Qld - yay!
lol mindhugs, i discovered while I was desperate to BE pregnant taht I don't acutally like the state! i LOVE the result but felt really guilty with DS to realise pretty early on, pregnancy was not my favourite state to be in. It's not glamorous, it's taxing and tiring and feels never ending - i used to feel like that was very ungrateful of me for all we'd gone through... but after speaking to lots of other mums, I've only met one or two who love it and all the others aren't such big fans... maybe if it was for a shorter time lol.
hi to all the girls. jbm fingers crossed !!!
still here all fat and cranky and eating too much chocy.
kelly!!! hoep to hear some great news soon lovely. oxoxo