SO sick of the comments 'time for another one' and other token comments

[Nicole S]

Am sure I am not the only one but lately I am so sick of hearing the same comments over and over again about trying for another baby:-
'so are you and your dh ttc another baby'
'time for another one'
'don't you want to give ds a brother or sister'
'you betta get on the "job" soon to make another baby
'don't you want another baby'

OMG it drives me nuts it took over 3.5 year of TTC and 4 cycles of AC to FINALLY make this little man.
Not like DH and I decided one night to 'try' and make a baby and presto 9 months latter we had one.
Most of the people who make these comments know that we did IVF and yet they still don't think before they speak.

It just hits home about how DS may be an only child which I don't think is the worst thing I am one and I think I turned out ok
Breaks my heart but I now we are also able to provide really well for one child as I am still lucky enough to be a SAHM for our little guy and DH is working his butt off for us.
During the week I went to SIL house who's 5 year old DS stuck up for his 3 year old sister when my little man took a toy from her. My DS does not now any different and was just playing....it was more of that action between a brother and sister which he may miss out on

If it were up to me I would try IVF in a heartbeat, but with the currents costs and me being a SAHM it's not really the place to put our money.
I guess you just never know things may happen one day the old fashion way...lol

Anyway this is a rant and just needed to post where I am sure so many women would understand

[farmgirl77]

if only people would think before they opened their mouth with such 'wonderful' words of advice

No matter what you have to, or decide to do, your DS will grow up to be a beautiful and wonderful person because he has great parents who will always love and look after him - irrispective of being an only child or one of five!

I wish that I could offer advice as to what to say to those people who make such mindless comments, but I cant because I have not yet found the solution, but I know how much it can hurt esp when people know of what you have been through!


FG

[Nicole S]

Thanks FG I knew you would understand
What I get upset about most is the way I brush it off by saying "Oh no one is enough" When in my hearts of heats I would love to give DS a sibling.
Almost feels like when we were TTC and people would ask when are we going to have a baby and I would always say 'one day' or 'were ok for now'.....

[Mum2SweetCs]

here here!!!!! Its soo freaking annoying esp when we are having so many probs trying. I always have to lie and say "ill wait until dd is a little older ... when she goes to school" because its hard for me to say ive been trying for 12mths+

FUDGE!

Dust these hollow comments away (although i must eat my own words, coz I cant either!)

[Nicole S]

MTOSB I think we get very use to protecting our self's from hard truths and it is easier just to lie
But it feels good to know we are not alone

[Mum2SweetCs]

enjoy your bubba =) When we see them smile all these comments melt away dont they =)

[mako]

First of all I'm sending you a Its tough gig this TTC business for some of us..
We don't all just become pregnant at the drop of a hat unfortunately.
I also find it VERY rude and get a bit upset by the comments at times too..For instance my own Step Father made the biggest mistake of his life by telling me I was cruel for not giving my DS a sibling..The look on my face must have been enough without me responding verbally and he did have the balls to call me up a couple of hours later to appolagise but still that hurt me in a really big way..He knows about my 6 precious little angels and he just didn't think and TBH I think that is what happens to most of those who do ask these type of questions.

[peanutter]

mega hugs, nicole ... and that people will be a little more considerate in the future ...

[JBM]

nic it never stops. lol
we had only 21 months between first and second and people still aked us .
we actually had 3 under four and got 2 responses "don't you guys have a tv "or are you guys rabbits. yeah cause sex 3 times in 4 years is a lot ?!!!!
lol
but the same pople then said "don't you want 4""
or don't you want a girl
so it was a bit annoying

and look at us now about to do ivf cycle for the 2nd time, who would have ever thought it ?1

we had the fall preg easi;ly now the ivf/ icsi and i think i have a better understanding of what ivf women go thru and thus never ask these horrible questions.

yeah shut them up with your smart remarks is the answer. it's your life and no one elses.

i forgot to say i love BG's answers for people asking maybe try that. LOL. great job BG. x

good luck to you. x o

[peanutter]

*evil glint*

next time, I dare you to look at them, wide eyed, then ask, "what, now? um, ok ..." and pretend to start undressing.

ninja out.

[Nicole S]

LOL peanutter...that should keep their mouth shut

[peanutter]

or wide open!!

[ElleJay]

I only had 14months of TTC DS, and I'm getting it from people I work with, from people I used to work with and from my own family! I know the feeling, I really do, and it's a PITA