12 weeks after loss at 11 weeks and 24 weeks

[tiffy01]

Hi guys my name is tiffany and im 28 yrs old this september. This forum is a godsent for me as i have had one miscarriage and a stillbirth now. My first miscarriage was a 11 weeks and i had no idea that my baby had died until i went for the 12 week scan,absolutely devastated. My whole family and friends never had any trouble with their pregnancies and when my morning sickness wore off at 11 weeks i thought that was normal, but it wasnt for me.That was feb 08. Fell pregnant again in june 08 got past the 12 weeks had a scan at 20 weeks found out we were having a little girl. Everything was fine she was kicking sooo much until about week 24 when i noticed her movements reduced dramatically, then to nothing. I knew i had lost her but i had no idea why. Turns out it was hypercoiling of the umbilicle cord which means my umbilicle cord was really long, coiled up really tight and cut off her oxygen, I gave birth to her in november 08.She was just beautiful and i have her ashes on my chest of draws with her photos as well. I am now 12 weeks pregnant and fairly optimistic, but still have both miscarriages in the back of my mind. Still feeling a little nauseous which is a good sign but im soooo scared, like i said im not too bad but i know when the day for the scan comes i will be beside myself. Any advice ladies on how to keep the anxiety at bay??

[Where there's hope]

Tiffy. Firstly, congratulations on your new PG

Sorry to read your sad TTC journey. Please know you are most welcome to join ladies who can totally relate to your anxieties and fears on the PG after MC thread. I have found great support there from an amazing group of understanding women.

WTH

[NaeNae]

Congratulations on your pregnancy Tiffany.

I am so sorry to hear of your sad journey. There is little that can be said to help ward off those anxiety feelings but if I can offer anything its simply that every pregnancy is different. For your peace of mind you could ask your Ob if you could be monitored closely (fortnightly or weekly) until you get past 24 weeks. Depending on your Ob he ay or may not agree to that.

You could buy yourself a doppler you can get them on ebay reasonably priced, the only problem is depending on bubs position you may or may not be able to hear the HB which may cause you unnecessary worry.

I am in a slightly different boat to you and am having weekly checks at a specialist from 15 to 24 weeks. That has helped me so much, but I went into preterm labour and lost my girl 8 days after she was born.

You will find lots of support here and lots of people to bounce ideas off.

Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy.

Nae x

[nicjay]

Hi Tiffany,

I'm so very sorry for your losses

TBH with you though, I have found that there has been not a lot that has eased my worries The support from the ladies here is great and I have a fantastic ob who is happy to see me whenever if I'm worried, which all helps though. The best advice I can offer is take it one day at a time and keep thinking positive - you will hold this baby. Oh and talk to your bubby too of course!

All the very best xo

[tiffy01]

hi ladies,
Thankyou for those kind words, reading all of your stories it made me realise that im not alone in this battle to have a child. I just wish pregnancy was a breeze for all women. But i know that if you want something very much, you just have to keep going, no matter what happens and thats what im doing. I have my 13 week scan on wednesday so keep your fingers crossed for me!!!!! I have my fingers crossed for all of you as well. Something that made me very happy yesterday my mother in law bought me a beautiful little maternity top and brought it over in a cute little bag!! she is so thoughtful!!! i have the most beautiful family and the best support so i am staying positive and just taking it day by day. I will post a thread on how my scan went
tiff