I had a very rude person tell me tonight that I was replacing my stillborn son, Zach, with this baby I am pregnant with now.
How could people think that by replacing one baby with another can take away all that trauma, all the memories and the heartache? Seriously?
No responses needed. Just really needed to get that out. This day has been terrible and brought bad memories back even though our baby was given the "all clear" at our 20 week scan.
As if you'd do that... I know I had that horrid thought about myself in my own spates of grief sometimes, so having someone else suggest the same thing would've destroyed me Nothing can replace Zach, and how dare someone suggest otherwise!
1st thing i just wanted to say congrats on the 20 week scan
No people just don't get it at all unless it has happened to them. And as i read your post i cryed i just cant believe that people can be so insentive to someones feelings
Oh you poor poor thing! I can only imagine the heartache you've already experienced losing Zach! But I am so angry at the mindless twit that suggested you are replacing him! If anyone suggests it again I would bluntly tell them "what a stupid heartless thing to suggest" hugs to you and congrats on the all clear 20 week scan!
that's appalling. I'm so sorry that anyone would be so heartless as to suggest such a thing! You are not replacing your son, the way I have always seen it, is you're having a second child. Most people have more than one child, what makes you any less entitled to that? You're giving your son a sibling
Oh my goodness what a twat! I just hope they went home mortified that they had said something so stupid and heartless. People sometimes blurt something out and kick themselves later. Seriously is everyone who loses a child not meant to further grow their family because they are replacing their loss, that sounds unreasonable and perhaps you can put it that way if some other idiot repeats this stupid remark! Hugs babe x
Thats just awful, One living child doesn't replace another so why should this be any different?. Sending you a hug, some people are just completely insensitive!
That person is a fool. I hope it is not someone you see regularly. If it is, I would address the issue and tell them how hurtful their comment was. As a PP said, a second child doesn't 'replace' a first living child, why would anyone think differently of a family who has lost a child?
Hugs to you, and congratulations on your pregnancy.
that just sux! I remember telling my work friend that my DF was getting the snip after this one and her response was "what if one of your kids die, wouldn't you want to replace them?" its shocking what some people say! Hope u feel better soon xoxoxo
Wow some people can be so heartless, obviously they have no idea what it's like to lose a child. And obviously dont think that your going through enough worrying about this pregnancy aswell. Good news about your 20 week scan hun and hope that this person atleast apologises to you for the hurtful comment.
No. I am not "replacing" my baby...
As if you'd do that... I know I had that horrid thought about myself in my own spates of grief sometimes, so having someone else suggest the same thing would've destroyed me
Nothing can replace Zach, and how dare someone suggest otherwise!
people just dont get it. I wonder what they would say if you ask them would they replace their mother if she died?
that's appalling. I'm so sorry that anyone would be so heartless as to suggest such a thing! You are not replacing your son, the way I have always seen it, is you're having a second child. Most people have more than one child, what makes you any less entitled to that? You're giving your son a sibling
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