Pregnancy after Ectopic

[Tegam]

Im happy to say that even with some emotional ups and downs my DH and i agreed to maybe try for one last bub. Well its seems even after the ectopic and only with one tube my DH and i only have to think about trying . Only found out yesterday. Feeling excited but also very scared. I have had 5 (not including this one) pregnancies. Out of that i have had three children an undiagnosied MC at 12weeks and the ectopic. So i know the odds are good but my odds are almost 50/50....... Will have a scan next week to see where the baby is, then i guess the 12week mark.... scray scary.

But i also dont want to miss out on being happy for this baby. I had a really hard time with my 2nd daugthers pregnancy after the mc and thats just time i cant get back IYKWIM?

I guess the hardest part is that both MCs have come as a shock. My body doesnt seem to let me know something is wrong so its hard to trust all will be ok...

Also i guess if you are reading this you are ok with pregnancy announcements, There are some lovely people in these MC and Loss threads that id love to tellthat i am UTD but i dont want to hurt anyones feeling??? What did you do?

[blakeandnikky]

i'm so sorry to hear about your loss. its amazing that you were able to conceive again! Its so so scary to go on wondering in the back of your mind if your unborn shild is safe in your own body or not. i'm not sure that i personally know what to say to make you not worry. just make sure you have a doctor that you trust. try to stay positive and busy hopefully it will keep your mind from fearing the worst.

[Tegam]

i'm so sorry to hear about your loss. its amazing that you were able to conceive again! Its so so scary to go on wondering in the back of your mind if your unborn shild is safe in your own body or not. i'm not sure that i personally know what to say to make you not worry. just make sure you have a doctor that you trust. try to stay positive and busy hopefully it will keep your mind from fearing the worst.

Thank you so much Nikky. It was a very kind and thoughtful post!

[kermit4]

hi teagam,

just wanted to say congratulations on your pregnancy. Exciting and scary times indeed! Sadly all of us here know how hard it is to stay positive with susequent pregnancies and it must be so hard for you if you feel you can't trust what your body is telling you. I guess the way I had to think about it was that no amount of worrying would have changed the outcome for me last time so worrying this time is just not helpful and may even make things worse. That said, I do have my irrational moments, days, weeks... just trying to take it all one day and one positive at a time. I find it helps to remind myself at the end of every day all the reasons I should be positive. It helps keep the negatives at bay for a little while.

As for telling other ladies here, I guess if they are girls you have talked alot to here then I'm sure they would want to know so they can continue to give you support and have you support them. Why not drop them a PM with a link to your post above and a message to say you wanted to let them know. That avoids leaving an announcement within the MC and loss threads.

Anyway, all the best for your scan next week,

Much love,
K.x