Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss June 2010

Hi ladies,

Just popping in as i am lurking now since i got my BFP i know a lot of you ladies from the ttc thread and most of you are nearly ready to have your babies or some have already had them i don't know if i should join this thread just yet as i have to get past a 12 week cvs i have a 1 in 4 chance this baby wont be healthy so i am scared to join and talk all baby stuff only to have to leave and start again in 8 weeks time.
But in the ttc threads i feel i should not discuss my fears as there are ladies still ttc.

I am 4 weeks and 2 days today i got my BFP last sunday/monday 6 days after my day 3 embryo TF equivilent to 9dpo which is a good sign the babys hormones are nice and strong as my little girls hormone were really low and hpt were really faint from the day AF was due so i am a little excited this baby might be ok but not allowing myself to get my hopes up just yet.

I have to ring our Genetics professor as soon as i have my BT to make an appointment for an early dating scan then i go back to the professors at the fetal medicine unit at royal north shore as i am classed as very high risk of a sick bub until we get the all clear so i have many appiontments and scans ahead of me and it is going to be a very scarey wait to see if this baby has smith lemli opitz syndrome or not.

So i hope you dont mind me lurking and popping in from time to time until i get the all clear then i will be a regular.

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Hi ladies,

Just popping in as i am lurking now since i got my BFP i know a lot of you ladies from the ttc thread and most of you are nearly ready to have your babies or some have already had them i don't know if i should join this thread just yet as i have to get past a 12 week cvs i have a 1 in 4 chance this baby wont be healthy so i am scared to join and talk all baby stuff only to have to leave and start again in 8 weeks time.
But in the ttc threads i feel i should not discuss my fears as there are ladies still ttc.

I am 4 weeks and 2 days today i got my BFP last sunday/monday 6 days after my day 3 embryo TF equivilent to 9dpo which is a good sign the babys hormones are nice and strong as my little girls hormone were really low and hpt were really faint from the day AF was due so i am a little excited this baby might be ok but not allowing myself to get my hopes up just yet.

I have to ring our Genetics professor as soon as i have my BT to make an appointment for an early dating scan then i go back to the professors at the fetal medicine unit at royal north shore as i am classed as very high risk of a sick bub until we get the all clear so i have many appiontments and scans ahead of me and it is going to be a very scarey wait to see if this baby has smith lemli opitz syndrome or not.

So i hope you dont mind me lurking and popping in from time to time until i get the all clear then i will be a regular.

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Sounds like you have a lot to talk about and this is the right place. please dont lurk! This is the place we all talk about our fears, probably more so than the bubbas. i wish you all the best and hope the next few weeks go very quickly so you can be happy knowig you have gotten the all clear! congrats on you BFP.

Thanks Luna!

Congrats on 11weeks Angelfish!

ferrals - congrats again sweety, chat away in here sweety as much as you like. we will help you thru the many processes you and bub have to overcome

xoxox

AFM - 5 weeks today - did another hpt yesterday and the line is stronger again yay so now to my next accomplish is to get to 6w 4d still need to get myself to dr but wanted to wait so that I can go for a scan and hopefully see bubs and a hb

Ferals hunny I am so glad to see you here and a HUGE congratulations on your BFP. i know its only early days but hold onto hope sweetie and remember we are all here to listen to all your fears, concerns and of course your happiness. I look forward to chatting with you more now that your on this journey, i have been missing some of you from the TTC thread but i think most of the originals are here now.
Take care hun

YAY FERRALS - BIG CONGRATULATIONS ....I am so so happy for you.... Welcome to the thread, welcome to the club. I know its hard, but everything is going to be fine..Its good to share what you are feeling and hows everything going...
I wish you a Happy & Healthy 9 Months of pregnancy and a BIG Hug....yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy.
I am so so happy for you.

Wishes and love,
Ric xx

well i am so hoping bubs is ok, had brown blood in my cm, got a scan today so we will find out for sure what is happening. my last m/c starting off the same so im having a cry right now i am praying so hard bub is getting snuggly in their thats all

Oh ashie, hugs huni! Its very scary time for you but im sure bubs will be ok! Let us know how the scan goes!

Ferals - OMG.. sweetie I am crying tears of happiness for you. Congratluations. Dear sweet Abbi is watching over you. I can only guess the fear and dread you're likely to be feeling - but my sweet - believe in this pregnancy and this baby, even if you can only beleive for today and can't envision the future. One moment, one day at a time. I didn't think it would, but the dread does lift.. and sometimes it's replaced by new fears. For me it wasn't until at least 24 weeks that I started to feel less dread. I still can't actually imagine having this bubs at home but I beleive and am thankful for the pregnancy every day. I do know what it's like to have lots of appointments and be classifed as high risk. I found I was anxious before EVERY appointment and scan to the point of feeling ill ( not m/s :)). Only recently has that anxiety started to dimish and I actually "enjoy" the appointments.

Make sure you get a good ob and maternal fetal medicine specialist/perinatologist - as you will need all the suport you can get.

I am so so happy for you and wish you the confidence to beleive in the pregnancy, right at this moment.

Ashie - hope those results come through ok.... it's hard not to think that history is repeating itself. I have been there. Big hugs and hoping for some reassuring news for you.

ASHIE - I am praying and hoping that everything comes out OK and normal for you. Hope ur scan gives you good news and reassurance that Bub is fine. Do let us know and try to relax. Sending Hugs to you.

Thanks ladies.

It makes me feel welcome and more comfortable knowing a lot of you ladies know about the up hill battle we have had to get this far and the terrible anguish of knowing we have a 1 in 4 chance of having another baby with SLO i am just so happy at the moment to actually be pregnant again i didnt think it was going to happen i still run to the loo and check for blood and i keep poas and the lines on my FR are as dark as the control line and that is with night wee not FMU so that has to be a good sign.

Ashie-I hope everything is ok that is my biggest fear at the moment seeing blood or brown cm.

Dory-I have to go through royal north shore fetal medicine unit because that is where our geneticist is and the professor that oversaw my pregnancy with Abbi so they know our history and they have all the genetic info to test this babies DHC7 gene which is where the mutation is it is pretty full on and they are fantasic down there they did everything they could for us so i will put my trust in them again.

Ric-MWAHHHH! thankyou so much nice to see i have not been forgotten.

Hey ferrals, hunny, so good to see you in here! I was born at royal north shore, and I'm awesome, so I'm sure they'll do a great job with you :lol: It's a 3 in 4 of not having SLO, mate. The majority of pregnancies will be OK, keep on repeating that to yourself.

ashie - could be nothing my love. Hoping your scan reveals some good news.

dory - probably time to start imagining taking your baby home! It's getting closer and closer! So excited for you.

Had a hospy appointment yesterday, and it went so so so well. They'r still happy for me to be in the midwifery program, same midwife every visit for the rest of the pg, even with the placenta praevia. Yay. DH is feeling more and more kicks, which is awesome. Tomorrow is my baby shower at work, since I finish on Friday next week :D

Thanks girls bub is doing well no blood in uterus and bub is growing well measuring well heart rate 163 now im not on the fence no more I agree with dh a girl! My boys heart rates only got up to 140's! So bub ok and no threatening m/c and blood has stopped. Also got my learners today Yay. So been busy but great day. Thanks for all the support it reassured me alot!

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Hey ferrals, hunny, so good to see you in here! I was born at royal north shore, and I'm awesome, so I'm sure they'll do a great job with you :lol:

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Well what better recommendation could someone ask for :rofl:

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It's a 3 in 4 of not having SLO, mate. The majority of pregnancies will be OK, .

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So so so TRUE!

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Had a hospy appointment yesterday, and it went so so so well. They'r still happy for me to be in the midwifery program, same midwife every visit for the rest of the pg, even with the placenta praevia. Yay. DH is feeling more and more kicks, which is awesome. Tomorrow is my baby shower at work, since I finish on Friday next week :D

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How exciting that you are having the shower tomorrow!

Do they hope that the placenta will grow up?

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Thanks girls bub is doing well no blood in uterus and bub is growing well measuring well heart rate 163 now im not on the fence no more I agree with dh a girl! My boys heart rates only got up to 140's! So bub ok and no threatening m/c and blood has stopped. Also got my learners today Yay. So been busy but great day. Thanks for all the support it reassured me alot!

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So glad to hear!

So is that the rule, fast HB girl slow boy? I can never remember. This baby has always been in the 160's???

Ashie-funny you mention the heart rate all my 3 boys heart rates were between 140 and 160 and when pregnant with Abbi her heart rate never fell below 180 so it will be interesting to see what this babies heart rate is i wont have to long to wait to find out the sex with the cvs we want to know as soon as they have the results.

Audax-I keep telling myself that there is a 75% chance all is normal so 3 chances out of 4 it will be healthy the way the geneticist put it was out of 100 women 75 will have a normal baby and 25 will have a SLO baby so i have a good chance as any to be one of the 75:pray:.
Isnt it nice when our DH can feel the baby move and yah! for finishing work.

AFM-well i made it past my AF date and my stim cycle AF date with no sign of spotting i feel good i keep needing to pee all the time and feel tired all the time so all good with me.
Enjoy the weekend.

heart rate for old wives tales is for boys 120's to 140's sometimes to 150's, girls are alot higher their about 150's plus, so far its been correct for me, my sister they had a girl each both in the 160's and my friends their little boys were low too. its not always the case but it has been correct for us lol.
this bub is totally different to my boys and pregnancy totally different, with my boys bugger all m/s, i had cravings for salty foods, and they were huge lol always measured bigger with scans! they were also very hard to get a real dark BFP lmao!
this pregnancy i've had m/s before i got a BFP! and my BFP was at 12dpo, i crave sweets and salty foods blah, i cant even eat loads even thou ill be hungry, i just feel sick afterwards. this bub is measuring teeny lol but not to little only by first scan 4 days and 2nd scan 2 days so no date change as in normal range, it would be nice to have a not so huge bub. also i have had an outbreak of pimples lol.
no bleeding today only bled yesterday morning, but was such a relief to see no blood in the uterus or at baby, so no m/c, being 8 weeks 5 days i think it may be a break through had it with DS 2 at 8 week mark only one spot then nothing! dh has started the belly rubbing lol, he was rubbing belly last night and when we woke up this morning i roled over and he rubbed my belly! he's very excited!

We received the worst possible news at our 12 weeks scan. I wish everyone here the best and a beautiful healthy baby.

SammyP Im so sorry to hear that you got bad news, take it easy and dont be too hard on yourself. Make sure to surround yourself with lots of family and friends for support. Thinking of you hun xx

Sammy i am so sorry. Please take care and be kind to yourself xoxo

SammyP-I am so sorry this is a very difficult time my thoughts are with you.

Oh, Sammy, no! I am so so sad for you, my love. I really thought this was the one. Big hugs your way.

Oh Sammy thats heart breaking! remember we are all here for you! just wish we could take some of the pain away!

oh sammy, so sorry to hear. thinking of you sweety xoxox

Sammy darling, I am so so sorry, RIP little one X Please Sammy, take good care of that heart of yours XX

Ferrals, yay to see you here!! Well done on passing your AF dates woohoo!!! ( By the way i cleaned my computer screen, thanks to you ) XXXX
For those not in on the personal joke, Ferrals got a little ahhh, what would you say......a little 'descriptive' of her Pregnancy Porn......had the most vivid picture in my head whilst in the middle of munching on a montecarlo biscuit, had a bit of trouble controlling the crumbs flying out of my mouth when I almst choked with laughter and groseness at the same time! EEEwww....


I go for my 12 week scan on Monday, now I'm freaked out all over again...........................tried using the doppler at work today to hear bubbs heart beat but couldn't get anything. The other girls tried too but nothing, they reassured me it is still a little early to hear with a doppler, but my imagination has gone out of control once again.

Sorry Iv'e been MIA girls, Kit, thanks for asking about me in the other thread, love to you sweety XXXXX
I know this should be the happiest time of my life right now, im sure you all know what the first 12weeks are like so no need to explain! My thaughts are with you Sammy X

Hey Codster! Been a while, o quiet one! I didn't hear anything on the doppler til 18 weeks, so just chill on out, babes, OK? (All right, I know, it is very easy to say on this side of a successful 12 week scan) But good luck, my dear! The thre or four days after my 12 week scan really were the happiest of my life. I literally floated around. Especially after previously having got bad news at a 12 week scan. So hoping you get to experience the same, chicken.

sammy i am soo sorry to hear my thoughts are with you.

afm i go in for an u/s on monday and meet the new ob. I should be happy but apart of me does not want to even go i am so scared right before i go. Summer here has been a hot one i cant wait for at lest fall time when its cooler out

Time for a new thread.