Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss ~ April 2011

I feel awful for saying no persies again - but I'm going to! Well, mostly.

Angel, I hope things are ok - how is she going to monitor your progesterone without doing bloods? I agree with Damprye, time for a second opinion.

Damprye - I hope things are ok on your end too, and that you're having a good relax with DS at childcare.

forshelby, I am so glad Axel is doing better - how did you go with the physio? FWIW, my SIL had two club feet at birth so bad they needed surgery and you wouldn't know now, she's even danced on stage! Singer and dancer, really very talented. So long run, he will be 100% fine, and he has his wonderful Mummy and Daddy looking out for him!

MrsS - I hope Lleyton is doing much better now :hug: to you and all of your family!

Melster - congrats on 30 weeks, how exciting!

Oh well, not too much of a persies disaster!

AFM - So excited we had our scan today :) Everything is good, risks down from 1:470-odd to 1:8700-odd :D Go that nuchal fold :D Everything's in the right place - educated guess on gender was a girl. So we'll wait for confirmation at 20 weeks before I go buying pink stuff, but it looks like we might add a little girl to our family. DH was a little disappointed, but not for too long I don't think - on the way out he was up to saying "as long as we have a healthy baby, I don't really care". I think #3 might be more likely if we have a girl - lol. He'd like DS to have a brother, he didn't have one - poor bubby. lol@planning next pregnancy when we're only 12 weeks! I'm just excited everything's going well and she(?) was having a lovely time thrashing around in there!

I am so behind... here's a quick one from me.... pls don't feel too bad if I have missed you in my very quick round up....

Reet - a very belated congratulations on the safe arrival of your precious Sienna. You are super amazing at labour! Well done! And Sienna sounds just amazing. And DH for changing all those nappies! LOL re you getting wet! Let the love story really being. All of those feelings you have? Pretty much I can say I had them all.....

Forshelby - OMG - I can't believe Axel is sleeping so well at 6 weeks! Your welcome about the txt, and I am working on that other thing. I have come down with some virus, so maybe the quiet time at home will allow me some time to do it for you. :)

WBM - Yay for good scan results.

Angel - Congratulations on your BFP. OMG. When I read your news I had to go and have a cry. Happy for you, sad for me. It made me realise just how much I want to be pregnant again. I hope your new bubba stays snug and you have a happy and healthy preg. I hope BF changes his attitude, but maybe the mother's day card is a sign of something good. Give Honour a hug from us!

Belly rubs to everyone else. Thinking of precious Obie, and holding his Mum and Dad in my heart.

Not much to say here. Hannah is 33 weeks old today, which is about 7 1/2 months. Each day brings new delights. She is just so gorgeous. This parenting caper is truly the most amazing privilege, even when it's tough. She doesn't sleep through yet, but I don't care, it's only usually once a night that she wakes, sometimes two, and sometimes more if she's not well or cold. What are the sorts of things that I am thinking about now? Weaning. Balancing my desperate desire to be UTD again with wanting to breast feed Hannah as long as I can ( not wanting to be too melodramatic, but it might be the only chance I have, so want to live in the moment and not rush on). I seem to be busy, but when people ask me what I've been up to, I draw a mental blank. I am just enjoying the now. It is truly awesome.

dory, you can do both. AF didn't come back for me until I had it triggered by a naturopath, but I kept feeding - it was only DS that made me stop feeding. So I hope you don't feel like you have to stop feeding to get utd. I would have tandem fed (fed two kids at the same time), but DS gave up around 14 months. So explore your options before you give up bf! And definitely enjoy the now, it goes so quickly!! I sound old saying that, but I'm realising how true it is.

Dory~ i am so sorry that the news made you sad

AFM~ i called the drs and had them do the blood work i had one test done today and then friday so we shall see i miss my other ob he was always one step ahead

wannabe mum: Great news on the great 12wk scan! it's beautiful to get those big numbers on the nuchal fold isn't it?

Dory: I can understand that when someone feels ready to be pregnant again it's a powerful pull and it feels really hard not to be. It's tough to balance that yearning with the desire to breast feed if you feel the two wishes might not be compatible. Is it ok to ask: are you just ready to be pregnant again or do you feel under time pressures to start trying again now (because of age; i don't know how old you are)?

AFM: all good. I still get anxious on days the baby is quieter or does these funny feeling kicks towards the back. I feel better when baby is moving round lots and kicking at the front. Today was a good day. Oh... and i'm feeling just enormous! You can't tell i'm pregnant from the back but if i turn sideways...yowsers! Huge basketball in front. I don't remember being quite this big at this stage with DD. I'm a bit worried about what i'll look like by 38 weeks! Where is it all going to go?!!!

dory - are you still BF exclusively? Once you start giving Hannah some solid food, your @ will return, although not right away. I took 4 months for me. Also, your fertility often does not come back all at once, but gradually, the first cycle may be without ovulation, the next may have the LP too short. I know that once my cycles came back, the first cycle had only 9 day LP. The next cycle I fell pregnant, but sadly it did not stick.

I started giving some solid food to DD when she was 6 months old, but my period did not come back until she was 10 months old. She was almost a year when I found out I was pregnant again, and at that point she was much more into "real" food than BF, so I had absolutely no problems weaning her, she pretty much weaned herself. Do not rush with stopping BF, particularly if you enjoy it, with Hannah being over 7 months, your first @ is just around the corner.

Just a slightly different experience from Luna - as I said AF didn't return for me until 13 months when it was triggered, I was down to one feed a day and it still wasn't back! But that could be the PCOS too. When it came back , first cycle was normal (no EWCM but normal in length) and we got pg! So it can happen quite quickly :) Also, you can bf Hannah right through another pg, then tandem feed (baby feeds first, then Hannah) afterwards if you want to - there are plenty of tandem feeding Mummies on here who can help you with that one if you're interested. Milk changes when you get pg though so she may wean herself. good luck! Can't wait to hear how you go.

possum - it's great getting the results - I feel soooooo much more relaxed about this pg now. My ob says now the m/c rate, or loss rate is 1% and more than 90% of physical defects are ruled out at the 12 week scan. I like that he gives me numbers, the scientist in me loves numbers. Already looking forward to the next scan to see bubby again :D

angel - when do you get your results? How's it all going?

Oh Dory! Hugs! Please dont rush what is for what might never be. Hannah is here, your breastfeeding relationship is now and real..... Another baby is a maybe, sadly you know that far too well.

hey ladies....how are u all...

I was up all night last night in so much pain...not contractions..but a hard belly and so much pain in my vaj......i had pains down my legs...pains in my belly.....burning.......i have no idea what was going on.....but it got me a bit worried

Hi girls, I hope you're all well. Just a quick one from me today sorry! My m/s is starting up again - which I'm secretly quite pleased about :lol: I have now passed the gestation I was when I lost my last bub earlier this year so feeling mixed about that this week. Other than that I'm doing pretty well. I'm finding it hard being nearly 10 weeks looking after my little boy!

Hi ladies, sorry no persies again. Feel really bad, but just haven't had time to catch up on what's been going on with everyone.

I just wanted to... dunno... I started spotting yesterday :( and it's still going today. It's all dark so far, and only very light, but feels like the beginning of the end. I feel silly for thinking it was all going to work out. I feel so lucky to have our baby girl. A pity that our bonus baby is probably not going to happen :( And I just haven't had time to sit down. We've been packing and doing last minute things before putting our place on the market. No time to dwell is good I guess.

Hi everyone i got my blood test done the frist test was in the 2000 and the second test was in the 3000 so i thought it was suppose to double but the dr office said not to worry but how cant you ?

pash, I hope it's just normal spotting - you know your body though :( :hug: I'm still keeping my :crossfingers: Give your DD a big snuggle - you are lucky to have her in your life!

angel - how far apart were the tests again? it could be just fine - especially if it was say 2100 and 3800, I hope you can get an early scan soon just so you can see that sac in the right place measuring right. Keep in mind my Ob said there is nothing wrong with having weekly scans, it's better than stressing out constantly.

well said Tegam - I love that others can find the right words that completely escape me!

Hope everything's back to normal today Melster! Can you call someone for advice?

Wannabeamum~ it was two days apart.I had to talk the dr into the scan in two weeks for dating

Those figures seems fine to me over the course of 2 days Angelfish, HCG doubles over 48 to 72 hours.

Yep, I'm with India's Mum angel - over two days that's fine, hope the next results are as good :) then a scan in a couple of weeks, well it's not that long, but it feels like an eternity doesn't it! :crossfingers: for a strong heartbeat at that scan!

Pash: So upsetting to see blood i know. It doesn't always end badly, (I was third time lucky this time) sometimes it's just a break through bleed but it's hard to be confident about that when you've faced loss before. I know that is how I felt. Will you get yourself checked out or are you going to wait and see for a bit? Wishing you the best of luck for a sticky baby...

Angel: Don't get too stressed about HCG. It can't tell you everything. The scan really is the more informative thing. Glad you are going for one soon.

Gosh it feels a bit quieter in here than it used to be. Really feeling the difference with so many babies born to mummas in this thread last month. I hope there are lots of new members joining up soon : )

Thank you everyone i should know this already been though this. Ms started today and i never thought that it would be so hard with a lil one.