Melstar - Congrats on the GIRL! and the healthy u/sound! :)
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Melstar - Congrats on the GIRL! and the healthy u/sound! :)
OMG!!! I got RAK'ed!!!! Im soooooooooooooo excited i could cry!! Oh my goodness!!! Thank you soooo much whoever the cheeky monkey is that did this!! Oh my goodness i am so shocked!!!! Eiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiik!! :happydance: ehehheheeh! Im so chuffed!
thanks ladies.....another little girl........
can i ask....it might sound stupid...but what is rak'ed
congrats for a girl melster yay!!
Melster-Go the girls woohoo on a great u/s now relax and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.
And RAK'ed is random act of kindness where someone pays for a platinum membership for you or in february i think if they pay for their own subscription they get to nominate someone for a free one (correct me if i am wrong girls) i have been RAK'ed 2 years in a row and it is the best feeling ever i was so overwhelmed both times their are some awesome people out there.
Melster - YAY FOR PINK! Glad you got some great news... so happy for you.
Forshelby - You are so right about worry - mother guilt starts before conception and lasts a lifetime. I watch my mum still worry over my brother ( 50 but has acquired brain injury). Your description of putting powder on a little bottom, is just sooooooo cute. Babies do have cutie little bottoms. I am keen for chocolate too. Hmm, I don't know if it's brutal for everyone.... I loved it at first but then as my supply reduced and Hannah got hungry it became really really hard. All up it was only like that for 3 weeks, when I couldn't believe I had willingly chosen this bizzare form of torture... Hannah was crying for at least 20 hours in every 24... Maybe not the whole hour but a decent whack of it. In her defense I would cry that much too if I was being starved by an obstuse first time mummy who didn't want to compliment feed. But there were still lots of magical moments in there too, and obviously it can't be too bad, as I want to go again, and lots of other people do to. I do remember thinking though.... why didn't anyone tell me it was like this? I remember just thinking, oh well we must just have a baby that cries, they say it can happen. But it was when my mum said to me " I don't know what else to tell you or how to help" that I started to think that there was more to it. For some reason I didn't want to believe the MCHN that my supply was at issue. I was so vulnerable in those early days....
Oh, boo hoo room huh? When you're ready... you can share.
Kell - you can do it! Though I myself was doubting the wisdom of more than one today when little miss HB was excpetionally hard to settle. Not sure why... but it wasn't a very sen moment for me ( well about 90 minutes worth of them.... )
Clairesmummy- Thinking of u xxx
Alish- Thanku for letting me know that ur cousin had some chromosomal probs and found out prior to having the babies, i need all the little reassurances i can get! Im sure everything is going to be fine.. im not even sure if my fears are related to my m/c.. i think i wld probably still have the same ones even if i had never experienced m/c.. but who knows! Woohoo bring on friday! Now im going to be that little positive bird in ur ear.. everything is going to be fine! U have already had a scan to rule out a blighted ovum havent u?? What time is ur appointment? Hopefully first thing in the morning!
Ferrals- Gosh i dont even want to know about the whole knot in the cord and asphyxiation things that can happen during birth.. i got worried when i read that in the womb the baby grabs at the cord but knows to release it before any danger is done.. i started worrying what happens if my baby grabs at it and just doesnt release?! Silly silly. And u are so right, the fear and worries u have for ur children wont ever go away... ive just gotta remember that there are things that are out of my control.. its the whole bloody fear of the unknown thing! Ooooooh 23 days... getting very very close now!!! I hope ur getting a lot of rest in now that ur on maternity leave. Are u getting a bit of hanky panky in now too that ur placenta has moved a bit?? ;)
Dory- I must say ur 'brutal' comment worried me a bit too! Oh what are we in for??! Its not all rainbows and butterflies??! Thankyou so much for ur reassuring words too.. it all helps. I will be putting my hands on my tum tum and saying the word believe everytime the fear becomes a bit overwhelming.. :)
Kell- Enjoy having the rest of the week off! Relax!!
Angel- Trust that to happen.. the night that ur bf is on 'baby duty' she is an absolute angel! I hope she has a good nights sleep again tonight.. and u too! :)
Forshelby- Good luck at ur drs appointment tomoro! I hope that baby of urs is still in the right position ready for birthing! I have read that a few ppl in these last stages feel like they have a bowling ball between there legs ready to pop out! Is it that bad??! Is there a lot of pressure down there?? I think ur going to be my mentor when i get to ur stage.. i hope u will have the time to give me advice AND look after a newborn! :) Oh oh oh i just noticed ur growing a watermelon now!! Bet it feels like it too!! haha
I hope ur feeling a little better tonight xx
Melster- Congratulations on a great scan and a little girl!!! :dance:
T-Hopes- Congrats on being RAK'ed!!! It is the best feeling hey. So so very generous. I really hope the lovely ppl that have done it get some great karma back! :)
A big hello to everyone else too!
AFM- Felt quite sick all this morning and into the arvo a bit.. bit weird considering ive felt great the whole pregnancy! Was super lazy too, cld not find the motivation to do anything! Spent the day reading in bed cuddled up with our pup, he wasnt complaining! Hopefully tomoro is a bit more productive.. still got a few walls to scrub!!
Ive started thinking about the whole labour process and realised there are things im not really sure about..my dh has been at 2 of his sisters births so whos a better person to ask??! Hes working away at the moment so i called him up with a list of questions ready :) I wasnt sure if the cords long enough for the baby to be placed on me before it is cut.. or wld i feel a kind of tugging sensation between my legs if it was pulled too tight (im sure u are all rolling ur eyes thinking i cant believe shes gotta ask this! haha) dh assured me that by that stage ur not really thinking of anything 'tugging' and yes they can place the baby straight on u before cutting the cord. Oh while im on this subject.. why cant they just pull the placenta out by the cord??! I didnt ask dh this one, i dont think he wld know the answer! Can the cord be stretched too far
and rip the placenta out while its still attached to the baby??!
I also wasnt sure if the contractions last right til the baby is out.. he said yes and explained that u get contractions right throughout labour but you only start pushing once ur 10cm dilated, u then only push during contractions and rest when ur not having a contraction, is this right?? I aksed him how long u cld be pushing for, he said it could be ages, is this right??? I thought once u had to start pushing things were pretty quick from there? Hmmm but as u can all tell i dont really have any idea obviously! haha u are all probably thinking i have 9 weeks left and shld be doing a little of my own research! :) Dh said its probably best not to know all the little ins and outs of it all and to just go with the flow but i think i wld rather know all those little details! Im sure there will be many more things that i will learn when its all happening tho! Anyway enough rambling, sorry to put u all thru that!
Oh weirdest feeling! Baby must have the hiccups but im sitting here and they are kinda going thru my whole bottom.. very very strange! haha, anyway on that note, nite nite!! xxx
Clairesmummy: I was so sad to log on tonight and read your post. It is the worst heart stopping moment when you don't see that flicker of movement. I really thought that you were going to get your forever baby this time and am heartbroken for you that you have lost your baby. I can understand that at this point the idea of trying again feels overwhelming. You will see how you feel in time. I hope you will yet get a lovely sibling for your DD. :hug:
No more from me tonight. Don't feel like posting more after this sad news. BBL (tomorrow) for more persies. Hugs to everyone.
Reet get reading the more you know the better its less scary that way.
yes the cord is quite long bubs will be on your chest and it wont pull. the placenta comes away with more contractions its not pulled as its attached to the uterus wall you can wait for it to come on its own or they often give an injection in your leg to get it to come away from the uterus which is what i had. Its a funny sensation when it comes out and might need you to push a little not that you normally care as you have a new baby to look at in your arms :-)
Yes you contract right up till the baby is out and some more (less intense) to get the placenta out. The most intense contractions are in transition where they are right on top of each other and then they change as you push the baby out and you get a rest between them. The pushing stage in a first baby can last for 1 -2 hours depends on the size of bubs head and shoulders the rest slips out. I pushed for over an hour with Ella and need a vaccum delivery as i got tired and she was a bit stuck. Im hoping this baby comes a bit easier than that
Are you doing some Antenatal classes? as me and DP found them really helpful even though he whinged about going before we went
Also a good way to meet new mums - we still meet up with our babies 2 years later.
No question is silly ask away :D
reet - my last scan was 6 weeks so no :( thats why im stressing i dont want it to happen again!
a lady in another thread had her baby stop growing at 8 weeks 5 days, i was thinking that after 8 weeks youre sort of okay!
now im scared! plus i keep having dreams everynight that i start bleeding and miscarry its freakin me out!
but i think im ok - i dunno, im still nauseous and getting headaches and stuff but you never know..
the appt is at 2.20pm at the hospital in bairnsdale, about half an hour away where dh works, so he is coming with me! he is so excited which is great. he thought you would be able to see the sex of the baby, god love him.
im the same as you, i HAVE to know everything! i dont want any surprises!
ohh hiccups! how cute, i cant wait til i can feel things..
we bought a stroller off ebay on the weekend, she used it 3 times to push her baby around the house, went to pick it up, it was in perfect condition, not a mark/scratch on it! we got it for $106 and she paid $349 in oct last year! bargain! even dh loves it, i think im going to have a fight on my hands to push the baby :P
hi everyone else, i hope youre all well :)
have a lovely day ladies
Reet-Oh god yeh every day since i found out the placenta has moved except if its to hot there is no way.
And i am glad you are trying not to worry so much i think i told someone once that there is really no point because once your a mum thats it the worry begins from abnormal babies to stillbirth then SIDS and on to childhood illness to stranger danger then alcohol and drugs and now for me car accidents as my nearly 18 yr old is learning to drive:pray: so just give up and cross your fingers and hang on for the ride of your life.
OH! i will say i wouldnt change a thing i have loved every minute of it.
And your questions are legit the cord is normally long enough to reach for bub to be put on your chest.
The midwives sometime gently pull on the cord to help the placenta out but only if the placenta starts to come away after the injection they give you they did with my boys.
My contractions are painfull until the transition then stop then the pressure of baby coming down is all i feel the uterus is still contracting to push bub out but i dont have the pain with them at that stage so it can be different for some women.
I know my sister was the same painful contractions until transition then nothing but pressure and pushing and burning v jay jay.
With pushing i have only had to push for about 5-10 minutes with all mine even my 1st i seem to wait until the head is right down and i get that heavy pressure feeling before i push but again different for some women.
Alish-sometimes the 12 weeks scan if in 3D you can see the sex my girlfriend did it was a boy so pretty obvious but dont get your hopes up.
AFM-Yeh! i had a reasonable sleep last night.
I just want to know am i having a c section in 22 days or am i going natural in 36 days arrggghh!!!! i hate the unknown.
T-Hopes-woo hooo on getting RAK'ed did i say that already a few posts back so many girls are getting RAK'ed i forget who i congradulated.
Dory-theres no shame in not being sure as a 1st time mum i had way to much milk with all my boys and was engorged all the time so bubs had a lot of trouble attatching hence the split cracked bleeding nipples and mastitis so i have S26 gold packed in my hospital bag for backup just in case.
And 2nd 3rd ect babies are so much easier cause you just know what your doing and there is no fear you are relaxed and just get on with it.
Reet - oh sweetie - I am so glad you've asked all those questions! Kell said it pretty good.
Some women, like me, also get after pains, well into the day after delivery. Basically just the uterus still contracting as in essence everything is less tight and fit than it was the first time.... the Obs said it's more common in second and subsequent vaginal deliveries. I didn't know about it so it was quite a surprise and more painful than I would have thought. But as you're a first timer, you shouldn't have to deal with that.
Transition is often the hardest time where you might shake, get the shivers, scream for it all to be over and want to go home. And once you're dialted and effaced you do have to push and it can last a while but only during the contractions, and hopefully there will be time in between them to rest. Before you experience it you wonder how will I know to push? But you do know and your body knows. It will tell you. It's an almost irresistable urge.
Take some energy drinks with you and some snacks, just in case you need an energy boost. Things that deliver a quick burst of energy - sugars and they're also easier on your tum.
PML when Kell said delivering the placenta can feel a bit weird. Right on there! It is a very WEIRD sensation.
Sophie's cord wasn't long enough for her to be placed on my chest immediately - poor wee girl only got to my tummy - I never asked why- maybe it was because she was twin 2 and so was much higher up in the uterus ( and I have a very long torso, for my height)...
I am just so excited for you.... I know it's scary because it's all a little unknown, but you'll do an excellent job and it is truly the most amazing experience ever. I would do it all again in an instant. To birth your own child is such an awesome and uplifting and yes painful, experience. But well worth it.
Ferrals - thanks sweetie... for building me up. Any news on Murray?
Anyway, off to run my errands... kinda looking forward to it but dreading it at the same time.
belly rubs.
Hi ladies!
Reet - No such thing as silly questions! This is my 1st bub too so im just as curious about things as you are! Ive been doing a bit of reading on labor and its really helped my mind from wandering outta control! Im not scared (yet) of giving birth, I know its gunna hurt like no pain i can even imagine but i figure everyone goes back for more so its gunna be more than worth it!
Ive also got the fear about something being wrong with bubs - my sisters little boy has a very rare genetic disease called Ectodermal Dysplasia, we have no idea where is has come from in the family as he is the 1st to any of our knowledge to be born with it. As much as he is a gorgeous little boy, they are lucky as he has it mild but in some cases it is very bad! He has no teeth and never will have, he is 6y/old and wears dentures! It also means he cannot sweat and he overheats dangerously fast. He also had very sparse whitish coloured hair, they all seem to look the same! Thees a lot more to it but he is otherwise a normal, little boy! Very intelligent and active 6y/old. ED is mainly common in boys but girls can be the carrier! So i worry since we dont know where the heck it came from, that i am a carrier! The geneticist doesnt believe i will be a carrier as i would have had to have shown certain traits like dry skin, eczma, thin hair and thin brows! I have the opposite to ALL of those symptoms! I have thick, thick hair and brows, oily skin and suffered from acne not dry skin conditions! There is no in-vitro testing for it in Australia yet so not much we could do! My sisters 2nd little boy doesnt have it so they think maybe it was just one of those freak things that could have started in him!
Its a fear that sits in the back of my mind but no matter what my love for this bub is un-conditional. It worries me for the babies sake, not mine. I hate to think its little life may be harder because of it, i dont care about mine but worry for bubbys sake if that makes sense!?! Anyway what im trying to say is what will be will be :)
Ferrals - glad you got a good nights sleep! Please reveal your secrets! Im miles behind you and sleeping is a nightmare already! Eiiik!
AFM - im at home today and half of yesterday having a sicky, had a stinking headache yesterday and so exhausted but starting to come good now after resting!
Friends of DH's had a baby boy last night and they used our EXACT baby boy name! So spewing! Even the same middle name! Dont ya hate that! Ah well we aint changing so may have two boys within 4mths of each other with the same name!
Oh and im 24wks today! Hoooorrrraaaaay! Hurry up June, I cant wait to meet our bub!! :happydance: :bellyrubs: P.S we arent finding out the sex of this bub but I am getting soooo tempted too! Someone stop me!!!! We promised ourselves we wouldnt!!!
T hopes - be strong! It is tempting to find out, but so glorious not to. Congrats on 24 weeks... now I must really go.
Reet you need to wait until the placenta is seperating from the wall of the uterus as otherwise there is a risk of pulling the uterus out also (inverted uterus where its inside out if that makes sense very unpleasant) I've only seen this twice so its rare but if you just pulled the cord the rate would be much higher. Or else you can pull the cord and snap it or rip it of the placenta. Often when this happens and this is common its not a problem and the mother can push the placenta out without any cord traction but sometimes it will cause haemorrage as until the placenta has detached from the uterus it has a lovely vessel supply. Not a problem for bub as he/she is out by then but it can be from mum. Another reason for a physiological 3rd stage of labour in comparison to active (drugs, tugging etc) as its allowing it to come on its own.
With my first I pushed for 2.5hrs but she was posterior and the midwife had me pushing before I had any urge so I didn't have my body to go with. I think had I been allowed to wait until the urge was there it would have been quicker. I insisted on waiting with no2 although I'd been fully dilated for 30minutes before and when I pushed it took literally 1minute and she was out. That time I couldn't have not pushed for the life of me.
As for the cord been to short I have only come across that 2-3times and then its clamped and cut so mum can have bub on her chest. The few I've seen have been so short that they have needed to be cut to get them above the vagina if that makes sense. One was about 25cm and it did cause a few minor complications. Mum had some tugging during labour on one side (where the cord was attached) and when she pushed the baby was stuck as the cord wasn't long enough. It did snap all was ok but now I'd be more aware if someone complained about a tugging sensation during labour. But I'd say well over 99% of cords are normal length.
T-Hopes woohoo on been 24weeks. Your so close now don't find out.
Well my morning resulted in me getting a flat tyre 40kms from home on a dirt road. My car is a patrol so I knew I couldn't change the tyre (Ive been doing it for years) but the weight of the tyre been pregnant made it impossible. Luckily my Dad was able to come to the rescue or else I'd still be walking.
I think it's official - I am officially addicted to BB. I need help.... I should be out doing gardening ( well maybe not in this blustery wind) or I should be doing housework whilst HB is asleep... but no here I am, furiously checking the threads. I have given myself some leniency over the next couple of days but then with any luck I will hopefully take a bit more of a back seat.....
Mildez - poor sweetie - Yay for Dad's to the rescue.... that's a pretty decent amount of time to be pushing my dear... well done.
Seriously ladies how am i meant to keep up!
Reet: everyone seems to have answered your questions. Thomas cord was shortish and the placenta fell out at the same time as the baby! so it was on the floor and we had to cut it quickly so i could hold him properly... Id say that the contractions sort of stop...i mean in the way that whilst your in labour they are intense but as soon as you get the urge to push there is NO pain, just a purpose and something to concentrate! The afterpains Dory explained get worse the more kids you habe so normally none for your first and very stronge for my 4th....everytime the baby sucked i contracted, ouchy!
Dory you asked me if having your 2nd or more is harder or easier than your first..... Well thank the lord no nothing is ever as hard as having your first baby.
All those preconcieved ideas you had, the worry the unknowns...The 6 week rule still applys but you are more confident, so you truely believe it will end. You get less stupid advice and are more able to filter what you do get. Yes you have to juggle more, yes you are probably more tired but you are more use to the lack of sleep. And you have the joy of sharing the experience with the children you have.
And sadly you say "why did no one tell you it was this hard" Well people did you just didnt want to listen and they just didnt deliever it the right way. People dont want to hear how hard it is before they have a baby, one views are allthrough rose coloured glasses. But thats the right of a pregnant women, the key is to be there as support when your friends need them after the birth when the going gets tough. Think about it, could any advice have made it easier? Nope its a learning curve we all must go through!
Oh THANKYOU SO MUCH girls for all ur replies to my questions!!! What wld i do without u! U all have a few different stories so its given me a bit of an overview of what i cld expect.. im going to read over all ur replies a few times so it all sinks in a bit better.
Kell-We have an antenatal class on the 12th march.. im having our baby at the private hospital here and they only do the one 8 hour class.. im happier with that then going every week since dh works away alot.. luckily its his week off that week. Im also thinking of doing the ABA course thingy.. its apparently a really good b/f course... i wld rather have a bit of my own knowledge so i dont have to listen to everyone telling me what to do and how to do it!
If i have any more questions i wont hesitate to ask all u knowledgable women.. u are so much help! :)
Alish- Was there more then just a sac at ur last scan?? Gosh i dont know how u have done it, i wld have definitely had to have another scan for peace of mind! U will be fine tho, the 12 week scan is the best, its so hard to believe that ur baby is still so little when it looks like a fully formed little human! So ur definitely going to find out the sex at ur 20 week scan?
Well done on ur stroller purchase! Bargain! Funny how males love prams.. my dh is insisting i wait til hes home to choose one.. hes got all these little requirements for it.. haha im glad he knows a bit about them.. i have no idea! As long as i can push it im happy.. ive had a terrible time in the past trying to push my SIL's babies.. the pram just wasnt going where i wanted it too!
Ferrals- Gosh u always hit the nail on the head.. u are so right.. my mum has mentioned a few times that once u have kids u know what constant worrying is like... its just one of those things i dont think u understand until ur a parent. Gosh i know i wld have tried a bit more to be an angel in my teenage years if i had known how worried my mum was! Love ur comment 'hang on for the ride of ur life!' haha so true..
Dory- Oooh energy drinks during labour hey??! yummo! My addiction was V's before i fell pg... i see them now in shop fridges and just gaze at the wistfully.. haha u have got me all excited! One of those will definitely boost my energy levels and spirits! Ill have to double check there ok when b/f.. im sure one wont hurt during labour tho..
Oh and i imagine that delivering the placenta wld feel a bit weird... (TMI!!!) about 4 days after my m/c started, i 'delivered' the sac.. it was about the size of my palm.. i was in the shower and just felt this big thing gulump (cldnt think of any other word to describe it!) out of me... it was a bit bizarre! I was tempted to just try and jam it down the plug hole :redface: i dont know what i was thinking.. thank goodness i didnt! I got some toilet paper, picked it up and woke up dh to see it.. probably not the best thing to be woken up too!
Im very curious about our dear friend Murraycod too! Where oh where is she??!
T-Hopes- Oh ur poor little nephew, he sounds like he manages quite well tho! I can understand ur fears, but im sure everything will be alright with ur beautiful little baby.. its sad how these freakish things can just happen. You have helped to put things into perspective for me.. i know i wld love our little baby regardless too.. i started feeling really overwhelmed the other day wondering how I wld manage looking after a disabled baby and all the things I wld miss out on.. like b/f possibly etc, very very selfish of me!
Like ferrals said the other day, women are made tough to cope with whatever life throws at us. I guess all u can hope is that ur baby is going to be healthy but yep what will be will be!
Oh and how on earth did dhs friends name there baby exactly what u want to name urs??! Did they copy u???! Thats crazy.. and quite annoying!
Stay strong with not finding out the sex too! Im finding it really really difficult.. especially since im getting u/s's every couple weeks from now on at my ob's office! It will be worth it tho.. :)
Mildez- Oh hopefully i get a good midwife that doesnt make me push too soon, hopefully they only tell me too once my body feels the need too.. pushing for 1 minute sounds a lot easier!
U poor thing getting a flat tyre! That really sux. Thank god for ur Dad! Theres no way i cld lift a tyre now.. U wld have been absolutely crazy to try too! Did anyone drive past that cld have helped in the time u were waiting??
AFM- Feeling so so sad about the earthquake in Christchurch, its absolutely devastating. Its making me feel sick watching it on the news.. i just cant seem to turn it off tho. Give me a cyclone anyday over an earthquake, atleast there is warning. All those poor injured ppl and families that have lost loved ones :( We got married just near Christchurch, it is such a beautiful city, so many old buildings that have been damaged and wont ever be able to be replaced. Its all so sad :cry:
Its making me worry a bit that im bringing a baby into this crazy world...