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Oh Clairesmummy that is just tragic news, my heart is screaming for you. That moment when you are looking at the screen and they cant find a heartbeat...to have lived through that is to know your pain! The lost dreams, that empty arm feeling. I am so sorry that you are having to experience this and even more sorry that nothing i say or could do could make it any better for you! Please know i will be thinking of you tomorrow and sending you strength to get through this terrible time. :hug:
Dory: you naughty thing i didnt know you were TTC?
Reet: Bl:ody hell, where has the time gone....look at your ticker! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!! 30weeks
Hello everyone else, did read everything but feeling too sorry for clairesmummy to remember much! Hugs to all of you waiting for your beautiful bubs to be in your arms!
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oh clairesmummy, my heart just broke for you, i am so so so sorry :( love to you and your beautiful family
reet - argh i know, im stressing out! the scan is on friday and im happy that dh will be with me incase we get some bad news again! i had the bt done on tuesday last week!
my cousin had 3 or 4 pregnancies with chromosonal problems and they found them well before 30 weeks! you will be fine! your little one will be healthy and beautiful!
but i can see why its hard to be positive, especially when there has been problems in the past, we are a bit scared that there will be no heartbeat on friday, i had a blighted ovum last pregnancy so we r worried it will happen again! the stress never ends!
hi everyone! love to you all xx
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Clairesmummy I too am heartbroken for you and your family. I'm praying hard they got it wrong. I too wish I could say or do something to fix this!
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Dory-I have played that game but i just sniffed no way i could bring myself to taste it.
Sorry about the BFN wont be long and you will be telling everyone how you are managing with being pregnant and looking after a baby at the same time.
Angel-i hope you get honor's formula worked out without any problems i had my boys on S26 so i will put ella on the S26 gold if my boobs pack it in.
Indiasmum-go i hope so i am waiting for the heat to bugger off otherwise im staying in hospital with the air con when she is born.
Sorry you have been so sick but u bet it reasures you that this bub is a strong one.
Kellbell-30 weeks woohoo on the home stretch now.
T-Hopes-I loved buying ella's baby bits made it feel so real.
Clairsmummy-aww hun i am so sorry i hope todays appt brings a miracle and there is a heart beat and if not please dont give up on your dream we have all been there and the road is tough and sometimes just plain cruel but oh so worth it to be able to take a precious baby home with you.
If you do decide to try again and i hope you do maybe dont tell your DD until further along we did not tell my DH DD until i was 20 weeks as she was heartbroken when we lost Abbi.
My thoughts are with you today all the best.
Reet-if i get the all clear for a vag birth then yes i will try the castor oil it will only work if your cervix is ready but i will try after 37 weeks which is considered full term otherwise i have my c section in 23 days.
And look at you almost 31 weeks your moving along quick to.
It is normal to worry about disability ect i still worry i wont get to take ella home i have the whole placental abruption or knott in the cord or asphyxiation at birth thing on my mind it is awful.
But when it comes to disability from say lack of oxygen at birth that is something out of our hands the way i see it if i can prevent a disabled child early on in the pregnancy from cvs or amnio then great but once i give birth i will take whatever hand life deals me i mean any of my children could have an illness or accident that gives them brain damage now in there teenage years i am still their mum and will love the unconditionally all i can say is none of us want that for our babies but you will do whatever you have to and be a good mum no matter what the outcome because that is why us women are made so tough to look after our babies.
AFM-I woke up feeling so freaken awful.
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Clairesmummy I'm so sorry & i also hope they got it wrong :hug:
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Claire's Mummy - Oh sweetie, how heartbreaking. I know how devastating it is when they don't find the HB on the scan. I wish I could say something to ease your pain but there won't be anything that will help you just at the moment. I just hope you have lots of support around you.
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clairesmummy - will be thinking of you today, sending you so many hugs xoxox
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Clairesmummy - "Words can't fix the pain you feel, but a hug can make it easier to deal with for a second or two" *HUGE HUGS* thinking of you today and praying that you get your miracle *HUGS*
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Clairesmummy - hugs... big big hugs for you and your broken heart. I've been there too, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.... I hope that you get to say goodbye to bubs without any intervention..... I will light a little candle for your bubba and for your hopes and dreams. Like Ferrals said - don't give up on the dream, but right now? Take your time to grieve. Sending you lots of love.... and still hoping it's all a bad dream...
India's mum - ahhh, being in bed is not such a bad thing -a nice way to slow down - just pity about all the pukies, or pukey feelings. Hope the m/s eases just enough to keep you reassurred but enough to make you feel comfortable. M/s really can be a bit miserable.
Alish - GL for friday.. I know you're scared... I wish I could make it better for you.... you'll just have to accept a hug.
Damprye - have you gotten some good comments on FB about your announcement?
Reet - congrats on 31 wks. Your fears are so so so absolutely normal. I had ones similar, and ones similar to Ferrals and even some others too. For most of us our fears are unfounded and when you look back they will just seem so silly.. but right now they are not silly and they feel all very real and overwhelming.... acknowledge them, but at the same time, try not to get too worried about something you can't control and focus on sending your bub as much love as possible. Don't worry about the cleaning products you've used. You'll be fine and your little one too. OK? Just take moment to take a deep breath in, put your hands on your tum and just believe. Believe. But I felt how you feel and only by seeing could I believe all was ok, and even then it took a while to sink in. PML with the thought of you POAS all the time just hoping for the result you wanted.... I only had one test otherwise I would have been doing the same.... was thinking about doing the internet bulk buy... but then decided not to give in.
Kell - how many shifts are you working this week? Hope you're coping in this diabolical heat.
TegamM - well not really trying officially - no cycle yet, though as I keep saying there could be a sneaky O in there and a little miracle just waiting for the hcg to get strong enough.... HA - the things we tell ourselves! I have put on a bit less than 20kgs since my first m/c in 2008. In the past excess weight really interferred with my cycle, but the 10kgs I put on between 2008 and Hannah's conception didn't affect things... So I honestly think that some of this weight has to go in order for there to be any real ttc. It was more DH got some birthday present he didn't expect. But I suppose what it does mean is that we are open to the idea. Sadly, I also worry that because of my history, the journey to get an earthside sibling for Hannah will take a while, so might as well start soon plus there is the race to 40... and whilst I feel young those eggies are not. Someone said Hannah must be good? I think she is ... although the newborn weeks were brutal. Are they as brutal for subsequent bubs? I suppose there is the luxury for a first bub of not having others to care for, so your time is more your own, but balanced against that is the total lack of knowledge and confidence in parenting skills and strategies and just being so new at it all. So, what's it been like for you,parenting a newborn after the first? if you don't mind me asking...
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Clairesmummy I'm so sorry xo
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clairesmummy.....my heart skipped a beat for. im so crushed for u and ur family.....i can only start to imagine what u are going throught right now. i wish there was something i could fo for u to take away the pain ur feeling at the moment....if there is anything u need..anything at all that i can do for u just let me know. im sending u loads of hugs and cuddles....thinking of u and im so sorry this has happened to u
i have my ultrasound in an hr or so.......so i will be back soon hopefully with good news
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Good luck with your uss melster - bet you cant wait to see bubs again
Are you finding out the gender?
I worked sat night sun morn and have an arvo today then rest of the week off. Last official day is 17th march i cant wait
Im dying in this heat and our air con busted itself - ill be glad to get in the aircon at work today
Dory im scared qbout the newborn phase and a toddler - hopefully i can cope getting close now and im a bit freaked!!!!
Thinking of you clairesmummy for today xoxox
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Clairesmummy~ i am so sorry to hear my heart goes out to you and your family.
Good luck Melster
AFM~ The new formula seems to be working she slept all night last night. My BF offered to take care of her when she got up last night since the past couple of nights were hard for me and the lil one slept all night hopeful she does the same thing for me .
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Dory - Just thinking about our chocolatey lunch has me drooling lol. It's so great to hear you're back on the POAS train... hehehe, that's excellent. It seems like so long ago I was dying to POAS myself. I still have all 4 of my BFP's lined up on the shelves in the bathroom, gathering dust. I used to look at them every day to remind myself I was pg... now I don't need reminding so much, lol. But I can't bear to part with them. Hoping you're UTD again really soon, and little Hannah can have an earthside sibling. Hmmm.... I won't deny it, your description of the newborn weeks being 'brutal' made me a little bit :o lol.
Angelfish - I know, getting really close now! It could be any old day now :) I hope Honor is doing better on her new formula.
Kellie - Whee! The countdown is definitely on at my house lol.
Kit - Wow, Sam is over a month old already?! It's a pity you aren't in brissie/gc, would be so nice to catch up.
Ferrals - I feel your pain, hun....... the heat is really making it hard to do anything. Come on, Ella, out you come! (cutest name ever btw)
India's Mum - Hehe, that's always the way, isn't it? Just when you think the coast is clear, you're hugging the toilet bowl again.
T-Hopes - Yum! Enjoy your chocolatey feast hehe. I miss maternity clothes shopping so much! I find now that I'm so big there just isn't any point in buying any more clothes to wear for a couple of weeks.... I'm just cramming myself into my too tight shirts LOL. Oh and buying the baby gear.. so exciting. Now I'm just sitting here waiting for something to happen, DYING to use all my cute baby stuff. I need a little bum to put that powder on, dammit! LOL. Enjoy this time, I found it the best part of the whole pg.
Clairesmummy - I am so so sorry hun............ this just breaks my heart. I don't know what else to say... it's not fair! I so thought this was going to be your happily ever after. PM me anytime if you want to talk. :hug:
Reet - I feel like I might explode, not POP lol. Full term today, yes... pretty nerve wracking actually! My weird spots disappeared, so I don't know what it was all about. My next drs appt is tomorrow morning. :) I can't believe you mowed the bloody lawn at 30wks pg... LOL. Bad Reet, Bad! I've had the same thoughts, worrying now about whether bubby will be healthy etc. I think that's the thing though............ once they're born we aren't going to stop worrying. It'll just progress to something else. Like worrying about whether or not they ate their packed lunch at school, hehe. It's a mother's job to worry. :) Everything will be fine I'm sure. Surely there would be some sign on U/S that there might be an issue by this stage.. and man you've had a lot of U/S.... lol. :hug: Try not to worry too much.
Tegam - Well said, hun..... it's such an empty sinking feeling being given that kind of news.
Iona - Hi Hun, how are things going with you??
Melster - Good luck with your u/s!
Kellie - Enjoy the aircon at work today, hehehe.
AFM - Had a horrible night last night, this one is so long it belongs in the boo-hoo room. *sigh* f@#$% men.
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Clairesmummy - ah my love, i am so truly sorry to hear of the loss of your little angel... it is a cruel world that we live in and it makes no sense as to why this happened to you and your family. Please look after that beautiful heart of yours and let yourself cry all you need to. It is such a gut wrenching time, sadly we have all been in similar situations and can understand some of the emotions you are going through, please know we are all here for you as you work through your grief. Take care darlin xx
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back from my ultrasound
everything went well.........the baby was movin like crazy......and everythings looking good at this stage and now we go see the ob............... we got her to right the sex on a piece of paper..and i couldnt help myself after trying to be so strong
and it is a .........................................
girl.......:cheer:
but she said she cant be a hundred percent because it was hard to see apparently....
poor hubby...wonder if he is tiny tad dissapointed....thats 1 boy and 5 girls.........i didnt mind either way.....but were not telling anyone.....just telling everyone its a surprise.....and not telling names
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Melster - Hooray for a girl!!!!!!! Wonderful news. :hug:
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Melster yah for a little girl and congrats on the good news on the scan- so happy for you
