Pregnancy after miscarriage or loss ~ November 2010

[Mum2Romone]

hi ladies,

Subscribing, Because this is where I belong now lol shhhhh

[forshelby]

Tegam - LOL, the more subtle the better, eh? I don't think I have the heart to do it though... poor guy will end up with a complex. And IKWYM about the pet thing, I get all teary when I even consider the fact that my kitty is 7 going on 8 and is probably halfway through her lifespan. Even though she's a cow with attitude, lol.. I love her just the same. It is hard though, but I just can't be without a pet. Their love is so innocent and they don't care if you've done your hair or whatever. I think it's the look in their eyes that gets me, of total adoration no matter what. *sniffle*

Reet - I'm so so sorry about your beloved furbaby. I wish I could fast forward through the horrible part so you could start feeling better. Unfortunately the only cure is time. I totally understand how you're feeling right now though, I've lost pets too and it hurts just as much as losing a person. Having their love even for a short while is so worth it though. Take the time to feel sad and cry all your cries out and you will slowly feel stronger and better. About men and weight.. PFFT is all I have to say. Not every woman is the same and some of us have crap metabolisms and an aversion to exercise, lol. I suppose he has a point that it CAN be done, but for some it's just very difficult! You tell him he'd better recognize, fool. We can rant more when you're feeling up to it. Go and rest up now and grieve for your little furbaby. DP was really sad when I told him what happened, so if it helps at all we're thinking of you and feeling sad for Nala too.

Mum2romone - YAY

[~Stoked~]

Reet, so so sorry about your puppy
Big hugs darling.. Cry lots and lots, that'll make you feel better. Maybe go and buy a nice plant or tree to plant in memory of Nala xxxx

Forshelby, I know it's old news now but yay on the scan being better news than you were expecting! That's great! Your little bubba is going to be just perfect xxx

M2R, Yay!!!

Ferrals, hope you have no troubles at all with your PP xxx

Hello everyone else!

Afm.. Been spotting, cramping, bleeding since Saturday but apparently everything is fine.. It's all stopped now and I've had pretty much nothing yesterday and nothing at all today so here's hoping that's the end of that nonsense! It's been a nightmare and I was convinced that was the end. I'm on progesterone now and am hoping and praying this bub is stickier than ten sticky things.

Xxx

[Tegam]

hi ladies,

Subscribing, Because this is where I belong now lol shhhhh

yay welcome

[~Stoked~]

Oh and Forshelby.. On the weight issue.. My DH once made a comment in jest about my weight at the end of my pregnancy (I'd put on 20kgs!) and I told him that I had an excuse and asked him what his was and grabbed his tummy flab! Shut him up real quick!

[forshelby]

Stoked - Best. Comeback. Ever. Hahaha.... I also hope your bubby is stickier than 10 sticky things, hehe. What a cute little saying. It's great that the bleeding has stopped, it's a really good sign. Keep us posted!

Reet - Another for you just because. The plant/tree idea is a wonderful one.

[dory]

AUDAX my sweet - congratulations!!

Forshelby - glad your scan went well and the results were better than you expected.. how were the bowels of hell? And blah to DH about his weight comment. Get a grip boy. I like your come back - have you tried it yet? In whose reality is it actually ok to comment on your body shape, unless its a compliment?

Reet - I am so so very sorry about your puppy - I think its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all - go gently whilst you are grieving, it's a tough journey.

Ferrals - it does sound scary but you & your girl will make it through.

S&S - oh wow - a crib - I am sooooooooooooo happy that you took that step - you're right, it is a big one. What's next on the shopping list? Eventually you will actaully get your head around this being pregnant thing, but by then, you'll have a bubba!

Mildez - what you wrote to Ferrals was just so lovely and it reassurred me!!! Thankyou.

[angelfish]

Reet~ i am so sorry to hear about your puppy dog sending you long distance hugs

AUDAX~ congrats

s@s i know how hard it is to take steps such as buying a crib and etc.

AFM~ i have been hiding under a rock.I am 32 weeks pregnate now and i have to go in twice a week now to get a non stress test done. Due to being diebectic which has me scared. I still cant believe how far along i am.As far as the whole weight thing i am going thoug the same thing BF thinks that i should have been doing some morereal exercise since i found out which i was but then the summer heat kicked in during my frist and second trimester. Hey i am pregnate and the dr are not concerend and yes i understand that i will have to work harder so i will.

Sorry not in a good mood really tired and while i was out a car almost hit my car and this would have been the second accdent and the women was so carefree about almost hitting me

[sunshine and stars]

Angelfish--glad to know that you're okay, even though the scary *almost* accident. I've been in a crap mood all day (see below)

Reet-- I am so so sorry to hear about your loss of furbaby-- pets are family-- I'd be a basket case. May time and gentle days soften this blow for you.

Forshelby-- About the weight-- I hear you! The post about the size of willy's made me laugh out loud. I am feeling huge and look it too! Maybe threaten your partner and tell him it could be much worse-- you could look like me! Jeez-- why do men make things so flippin' difficult????

Dory-- Thanks for the encouragement!

Ferrals-- Gosh, what scary news. I agree that the doc probably wants you to hustle to the hospy if there's a problem with bleeding-- but try not to worry. They will know how to handle such things...and they probably have seen the gamut of cases. That's good 'cause then there's lots of experience. You've got a little miracle inside you and your gonna do just fine. That's my evening prayer for you!

Mum2Romone-- Welcome!

Okay, about me-- I totally lost it today. First of all, hubby finally put up the Christmas tree after some nagging from me-- damn, I wouldn't nag if we could actually plan these things better. Anyway, he had a meeting today, so he leaves and I try to clean house. Two hours later the darn tree falls over and water is everywhere. Which is a problem because water warps our floors. Plus I was already angry that so much is disorganized and messy and out-of-kilter around the house. My nesting instinct has kicked in-- full force. My husband hates Christmas and he is a pastor!!! For God's sake. So, the tree falls over and I lose it. Crying hysterically. Water everywhere. I pull the darn thing out onto our deck and dump it. Clean up the water. Sit down and cry some more. Call hubby and scream, "You need to come home f**king NOW." Have to leave a message 'cause no one is answering. Leave a message 3 more times. Pull the phone off the wall and throw it against the wall. Scream and cry at the top of my lungs. Feel the baby moving and say to self "YOU MUST CALM DOWN." Stuff the stupid phone into the trash. Lose it again. Then my hubby arrives home and we have a real terrible fight. It is not pretty. More tears. I don't want to lose this baby! Hubby isn't really talking to me. Put the tree back up. Hubby stays home to hang lights on tree and outside of the house. I curl up in bed for 10 minutes and then tell myself to GET A GRIP.

God, help me, I don't know if this is hormones or what. But I was SO mad at hubby for leaving me today to go to his stupid meeting when we have so much to do around the house...

Sorry for the rant. I've not been feeling so lovely or ministerial AT ALL.

[KitFaerie]

S&S: Congratulations, your pregnant! It's so hard to control how you feel when those hormones are buzzing all round your body, I knocked over a smoothie a few days ago and had to go scream into a pillow. I really, really wanted that smoothie. And Christmas is a pretty emotional time of year anyway, plus how your house looks can affect how you feel, there are times when I cannot stand mess and it has to be dealt with right there and then. Not always rational, but understandable. Hope your hubby comes around and you feel better soon

Reet: Posted in your other thread, I'm so sorry hun, thoughts are with you xo

Forshelby: Wow @ the weight thing. Even though it's low, go for the penis comparison I don't care how much weight I gain, what matters is how much I lose at the end of it! And that bubs is healthy and happy! Glad the scan went better than you expected.

Anglefish: Eep @ car accident! Really glad it wasn't major, I'd be annoyed at someone being blase about hitting me too!

Ferrals: I agree with the others, doc didn't sugar coat it cos he wants you to hightail it straight to hospy if anything happens! I know you'll do whatever you have to do to keep your little girl safe, even giving up sex!

Stoked: Each day your pregnant is a good thing, the odds go higher each and every day. Loving seeing your name in here

M2R: Welcome!

AFM: Look at my ticker! ARGGHH!!!! How can it feel so close and so far away at the same time! Everythings going well here, DH jumps up everytime I make a noise (usually because of braxton hicks or just staying too long in one position). I think he's in for a loooooooong wait! I'm getting the frist trimester grumps on again, restless and lazy at the same time! But without the nausea Tiger's adorable, when I rub his back (well, what I'm 90% sure is his back!) he pushes himself against my hand. I hope he's a cuddly bubba! DH is making me scrambled eggs, gotta love him

[Tegam]

S&S: gee you sound like a normal pregnant women! Sorry but it the way it goes!

Kit hehe

[forshelby]

Dory - The bowels of hell were as hellish as I expected, hehe. The hospital was nice, though I wasn't keen on spending as long as I did there! I'm not sure what makes some guys think it's ok to let you know you're getting a bit chunky. I was kind of surprised and thought to myself 'um, yes I know, I live in my body so I'm aware it's changed.' You should see me trying to put on certain shirts these days. Let's just say I've gotten stuck a few times. LOL. I haven't used my comeback yet, but really it's water off a duck's back now. I was a bit upset at first but I'm over it now. Boys will be boys. I know what I'm capable of weight-loss wise and I know the time will come to get back to my former glory. For now, I'm just loving my tummy. How's Hannah Bear going?!

Angelfish - Argh, scary nearly having some maniac drive into you. Congrats on being 32 weeks, and I'm sorry to hear your DP is as hung up on weight as mine, hehe. It sounds so easy. Just exercise more. Try doing it with a bowling ball strapped onto your front though, and lead weights in your feet. You have my sympathy at least!!

Sunshine - Oh dear, sounds like a horrible day! I don't have much advice except maybe punch a pillow, and get yourself an artificial tree hehe. I've NEVER had a real christmas tree, frankly I wouldn't know where to get one and in the heat here it would just shrivel up and die in a week or so. I hope you're at least feeling better having a good vent and letting out some of your angst. It's ok to feel crummy sometimes, being a minister doesn't mean being perfect all the time.

Kit - Long time no see! You're almost there now, how exciting! Enjoy the last few weeks (if you can hehe) and tell DH to relax, you'll tell him when you're in labour. LOL, men.

AFM - Feeling bored and restless right now. It's hard to go out anywhere though with the christmas crowds driving me bonkers...... but staying in is really boring too. *sigh* We popped out this morning to do some shopping and I swear 20 people almost ran straight into my belly. I get it, nobody cares about anyone else anymore. But USE YOUR EYES, and if you have them, MANNERS. Mini-rant over.

[ferrals5]

Hi girls,
Home from work and i missed you so i had to pop in and check up on you all while DH is vacuming and mopping the floors.

Forshelby-OMG! take your hubby down to bunnings and into the wood department and buy him some wood and tell him to build a bridge and get over it most 1st time mums put on a lot of weight and then future babies it settles down but all that matters is you and bub are healthy.
I would gladly put on a 100kgs to have my Abbi back.
I have sooked a bit about my weight i have put on 2 and a half kilos now but because i started out 3 kilos heavier from the IVF i am actually 5 kilos heavier than normal and i feel really uncomfortable but DH keeps telling me to stop it i am pregnant and i am and always will be his beautiful girl and he will help me lose it after our precious daughter arrives i really am lucky to have a man like mine he is so loveing and treats me like a queen.
LOL the penis thing is awesome but men wont get over that type of comment us women are stronger and will take anything with a grain of salt.
I am busting out of my size 10 but size 12 is still a little loose and i can tell you i am not comfortable in my clothes i feel fat and blah!

Reet-I am so sorry about your fur baby losing a pet is heartbreaking.

Mum2ramone-congratz on being here and welcome to our nutty little pregnancy thread i know you will love it here.

AFM-I am stuffed i came home from work today and my stepdaughter gave me a xmass card that said to Abbi merry xmass i love you love from your big sister Emily OMG! i nearly cried.

[Tegam]

How did you hold yourself together ferrals?? What a lovely girl, how old is she?

Forshelby: Sorry people were bumping into your bump! No more shopping at peak times my dear!

[Melster]

hey ladies....

Just wanted to say hello and ill try and catch up on all the posts

[forshelby]

Ferrals - Aww Ikwym, I think we all feel that way about our babies who couldn't stay. I think you're doing great having only put on a couple of kilos! I'm up to 10 so feeling kind of.... blergh. I used to be a nice size 10, now I'm a 12-ish. Sometimes I just have to bite the bullet and get a 14, although it's a little big. *sigh* I'm not that worried about it, but some people do make comments! I kind of dread visiting my friends where I used to work because a couple of them make fat jokes, and some blatantly say 'you've put on heaps of weight'. Nice. Last chick who said that I told to step away from the pg lady before she got b**** slapped. LOL. As you said though, plenty of time to get back in shape after our beautiful babies arrive. How sweet of your stepdaughter to give you that card. She sounds like a really thoughtful girl.

Tegam - I said the same thing. From now on I'm going to lurk in the shadows until non-peak hour.. lol.

Melster - How are you going, hun?

[ferrals5]

Tegam-she is 9 and just loves me to bits i am giving her a sister she has been dreaming of for years god love her.

Forshelby-Im getting the other end of the stick comments oh! you are so small and gee you havnt got much of a belly and you dont really look pregnant well i have put on more weight at this stage than i did with my boys and i started out heavier so i just say look i am huge compared to my boys and my belly is big enough i am having trouble putting my socks on now lol but i love it i just think everyone has to make some kind of remark.
And i hit 68kg this morning so almost the big 70 which is what i was full term with my boys i think i will go way over that but i have a treadmill so will have to use it once bub is here.

Hi to everyone else.

[Tegam]

We all knew how clever you were Ferrals but good work on getting DSD to love you so much!