Pregnancy after miscarriage or loss ~ October 2010

Okay, ladies, I can't resist chiming in...I just got caught up again on the posts-- AFTER having a huge banana split sundae at the local ice cream shop! I am probably HUGE compared to you all-- but I need to convert the pounds to kilos or whatever measurement most of the world uses! Anyway, I can just guess that I weigh super more than you all--
and even though I am sort of watching my weight, (I don't have a ice cream sundae every night LOL!), I try not to worry.

Angelfish-- I am glad to know that you are okay. We have a lot of deer here. They really are a hazard...

Peace to all!

Audax...i can make you feel better...and you're stage with my dd...i had put on 30kilo or more!!!!!!!! i was hitting the 90's... think i started of at 68 kilo and stopped counting coz i was too scared, i think i remember some clothes being size 18...after two years i got all the weight off and was getting pretty small again and then got pregnant...(although im so grateful) i had a mc and i think i put on 5kilo and now im pregnant again!!!!!! this time i am going to try my hardest not too put on that much and continue with my gym...

Audax - I've sadly beaten my all-time highest weight by about 5kg... *sigh* I'm a size 12, but some things need to be a 14 at this stage so we'll just say 14! That's very generous of you, thanks :) Only 11 days to go?! Eeeeeeeep!

Sunshine - I dread to think what I would be in pounds.... the number is always bigger LOL, and I hate that! I think the conversion is about 2.2lb to a kg. Or google a converter if you're feeling brave hehe. If you want an ice-cream every day, go for it woman.... I was doing that at one stage. LOL

Melster - At least we all have a great excuse for gaining weight. :) I'm aiming for a maximum of 85kg.. I really don't want to go much over that but obviously baby will decide!

AFM - Had a great time shopping. Got some baby stuff, a couple of bottles, a moo-cow toy, a 'flip phone' toy, some bibs..... Oh and got myself some more larger sized clothes hehe. DP even got lucky cause I picked up some clothes for him, in particular a singlet that says 'in case of emergency, get beer from fridge'. :)

Yeah, I was brave and googled the pound to kilo converter and vice verse-- I am just gonna keep my mouth shut 'cause I am definitely bigger. Actually, the docs say that I am doing well with my weight gain-- but this week, I feel like I am eating more, and the bad stuff :) too!

I don't care what the experts say-- the older you get, the more those hips spread!

Sunshine - Hehehe, don't feel too bad, hun. I said to DP not so long ago that I thought I had wide hips before... I swear I need a wide load sign on my back these days. :)

I am doing okay my regualar ob wanted me to come in yesterday and get another non stress test then go for an ultrasound. She was not to happy when she heard that the hospitial were i had the accident which was three hours away did not keep me longer. So everything turned out fine. I got to see the baby again which put a smile on my face becosue she was doing well she would not keep her hands out of her mouth i thought that it was so cute.

I looked for a converter to change my weight but i went from a size 9 ( i have natural wide hips ) to a size 16 its mostly hips and my butt that will not stop growing.

I about have everything i think for the baby but a couple of small stuff once i see the baby at the 30 week scan and everything checks out good again i am going to get more onsies and stuff like that from what i understand you cant have enough of those.My dr told me i should have my bags packed at 30 weeks i have no idea what to pack i dont want to over pack.

Forshelby....oh defiantly...im just hoping not to gain as much this time because it was hard to get off and a very emotional time for me...what i hated was when i wasnt with my DD and just looked big LOL....30kilo was alot on me...i looked completely different....at this stage i havent been real hungry yet..i think last time i thought that coz i was pregnant i could eat what i wanted without even being hungry......im starting gym again monday

Sunshine..its good you're doing well....and there will be times we eat junk so dont worry....

Angelfish...im glad things are going well and you got to see you're baby!!!!

ATM....when my period was due i was so bloated and hard...but now the pot is still there but i dont feel as big or hard...do you think this is normal????? I had the mc 4 months ago so do you think it changes the way you feel...i havent had the bad stomach growing pains and i dont feel "as heavy" in my uterus as the others....do you think its just coz its stretched....???? Im very tired which is defiantly one of the consistant symptoms.....on and off qeezy but not much..boobs are heavy...headachy comes and goes....dont worry im just being paranoid..:wall:

Just a quick one then i will be back this arvo for persies and a catch up! :)

Melster- Dont stress!!! I NEVER got any of the symptoms that u are meant to get.. the only thing i got was tiredness and off a lot of foods.. my body stayed exactly the same.. no cramping or stretching feelings.. no heaviness.. no needing to go to the toilet all the time.. no vomiting.. etc etc etc! It still worries me that i felt quite normal but as far as i know our baby is perfect!! Ive been saying the whole time if someone were to tell me that this is all a setup and im not really pg i wld believe them! Even this morning i have woken up and my tummy is non-existant! So it still doesnt feel real!!
Cat wait to hear how u go at ur ob appointment xx

Hello lovely women,

I'm signing off for the year and just wanted to say a big HELLO before GOODBYE! and GOOD LUCK!! for all of the familiar names in here that I've journeyed with this past year. It certainly has been a rollercoaster for so many of us. Wishing you all a fantastic Christmas as new Mums and Mums to be and all the best for your births and the coming year. Thanks for the support and love and encouragement you've given me in the other threads - I've missed your sense of humour and wisdom. Lots of love to you all - Dory, Audax, MurrayCod, KitFaerie, Ferrals, T-hopes, Reet, Forshelby, Tegam and anyone else I have missed xx

Beautiful Alice! Thank you for all your lovely words of support! See you in the new year with some lovely and positive news!!!!

Alice-see ya in the new year hun all my love and wishes to you and your DH.

AFM-had my antenatal appt and all good bub measuring spot on my placenta is still really low so they couldnt hear the heart beat just the thumping of the placenta but our little lady was disco dancing while they were trying to find it so all is good.
I have been referred to the high risk specialist OB and have to see him in 3 weeks and in the mean time no heavy lifting or exercise we can still have gentle sex until we see him but if the placenta is still in the same spot in 3 weeks no sex after that i wont be seeing the midwifes after today all my appt will be with the specialist because of our genetic history with Abbi and the fact that this is an IVF baby and the dam placenta they will also be sending the babies cord blood off to be genetically tested to see if she is a carrier like us or does not have either of mine or DH bad copy of the gene.
I also will have a ceasar at 37 weeks if there are no complications and the placenta is still over the cervix so i really only have 15 and a half weeks to go:o

I had a scan today too due to sharp pains the last 3 days over the right side. My OB said after Samuel I would be at risk for ectopic as I had a fallopian tube infection 10 days after his birth and it could lead to scarring. So anyway my GP felt a firm and very painful (to me) mass so sent me off for a scan. It showed a huge corpus luteaum cyst on the anterior of the right ovary and an enlarged ovary hence the pain. But we also go t so see bub measuring 3.2mm so right on for dates of 6wks and a heartbeat of 108. I have a small bleed next to the gestation sac so I am not to do anything heavy or strenuous as I have a prior history of m/c with a subchorionic bleed.My GP also sent me for another beta and progesterone but the results won't be back til tomorrow.
I'll be back when the kids quieten down.

Angelic: Good too hear that you saw bubby! I have a huge corpus luteaum for this pregnancy after an ectopic. Not nice and yes hurt a bit! Hugs to you!

ALICE- thankyou so much for your friendship and support over the past year or so. Have the best festive season that you can. I hope your time comes too - I didn't realise about the bfn - I am so sorry. But that frostie.... is redemption. Hoping to see you in here again soon. Travel gently.

Ferals - we had a drought here in the sex department from week 7 to 37. It is survivable -just. Glad you are getting the care you need with high risk obs.

Angelic - go gently sweetie... good news for bubs on the scan. What does the other stuff mean about the cysts?

Better run, I am being summoned.

:happybirthday: 8weeks tomorrow Hannah!!!! :happybirthday:

Alice - Looking forward to hearing from you in the new year, until then, you'll be missed! xoxo

Ferrals - So a caesar it is. How are you feeling about that? 15 and a half weeks sounds so short...... omg, it is... :o hehe. You'll be snuggling your little princess in no time!

Angelicdragon - Get plenty of rest hun, I hope all turns out ok for you and your bub. Keep us posted!

Dory - I take it 'summoned' is code for Hannah wanting your attention... hehehe.

AFM - Got 2 packages in the mail today full of baby stuff. An old friend (and also my PIG) sent me some books and a cute little outfit, how awesome! :hello: Telly! Mum's package also arrived today.......... I felt crap just opening it. I don't feel right accepting stuff from her if she's going to be so nasty. Short version is this: I confronted her when she called me the other day about her excuses re visiting when bubby is born, and got pretty upset. She said she didn't have to do it if she didn't feel like it (I know.. :o) and hung up on me because I cried hysterically (and yelled at her). Do I send it back to make a point? Or is that just stupid. Either way I'm the ungrateful child and she's the perfect mother and total victim. If I keep the stuff I'm selfish, if I send it back I'm rude. In a way i can't bear to think of all the lovely things just sitting there in a box not being used.... I could just cry thinking about it. It's not the blanket/clothes's fault.... is that weird, lol. I do have a friend from work who's due in about 8 weeks... I'm considering giving the whole package to her so at least the stuff doesn't go to waste. Not really sure what to do about it all. And I'm not ready to talk to her yet after her nastiness. She's not the kind of person you can have a rational conversation with and explain why you're unhappy. She just gets all defensive and won't talk about it. EVER. Hmph!

Forshelby - hmmmph indeed... you seem to have just such a up and down rel with your mum. I say hold off on deciding what to do with the stuff... you might feel differently in a while. It won't go off! yep summoned is code.... and I am again. LOL

Tegam - thanks! Hannah bear sends you and your family and your passenger lots of hugs.

Forshelby-I'm with dory hang off on making a decision until things settle down you dont want to regret making a hasty mistake but if you still feel the same way in a few days i would say thanks for the gifts but i am still upset with what was said.
Just remember what seems a really awful thing today might not seem so bad in a few days just my opinion but you do what you need to do to feel better.
And yes it looks like a ceasar for me unless i am in the 2% that the placenta moves completely off the cervix i have my fingers crossed that as it is posteria that it moves up the front and off the cervix.

Dory-8 weeks has gone so quick where does the time go?
I am hopeing that we can get a few more weeks until we have to give up the sex but what the specialist says we will do at the moment i have had no warning signs so we will just be careful and gentle.

Ferrals - Thanks, that's great advice. I really don't think anything is going to change..... or that somehow I'll miraculously be ok with mum not wanting to be bothered with a flight so she can meet her grandchild. I need to remember though that I have to deal with things as they are, not how I think they should be or wish they were. If that makes sense. I know she SHOULD care, but she doesn't, so I have to live with that. I've decided to just sit on it for a while though and not do anything with the stuff she sent until I've made a solid decision. I guess on the up side, (about the cs) at least you will have a definite date for bubs arrival?

AFM - Had the most icky pantry cleaning dream this morning... lol. I won't go into detail but man it was gross. I was so relieved when DP called me from work and woke me up, I thought 'OH THANK GOD I don't have to finish that'. It seemed so real! In the dream, I even had to wash the cat because she got into the mess...... I can't even bring myself to explain what the problem with the pantry was, but it was alive. Let's just say that. :sick:

Looking forward to a little bit more retail therapy today, picking up some shorts and other mundane things for DP. Still, I like to shop and it's cute to see him all excited about having new clothes magically appear and him not have to shop for them. I think to treat myself afterwards I'll get myself some chinese food for lunch. *droooooool* I looove chinese. :) Hope everyone's feeling well and belly rubs to all!

ill do persies after

went to ob and he said my levels should be ober 20 to ovulated and mine was 30 and i was like ummmm im pregnant lol.....so i have to get another referal and i got back in two weeks....he said i could go back in a week but could scare me if we didnt see anything but he said you should defiantly see in two weeks....he said if he sees a hb etc it drops down to 2 percent for a mc.....i told him how scared and stressed i was and he said it wont effect the baby.....so heres to waiting 2 weeks

Oh Mel...another TTW! grrr hope it flies for you!

Forshelby: Wait dont tdo anything with the items. You dont want to give them away and then regret it! Hugs

AFM: OB, MW Scan?? this avo.....hmmmm we'll see. YAY at 33weeks, can i have my baby soon please???

everyone!

Alice - you are so beautiful! Wishing you and your DH a realxing and peaceful festive season! Im praying that the new year brings you the baby that you so truly deserve! Thank you for all your support and guidance, you are a true angel xx

angelic - praying that everything settles down for you xx

Ferrals - you enjoy that gentle sex while you can! Get cracking woman!!

Forshelby - Im sorry to hear things are crappy with your mum, very sad for you! And yeah maybe its a good idea to give them to your g/f rather than send them back cause that just gives her something else to complain about!

afm - im going good :) I cant believe im 10wks! Still so early i know but the time has flown! We saw bubs on Tuesday and the little monkey was wriggling around everywhere, flips and all! Arms and legs are waving around! The most beautiful thing ive seen! Measuring 3.35cm so a couople of days ahead but ob said that was fine! I have been keep a pregnancy journal and have found it so relaxing... i stick all my photo's in and write how im feeling and decorate it all with stickers and bright colours! Im so proud of it!!

I had my 10bt this morning so we are getting closer.... 16 sleeps till the big scan!!! Cant wait! Also... we have been using the doppler at home and its so awesome! We found bubys heartbeat on Tuesday and it was devine! We recorded it ! My MIL even has it as her message tone! So sweet!! xx

:happyforyou: T-hopes!.............16 sleeps, so your not counting or anything :)

Melster - Ugh, just when you thought this 2ww business was over... I'm sure you'll get to see a lovely hb and all will be well.

Tegam - Yes, you can have your baby soon lol. I hope your scan goes well :)

T-Hopes - yay for 10 weeks! I love that your MIL has the baby's hb as her message tone.. hehe. Very cute.

appointment was horrid. Belly measuring 28weeks, baby now in 12th Percentile... fluid still low, have to wait to see head OB on monday... Feeling like shyt!

Tegam - oh bugger that the app wasn't a breeze. By belly - do you fundus? And it's god that the fluid isn't lower ( I know still disappointing that it's not increased) Try to distract yourself over the weekend and thinking of you for Monday. Stay safe little smidge.

Melster - grrrr indeed to another 2WW.

T- Hopes - I am loving the pic of bubs! Yay - stay snug little one.

Forshelby - i had to clean up a stupid and stinking dead lizzard in Hannah's room today. Weird as the cats don't normally bring in "presents" for us. The room stinks. But LOL - I HAVE to clean up my pantry and just keep putting it off, even though I can't stand the way it is. Nothing alive in there though. Hope even in your dream the cat coped with the bath. Enjoy your shopping and chinese. What dish/es?

Ferrals - ah so no swinging from the chandeliers for you. LOL.

:confetti: Happy two months to your beautiful Hannah
Gosh they grow quick cant believe my Ella is heading towards two i dont know where the time goes feel like just yesterday she was a newborn

Tegam sorry to hear you had bad news thinking of you. must be so scary

T- hopes congrats on 10 weeks that is so cute you could turn the Hb in a ringtone i love it!

Melster - another tww for you but it will be worth it. My scan at 5 weeks was a yolk sac no HB yet but a few weeks later was a little baby so def will be beautiful for you to see that HB in two weeks

Forshelby - how did you go shopping? what did you buy today?
I agree id keep your mums package for a while yet id rather see another baby use it then throw it away. i cant believe your mum dosent want to see her grandchild! must really hurt :-(

Sorry to everyone i have missed belly rubs to all :bellyrubs:

afm 17 weeks today yah counting down to our next scan on the 7th dec only 19 sleeps to go and feeling little kicks all the time which i love so much
Where is my 2nd trimester burst of energy hurry up i am so tired all the time :redface:

:rofl: Kellbell that you think you will get a burst of energy with a toddler and being pregnant! :shhh: its a myth! But TOTALLY worth it!

Oh no you have burst my bubble i was patiently waiting for it :D

My house is a mess, was supposed to go grocery shopping and havent done anything sigh :shakehead:

Took me half an hour to get Ella dressed tonight for bed as she must know im slow i couldn't catch her!

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Oh no you have burst my bubble i was patiently waiting for it :D

My house is a mess, was supposed to go grocery shopping and havent done anything sigh :shakehead:

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But let me guess, you played a game with your daughter & made her smile when she cried!! In other words you did everything that was important!

yeah she was happy :D

What are they going to do with Smidge? Do you think youll have bubs soon
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I am scared that they are going to push me to head up to the city hospital... If they label the baby IUGR then they be wanting a quick CS....

I think ill leave it cook for as long as i can. All of mine have come early so its not long ill have to fight for its just finding the energy for the fight!

Glad Ella had a lovely day! Be proud of what you do get done, dont worry about what you missed!

I hope they let bubs cook a bit longer its not easy to fight the medical system sometimes will be worth it though everyday has got to get bubs bigger and stronger

Tegam with my last pg my OB stopped doing the fundal measurement around 30 weeks. A lot depends on which way bub is lying as to the measurement. He does a scan to check fluid as my body is notorious for slowing down after 33 wks and fluid levels drop off. Hopefully you can hold on for a few weeks more and bub can grow just that little bit more.

Kellie our toddlers are the same age :) Daniel was born March 31 2009. He was my 2nd VBAC. Amy angel Annabelle was my one and only C sec. At 31 weeks she was just perfect. Just not breathing :(

Mel you would be lucky to see a gestation sac that early. The two weeks will hopefully go quickly and you'll be able to see so much more.

For Shelby, I to owould wait until the situation had calmed down and cooled off. Maybe you could write a note saying along the lines of "I know we haven't seen ey to eye and we have had our disagreements but I thank you for the gifts for baby and its nice to see our differences tointrude on the happiness for baby". But then again I don't know the whole story so... try and chill hun.

I can't recall who asked, can't see back that far on quick reply but the cyst will gradually get smaller as the placenta grows. If however I miscarry then apparently it will just burst and quite painfully so. This pg is more and more like the one with the twins everyday so I am so worried I'll see the oB on the 29th and be booked for yet another D&C.
My betas now are 16dpo -414, 19dpo 903 (Prog 67), 21dpo 1365 (prog 53), 30dpo 6066 (prog 623). I had hoped for a higher number for the 30dpo :( Doubling time is still around the 90 hrs. I guess we just continue to wait and see. MY GP signed me over to the OB as we have a heartbeat.

I'd better go crumble some pellets and mash for the baby chickens.
hugs all and have a good weekend
Jude

tegam...congrats on the 33 weeks....

Thopes...congrts on 10 weeks

forshelby and dory...thanks...yep more waiting....

Kellbell....i cant believe ur seventeen weeks

angelic...hope things r ok with u...

Atm......im so so so nervous about the scan....i was a bit sick this morning when i didnt eat my brekki....and we want chrissie shopping today and put my chrissie tree up..so i am just plodding along

I'M BAAAAACCCCCKKKKK!!!!!

Hasn't even been 9 months since having Harper, but yep, fate has given us a lovely little treasure due for mid July.
Feeling very nervous, and keeping the news incredibly hush-hush right now, no one but BB knows actually!
Glad to be back anyway beautiful ladies :)
xx

Welcome back sunny as you can see i am still here but at least now i am pregnant and past the half way mark it will be nice to go through this with another familiar name. There have been a lot of ladies i started off this journey with 18 months ago who have gone on to have their babies and are now getting close to going again or are already pregnant seems so sureal but my little girl is completing our family so i most definately will not be back in the pregnancy thread after little miss arrives.

ferrals, it is a sheer honour to be in this forum with you, i've never not thought of you and your journey. Personally, im glad to share this time with you, its almost like being back in the TTC thread way back when. Like you, my family will be completed too :)
Big belly rubs to everyone!

Tegam - I have everything crossed your appointment Monday brings some reassurance. :hugs:

Dory - I don't know which is worse, poo or dead lizard, lol. Good to hear nothing is alive in your pantry, that dream was soo gross. The chinese was excellent, but afterwards I couldn't move for a couple of hours I was so full. :redface:

Kellie - I ended up buying some new clothes for DP, as he hates clothes shopping so much. Nothing for myself this time but that's ok. I don't know if it's that she doesn't want to see her grandchild, or if it's that she really doesn't want to get out of her comfort zone by coming to stay here on the goldcoast to do so. She's very antisocial, not that that's any excuse, but she notoriously won't go anywhere especially if there's people she hasn't met there. She's never met my DP, or my sister's husband (who she's been with for 7 years). It hurt a lot at first but now I realise it's her loss, and I don't need her around bringing me down. This is her 5th grandchild so I guess she's of the opinion that it isn't that special this time, and if it requires her to do something like travel on her own, well.... it just can't be done. Enough about her though, yay for 17 weeks, and yay for your next scan coming up! I love feeling kicks too, so comforting. I can't say I've had the 2nd trimester burst of energy yet at all... and I've only got a few more weeks of it to go LOL.

Angelicdragon - I wish the situation with mum was that clear-cut. It doesn't matter what I say or how I say it, she would rather be right than happy. I'm not going to write any notes or anything as she just disregards what I say anyway. I understand now that the baby will be better off not knowing her, and having to wonder why Grandma isn't ever here or interested in what's going on with us. When she calls, she only talks about what's going on back at home, and at the last minute gives me a couple of seconds to fill her in on a few months worth of info. And most of the time she's not listening, only thinking about what she wants to say next. Long story short, it's not worth the trouble. I don't want my baby to feel like they aren't important, and wonder why their cousins are. It's just better if it's just DP and I, a couple of aunties and uncles, and a whole lot of friends who will become like family. What's important to me is making sure bubby has the best possible 'village' around him/her, not whether or not these people are blood relatives. Turns out blood isn't thicker than water. At least water doesn't leave that bad taste in my mouth :) I think your numbers sound pretty good to me, but I'm no expert. It must be hard not to imagine the worst, since you've been there so many times before, so I'm going to be positive for you instead. :) And how cute.. mashed pellets for baby chickens.

Melster - Hang in there, woman! :)

Sunny09 - Welcome back and congratulations... :)

AFM - We went to Ikea yesterday......................................... ... let's never speak of that ordeal again, LOL. I felt like I was stuck in a line of ants, marching god knows where. The area to walk in was so small, people kept getting in my way and I felt like I was going to knock things over trying to dodge around shelves when we tried to take 'shortcuts'. It was stressful and horrible! When we finally got to the kids section, it was disappointing to say the least. Hardly anything for newborns, absolutely nothing in the way of a bassinette or anything marginally useful... it was all just decoration type stuff and toys for bigger kids. And to think we drove almost to Brisbane for that! On the up side, we did find a lovely hanging mesh canopy thing for the cot (don't know how to describe it but ykwim???) and a nightlight in the shape of the moon. That's about all the significant stuff we got there, so pretty depressing. To cheer ourselves up we went to 'Bubs' baby shop on the way home and found a PERFECT bassinette. $150, and on wheels. Bingo! So I know where I'm going next week hehe. I keep going into the nursery now and just looking at things, it's coming together so nicely, and actually looks like a baby's room. DP and I went in there when we got up this morning just to look. :) I hope everyone is having a lovely weekend, and not going to Ikea. *shudder*

Forshelby wash your mouth out!! YOU never go to IKEA on a weekend!! EVER

And its great, i love it! But i also totally love bubs baby shop, too cute and i always wobble over there to have a look!

Must abit i havent got anything for the baby at IKEA, it was all stuff to do up the kids room and it was cheep and amazing stuff. Wont be long before you need a grown up kids room!

23weeks and having the room a bit set up...its all very exciting hey!!