Hi,

I am 15wks and 4 days pregnant with my 1st child and I have an appt for an amnio Tues next wk. I really don't know whether to have the test or not?? I must admit to speaking with everyone I love; partner and father of unborn much wanted baby, Mum, sister and 2-3 friends and any professional person I know including past and present doctors, cousine who is in charge of a prenatal department in a hospital, genetic counsellor-all of whom I trust. Maybe I overdid it!!

Basically, I have had 2 previous mc's and at 41 feel that this little darling may be my last chance of a family. I have never made it to the 2nd Trimester before so this pregnancy has every chance of being the "one". I had the NT scan at 12 wks and amazingly my results came back as "LOW" risk for DS and I was told by the genetic counsellor that unless I really wanted to have the cvs or amnio there really wasn't any need as I showed results of that of a 23 yr old! This was excellent news and it gave me options that I never dreamed of as I had been prepared to have the cvs on the same day as the NT and deal with the small risk of miscarriage. Of course with this news I didn't have the cvs.

For the last coupld of wks I have felt more at ease and not so freaked out by the thought of something being wrong - well that was until a couple of days ago. I thought that I should cxl my amnio that has been booked for ages but before doing so I wanted to speak with my old dr of 11 yrs (we moved to Bris 15mths ago) and get her advice. She said what I expected and that was to have the test but I still felt really upset as I had lulled myself into this little cocoon of not having to have any invasive testing done due to my great NT results and not risking a possible mc. My old dr believes that due to my age alone and also because there was a rare chromosomal abnormality in the foetus from last years mc that I should definately have the test!

Part of me agree's as I would like to ensure that everything is ok but I am really scared about the mc possibility as small as it is. I have spoken to everyone in the list above several times and my partner (a really wonderful wonderful man) believes I should go ahead with it so I don't worry throughout the pregnancy and not enjoy it as I should but he has said that the decision is mine.

I am sooooooooo sorry that this note is so long but I would appreciate anyone writing to me that has been through the same thing. Thanks so much.