My beautiful DD is 10mths old this week and #2 is on the way.
#2 wasn't part of the plan but we are over the 2hrs crying when i first found out and are quite excited at the prospect.
My little ones will be roughly 15mths apart (if all goes to plan) and i was wondering if anyone else has kids this close and if they have any advice for me on the following:

1. Making sure my DD Ava doesn't feel left out:
She's a little too young to understand whats going on and is pretty good with kids @ MG etc but i'm not sure how she would be with me and a bubs all the time.

2. Is it as horrible as they say:
Some people i know have 2 kids under say 5, they said it was the hardest 2 yrs of their life.
Their kids still don't sleep well over night like my precious DD who is 10mths and sleeping 12hrs and their 2nd child grunts at people instead of talking.
I believe it's all about routine and being calm, will that work for me?

I try to have a positive attitude going into this, we are also looking at building a house at the moment so plenty of big decisions but i don't want to start out thinking it's the doom and gloom of my life havnig 2 so close together... PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE tell me it isn't so!