Hello everyone

I'm 32 and had my first scan on 15 Jan. The NT measurement was 3.8mm and the bloods supported a diagnosis of 1:2 Downs and 1:6 Trisomy 18 (very bad).

I was told that I would need an amnio to confirm the results, which I couldn't get until 18 Feb. So, I had 5 weeks wait until I could have the amnio.

In that time I insisted upon a second scan, which my original Dr poo-pooed. So, I went to another Dr who said that it was fine. He agreed that there are not always medical reasons for things.

Suddenly the NT measurement was 1.8mm. Completely different. Our odds went down to 1:230 for Downs, no T18 risk. The Dr was still not happy with the odds - they're not if they're under 1:300. So, after a COMPLETELY agonising and very lonely wait, I had the amnio. THEN I waited two weeks for the results, which I finally received this Wednesday just gone - NO DOWNS!!!

There is no magic pill for the pain you will be going through at the moment. One day I was good, one day I was bad. Even though I got the new diagnosis, I still had the first diagnosis in the back of my mind. Thank goodness for my Belly Buddies. So many times I was writing to them in absolute tears and despair from feeling lonely. My DH was very good, but didn't understand my anguish and the attachment I already had to our little boy.

I would also like to say that the miscarriage rates are based on worldwide figures. This includes countries like Great Britain and such. So, it is not necessarily an accurate representation of the success of amnios in Australia/NZ.

If I had to again, I would have another amnio. It's not a painful procedure and as long as you rest afterwards, you should be fine. It feels weird more than anything and is especially amusing if your DH/DP faints during the procedure because he decided to be a big man and watch. Well, he watched you first child come out of your jaxy, so this shouldn't be too bad. WRONG.

Good luck to you. Whatever you decide is right for you is the correct thing to do. Don't let people judge you - I had that.

Your odds are very good.

RommysMum, look at my first measurement - it's out of the ball park and I'm have a healthy bouncing baby boy in July. If either of you want to PM me, feel free. I'll listen to you and I understand EXACTLY what you're going through. The most important thing is to remember you are not alone and so many women seem to go through this. It's like a test of our mettle.